Should I be worried about my bfs behavior change?

[Anonymous]

Lately, my boyfriend, I have been arguing due to little dumb stuff. I’m jealous and insecure so he’s grown tired of that and my suspicions ever since we got into the argument last week, he hasn’t really been himself not as affectionate and not as loving. I was suspicious of him when he changed phones because one of his broke and he got a screen privacy protector and change the pass code so I did give him a little bit of a hard time about it even though he let me see it. But he still calls still texts in the morning but he just seems more snappy. He says it’s because he’s tired. He does work long and just got off working a bunch of Saturdays. I ended up getting upset at him about it. He said he was sorry. Text me in the morning saying good morning babe sorry for the lack of time together I look forward to the weekend so we can spend quality time even though that message was nice. He still didn’t say I love you or call me by my nickname I know he’s frustrated with me but I can’t help it think does he have someone else? Is he seen someone?

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Oh and he’s been falling asleep early for the week and not calling me my nickname or being loving

[OfMiceandMen]

You are in the trial zone. He has clearly gotten tired of the drama and is considering calling it quits. He is likely talking it over with his buddies and they will agree that is time to call it quits.

When the drama/negative meter is higher than the fun/connection meter all the time, a guy will put a girl in the trial zone. If her attitude changes and she becomes more positive and not all over him for every little thing, he will continue to make an effort.

If she doesn't lay off, then one or two weeks later, he'll say to himself, this is just not worth the effort and call it quits.

[spartan55]

Wow, it's like detailed instructions on how to run your boyfriend off... he is acting like he is because all you seem to do is accuse and suspect him of cheating, invading his privacy, and bitching at him for whatever. Would you want to deal with that? Don't be surprised if he gives you the gate if you keep it up.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Why not just communicate this with him directly? Tell him you're worried about this behavior change and while you understand he's tired, you just need him to reassure you that he still loves you by being told that. If you don't receive regular assurance of love, in a lot of cases that aren't just your own, people will assume they're not loved at all.

[CoolCatMar1]

Give it a few more weeks and if it won't change and will only go worse and worse i would suggest asking him to give his phone to you to check it, you may find it out later on yourself though. The truth always comes out.

[Asker]

I always go through his phone and that’s his issue. We been together for four years

[Juxtapose]

You wouldn't have these problems if you established very direct communication in the very beginning.

And yeah, having someone constantly doubt you is going to put you off from them. I would be less enthusiastic as well.