Guys, do ugly girls embarrass you when you're out in public together, looking like a couple?

[Bethany22]

Is one reason why you won't go out with women you think are ugly is that you are worried about how it will decrease your reputation, as men gain reputation by going out with really hot women?

[FunkyMonkee]

I, once, fell in love with an ugly girl! She was fat, had a terrible voice, smoked clove cigarettes like a chimney and wore incredibly bizarre make-up but, she was a very nice girl. I took her out a time or two and never minded anyone seeing us together.

[ArrowheadSW]

I've been out in public with not-so-good-looking women before. It doesn't embarrass me at all. It is funny that people do look at you and size you up though.

[Lliam]

I have to admit yes. I don't at all mind being in public with an unattractive female friend, but I don't want to be mistaken for a couple because, yeah, I don't want people to think I have an ugly girlfriend. It would be embarrassing. I'm being honest.

Of course, the definitions of "ugly" and "really hot" need to be defined. They are subjective. I actually think average girls are the cutest.

But I do want to be proud to be seen with my girlfriend, just as she is proud to be seen with me. My initial motive for asking a girl out was her looks. I size her up visually almost instantaneously before going any further. The main reason I rejected advances by some women was their appearance.

Once we dated and got to know each other better, I continued to date her for other reasons like personality and compatibility. I wouldn't continue to pursue a relationship with a girl simply for sex because she looked hot.

My taste isn't based on commercial standards of beauty, but she has to be cute, sexy and attractive according to my tastes. At that point, I don't care if other people agree with my taste.

[Boomchakalaca]

Agree. Its natural to look for an attractive mate first. I dont wanna be mistaken for being with an ugly guy friend either

[Sasha0426]

That’s fine as long as you’re not ugly either. It’s gotta go both ways.

[Lliam]

@Sasha0426. That's true. And again, ugly is a relative term.

[Sasha0426]

I’m curious, do you really care that much what people think?

[Sasha0426]

Are you afraid that they’ll bully you?

[Lliam]

@Sasha0426. Yeah, not so much bullying. I just want to be proud to be seen with my partner. I place value in myself. And I don't want people wondering what's wrong with me to settle for an ugly partner. I think most people understand that.

[Boomchakalaca]

Agreed, lliam

[Sasha0426]

I do agree we have preferences, and we are allowed to have them. HOWEVER, don’t you think it’s kinda sad that people care WAY too much about who you’re dating? I mean, imagine all that energy they’re wasting. If my life revolved around people’s lives like that, I would be one depressing person. And wasting my energy to please others? Yeah…I think I’ll pass on that.

[Sasha0426]

Honestly, I don’t care who you’re dating. I just hope they’re treating you right and vice versa. Also, I hope you’re not dating your partner just to get validation from others.

[Boomchakalaca]

Validation comes with its perks. As i like to be seen with a handsome dude

[Sasha0426]

As long as it’s ok if he does the same.

[Lliam]

@Sasha0426. Well I've been married for going on 27 years. So I'm not looking for dates. I was talking about when I had girlfriends, beginning when I was 16. If I thought a girl was cute, I'd date her. But I wouldn't start a steady relationship unless I liked her behavior and personality, We had to be compatible.

Can you actually say that you have no standards when it comes to the appearance of a prospective partner?

[Sasha0426]

Like I said, we have preferences. That’s including myself.

[Sasha0426]

HOWEVER, if someone assumed that I was dating a said friend I wasn’t attracted to, I wouldn’t be embarrassed. Quite honestly, I think that’s a really shitty way to treat a friend.

[Lliam]

@Sasha0426 . But that's not what I said. Read the first paragraph of my initial comment again. I'll add to it that I would treat them like a friend, not a girlfriend. There would be no sign of romance. So how would anyone mistake her for my girlfriend? And, frankly, I wouldn't care if some idiot did. Don't you think I've had female friends with whom I wasn't romantically involved?

