Girls, Why do I feel shy and have a kind of fear to talk to a girl to be friends?

[MackBoy]

[SueShe]

If you are shy, you are most likely an introvert that has issues expressing yourself in certain situations.

In order to have friends, you must be proactive and find friends. They will not just pop up in your life without you being involved in the relation. Best is to join a club, take a hobby where you can meet people with similar interests.

If you are good at one specific occupation, then see if you can find a club or place where others meet that share that passion. The rest will just fall automatically into place. Sharing the same interests with a person is always a good start to get to know that person better because you have common grounds.

But you have to work on yourself first. That would include shyness and social anxiety.

You can train your approach, your attitude and expression in front of a mirror for example. Think of what message you want to bring across and rehearse it until you are satisfied. The next step is the most difficult one and that is the one where you have to put in practice what you learned and rehearsed.

But without you wanting and acting upon it, nothing will ever happen. You have to get out of your comfort zone for it to happen. The most important is not to be afraid to fail. If you are rejected, get back onto your feet and try again.

[MackBoy]

I am scared of getting embarrassed in public if she don't like me

[SueShe]

Then try to talk to her in private when there is nobody around. You know, you will not always be able to hide and embarrassment is part of life, of a learning process.

[SueShe]

Thanks for the MHO

[MackBoy]

Thank you for your opinion too

[Anonymous]

Are you shy with everyone or just girls?

[MackBoy]

I am shy with girls but I am scared to talk to people in general because I have stage fright. i am more shy with girls than talking with men openly.

[Anonymous]

You gotta just get over it if you want to level up and life. Come on, you got this. If you get rejected just move on to the next. there's too many fish in the sea

[chewyfetuschunks]

probs a fear of rejection

[modeve]

Lack of confidence and family background.