I'm very confused?

[Anonymous]

I have recently gotten closer with a work friend, we have been going out more often drinking and going on long drives. I have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend. But today he has gotten very touchy with me. He held my hand quite a lot and hugged me twice (he has never hugged me before) he then kissed me on the hand which is the weirdest part to me. He touched my hair a lot and cupped my face. I'm so confused please help.

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Update. I want to address what it is I'm confused about and it's about the guy and his intentions with me. I see him as just a friend as I love my current boyfriend and I don't hide any of this from him I told him and he is a little worried about what the other guy is doing. But he trusts me fully, I need Advice on how to address this with the other guy as I don't understand what he is doing?

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you may be feeling confused and unsure about your work friend's behavior.

It's important to remember that any physical affection or romantic advances from someone who is not your partner can be a violation of the boundaries of your relationship. If you have committed to being in a monogamous relationship with your boyfriend, then it's important to honor that commitment and avoid engaging in behaviors that could be considered cheating.

In terms of your work friend's behavior, it's possible that he may be feeling attracted to you or may have developed feelings for you. However, it's important to communicate your boundaries clearly and honestly, and to avoid leading him on or sending mixed signals.

You may want to have a conversation with him about his behavior and express your discomfort if you feel that his actions are inappropriate or unwanted. It's also important to consider the potential consequences of pursuing a romantic relationship outside of your current commitment, and to make decisions that align with your values and priorities.

Ultimately, it's up to you to decide how to proceed in this situation. Just be sure to communicate your feelings and intentions clearly and to prioritize your own well-being and happiness.

[Jdjfjcjj]

God your answers are consistently well worded and terrible opinions at the same time.

[AlexisDiani]

@Jdjfjcjj ChatGPT?

[Nikki1989]

@AlexisDiani Exactly.

[DryGermanGuy]

@AlexisDiani
Or any other text-AI. I call them zombie or robo answers, they have no soul or life in them.

[Jdjfjcjj]

The only thing to be confused about is how you two cheaters got so far, only for him to kiss you on your hand? Guess you picked the wrong guy to cheat with lol. If you see him as a dork now like I assume you do, now you got to deal with him getting all emotional at work if you stop giving him the same amount of attention.

Lol, so you doubly fucked now

[AlexisDiani]

What are you doing while he is getting all touchy? Are you telling him you have a partner and this is getting inappropriate? If you do that it will put an end to your confusion.

[Asker]

I was pushing his hands away when I realised this is weird, he knows I have a partner and he has one too.

[FreyaRed]

I hope you aren't confused if you put your finger in boiling water and you recognize it's hot.

[spartan55]

She probably would be... YEEEEOOOW! Such a troll post.

[FilmGuy93]

It's obvious that these are extremely romantic advances. I'm not sure what the source of your confusion is; it seems pretty obvious that you need to distance yourself from your coworker.

[Asker]

I'm confused as to how to deal with this situation, I don't want to upset him by ending the friendship but I also don't want to upset him by letting him think I'm okay with everything going on.

[FilmGuy93]

Sometimes there's no delicate way to set a boundary. When I've been in situations like your's, I'll usually just come out and say it; "Hey, you've done X, Y, and Z. Those are romantic advances. I'm not comfortable with that, because I don't see you in a romantic light. I want to remain on friendly terms with you as a coworker, but please know that I am not receptive to your romantic advances."

[Iron_Man]

I’ve never heard of this before you have a boyfriend, but he’s got a girlfriend I don’t understand this

[spartan55]

She doesn't care dude. She is completely selfish.

[Iron_Man]

@spartan55 horrible

[Jdjfjcjj]

I read it like that at first too haha

[Anonymous]

Confused about what? That you’re cheating? You’re leading this other man to believe there’s something there. He’s doing the same. If it’s not cheating then be up front w your boyfriend about what’s going on.

[Opinion Owner]

Friends don’t do the things you’re talking about. Why are you interested in his intentions w you? If you really loved your man you wouldn’t care what his intentions were. You’d tell him to respect the fact that you have a boyfriend. To me you’re getting a high from this, you’re not stopping it, just encouraging it.

[Asker]

I am 100% honest with my boyfriend about this guy's behaviour, what I'm confused about is why and if it is him coming on to me and how to make it stop without losing a good friend

[Avicenna]

He wants an affair with you

[Tomisworthless]

You both like each other and are cheating on your partners. If you weren’t you wouldn’t be spending time like this with him

[Asker]

Am I cheating because I went out drinking and a drive with another guy, am I not allowed to have friends that are a different gender to me.

[Tomisworthless]

Nope that’s no friends

[Boomchakalaca]

Looks like y'all both got what u wanted 😂 ✌🏼