This sounds like high school drama.

How can I be more clear? You're twisting shit. I think you're just reacting to the fact that I said I have standards when it comes to romantic relationships. And I think you're being hypocritical.

[Sasha0426]

Ok 🤷‍♀️

[Legendarylegacy13]

That's horrible. How are ugly people going to feel.

[Bricealan]

I recently broke off a long term 'relationship' with a work associate, because when we went out, she looked like she just got out of bed with little or no care for her appearance, hair, dress, make-up etc. She could have been attractive if she had paid any attention to her appearance, but she would not, and THAT was an embarrassment to me.

We had our differences, but her appearance when going out was just not acceptable and I felt she was really taking me for granted. I said 'ENOUGH"

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

No i’m not shallow like this, it is not fair to measure someone’s worth with their appearance. If i’m going out with a female friend who’s objectively ugly i couldn’t care less either, if someone would ask me if we’re a couple i would simply make a joke out of it and i couldn’t care less about my reputation. I wouldn’t date a girl who i myself wouldn’t find attractive, but i think “ugly” is a bit of a over-kill term. There simply needs to be that initial attraction, if not it’ll never work and i think basically everyone agrees with me on that. And i genuinely don’t care what people think of me when it comes to dating anyway, if i love a woman she can be purple and blue at the same time for all i care.

[GreekLorrd]

It is not fair to make assumptions or judgments about someone's appearance or to use it as a measure of their worth or value as a person. It is also important to recognize that a person's worth is not determined by their ability to boost someone else's reputation or social status.

Ultimately, what matters most in a relationship is compatibility, mutual respect, and genuine connection. These qualities are not dependent on physical appearance and are more important for building healthy and fulfilling relationships.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Pure facts.

[RavVid]

I'm unsure what is meant by ugly. I've met at most 3-4 girls that were objectively ugly. I wouldn't go out with a girl in that category because I wouldn't fuck, or want to fuck her is the simple truth.

But what is meant by ugly might be just an average girl. The imperfect 5. Or depending on how critical a person is a 6 or 7. I'm fucking or wanting to fuck for my benefit, not for anybody else. And guys don't all like the same thing. I'm pro small breasts big nipples. A lot of guys are big on big breasts.

A lot of time I'm surprised that another guy thinks a specific girl is hot.

[StormChaser838]

No , by the way you behave anyone can make out if its a co-worker , a friend or ur babe. But I have been embarrassed by the best of looking girls, I hate it when they shout and make a scene in public. I have some friends with benefits, who love to pussy whip you in public. Don't know why they do that since it belittles themselves, since after all , that is their man. They do it since they know I'll be red with embarrassment and just keep quiet and take it like a bitch. But then I get even with them, I just ignore them and if you don't give a girl attention it's the worst punishment.

[EricSummer]

No, that's fine. I can certainly mix with female colleagues or friends who are not so attractive.

On the other hand, I enjoy going to a party or to an event with a very attractive female friend. Some guys may ask me in secret if she's my girlfriend. Strangely, even women are interested to find out. If you turn your attention from your attractive friend to a different woman it can easily make her feel desirable (and you, too, by implication).

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

There’s a reason why women will view a guy not interesting romantically one day and find him interesting and attractive the other day when he actually has a girlfriend, it’s hot-wired into women as it shows that the man knows how to get a partner and so far been able to maintain it.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

sustain*

[Cooliochillman]

Personally, If I am really into her on a deeper connection and we vibe I dont care if she is not hot and we are in public.. But if she is just a fling type of deal and she is ugly then I try to keep it casual in public and where we are only laughing and talking and not touching. (A recently divorced girl tried to my her ring back on while in the middle of having drinks because girls kept looking at me and the waiter was extra nice to me lol But we were just a fling I did not like that tbh)

[richardcory]

Nah. I don't date women other people want, I date women I want. So I have no concerns about what someone else thinks of my date

[Sasha0426]

I get we have preferences, which is all fine and dandy, but I don’t think anyone should be embarrassed. That’s kinda cruel. It sucks that we care so much about what people think and we have this need to impress others when literally no one actually cares who you’re dating. If they do care that much, then they have a sad life. Also, if you want an attractive partner, you better be attractive yourself. It goes both ways.

[CB-Raido-Time]

I have never taken to someone else based on impressing others however, it has crossed my mind a couple of times it would have been nice to have a real attractive girl to even the score my ex's that did me dirty treated me like dirt both of them actually. Other than that I never cared about making any type of impressions on anyone else, I liked who I liked.

[AdithyaR]

Yeah I don't give a damn about some social construct of reputation. If I like someone I'm damn sure gonna show them off to the world as my partner.

[Mangospacho]

Wait. Is this a real thing? Do ugly girls go around in public places standing closely near guys that are out of their league so that people think they’re a couple?

[Monalisa77]

Why does anyone need to call anyone ugly, thats what i hate most about this site. you're simply just not attracted to them, it doesn't mean they're ugly or they can't find someone else who is

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

I do somewhat agree but finding people ugly is objective anyway, one person’s ugly is another person’s beauty.

[Monalisa77]

but is there any need to use that word? just say ur not attracted

[Anonymous]

Everybody does (man and woman) to some extent. How much extent depends on the person and how secure in themselves they are. To some people image is everything to some people not so much. I'd like to say all women grow out of this. But some never do.

[Jdjfjcjj]

If I think the woman is ugly, why am I out with her to begin with?

[aoihewgf]

Yes this right here. No need to hang out with any woman. If I spending time with one, it's because we either on date or in a relationship.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@aoihewgf You never go out somewhere with a female-friend? Women aren’t just there to be romantically involved with you lol

[aoihewgf]

@DamianTheSmikkelbeer what do women want in relationships? emotional connection. what do men want? shared experiences. (which includes sex).

Now ask yourself whats the difference between a relationship and a friendship? Really just sex right?

So women get their needs fullfiled in friendships but men do not. So i dont waste my time being friends with women

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@aoihewgf I guess it’s all about what you want out of a relationship, i personally want much more then just a shared experiences in a relationship and i certainly think that women want much more then just a emotional connection out of a relationship. Humans are complicated, it’s a little simplistic thinking all of this.

And for me the differences between a relationship and a friendship is that Lovers are always talking to one another about their love; Friends hardly ever about their friendship. Lovers are normally face to face, absorbed in each other; Friends, side by side, absorbed in some common interest. They are deeply committed and aren’t afraid of intimacy and to jump into hoops together, they truly see things eye to to eye facing opposites to each other. The deepest of Friendships are usually based on deep love of multiple-shared interests, relationships on the other hand are usually based on a deep connection of love shared & a deep desire for each other both physically and emotionally. Friendship on the other hand arises out of mere Companionship when two or more of the companions discover that they have in common some insight or interest or even taste which the other did not share openly and which, till that moment, each believed to be their own unique treasure (or burden) The typical expression of opening Friendship would be something like, "What? You too? I thought I was the only one." and that’s for a reason.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

And you can get fulfilled in friendships with women, if you have female-friends you’ll easier understand them eventually and will be more comfortable around all of them as you kinda start to understand their troubles and what irks them and what attracts then. See i had two sisters in the house when i was young, it was annoying to tell you the truth but i think it benefited me more then it disadvantaged me. Females are naturally more caring and nurturing & simply a little soft from the inside and will be the same from the outside if they respect & care for you. It isn’t popular for a woman to make edgy jokes such as “Your girlfriend’s getting fat bro” or a “Come on man, grow a pair” as a response to you pointing out about their annoying habits and it’s genuinely so much better. I’m not saying that women are better with this all the time, but females make much deeper & better friends then the average male does and the only exception for this is that small guy-inner circle you always hang with and use to complain about the smallest of things. And believe me, it’s not a waste being friends with them, you can be in the friendzone and easily benefit from it massively. The amount of women i got close with friendship-wise and which resulted in me getting the numbers of attractive women and their attention is worth a gold-mine.

[OfMiceandMen]

Not at all. If I am out with her it is because I choose to be and it does not matter what other people think.

[RockyHammock]

That's incredibly shallow, so no; I would still be seen in public with someone I wasn't serially attracted to

[Boomchakalaca]

Yea im not gonna date a ugly guy ✌🏼 no one should date someone they think is ugly anyways.

[Monalisa77]

Noone should think anyone is ugly. Its horrible and why so many women r insecure

[Boomchakalaca]

Im a human, its in our nature to be like that 🤷🏻‍♀️ anyone who says “nobody is ugly” “everyone is beautiful” is complete bs to feed people. Maybe i wouldn’t use the term “ugly” when i refer to them personally, but it is just basic instincts

[Monalisa77]

I didn't say everyone is beautiful, i just dont think anyone is ugly. You can have different traits someone might be attracted to, maybe we just haven't found that person yet

[Monalisa77]

As someone who is not pretty, it makes me incredibly insecure to see men calling girls ugly. Because im going to assume thats what they think about me.

[Boomchakalaca]

I normally wouldn’t call someone “ugly” unless they rlly let themselves go like, butchered plastic surgeries. Ugly can go both ways, inside and out. Well, everyone is gonna assume ur attractive or unattractive. It is the way it is, but adding confidence or exercising eating right, are all things that could make someone look better.
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[Monalisa77]

Yeh which i have zero on due to my health and im trying but i doubt its gonna change my looks

[Shy_Steve]

No, That's because I don't hangout with anyone usually.

If I did hangout with an Ugly Girl and someone mentioned us being a Couple then "Yes" I would be Embarrassed like any Guy would.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No, I like unattractive girls, they don't bother me.

[domenico07]

I don't know what u mean by “looking like a couple”. I have a few girl friends who i am strictly platonic with. Theyre not ugly but ion feel like we look like a couple. We ain't holdin hands or nun

[exitseven]

It never bothered me. I am no prize either.

[Jamie05rhs]

No; that's not the reason. The reason I don't want to go out with a girl I'm not attracted to is I don't want to cheat on her.

[PointTaken]

Don't think so. Who defines ugly anyway? Someone that's pretty to one person might be ugly to another.

[aoihewgf]

Oh please. Most men will have the same rating for for a woman as either ugly, average, hot. You subconsciously immediately decide where some girl you see for the first time is good looking or not just like the rest of us (men and women)

[loveslongnails]

That's such a sad thought, but I guess when you're 22 those things might matter.

[Legendarylegacy13]

A good point is if she or he was ugly they could still have a nice body or upbeat personality

[Anonymous]

If so, it would be a very heartbreaking thing that a guy would say.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

I doubt a guy, or at least a guy who values his friendship would ever call them ugly in their face or think of them being ugly

[Anonymous]

No. Who gives a shit what anyone like that thinks?

[Guardian45]

I am NEVER embarrassed by ANY woman I go out with. And I will f up any guy that does that.

[Fes13]

No not at all everyone is hinks I'm the chaparron or so em

[Anonymous]

You they see you with an ugly girl they consider you as a loser.

[FifiJones]

Nasty, cat-fighty is embarrasing.

[MementoMori777]

Nope I don't care about people's opinions

[TooHot2Care]

Yeah, I have insecurities.

So what?

[Anonymous]

Yeap especially tryhards likee you

[NostalgiaSenpi]

No, I never cared to flaunt much.

[EaterPeter]

You think of yourself as ugly?

[misogynistic_pig]

Yes.

[KrakenAttackin]

Absolutely.

[JamesRandiDebates]

Unfortunately, yes.

[Jmmmfi4]

Yeah