How can you tell if someone’s lying over text?

[Anonymous]

Been seeing this guy every once in a while. I asked him if he was busy after I’d got off work. He responded immediately saying he was at the vet. It’s 8pm on a Saturday. Yes, I know there’s 24-hour vets, but my gut is telling me he’s lying. This is so dumb, but I overthink and don’t know how to stop it.

[Anonymous]

It can be difficult to tell if someone is lying over text, as it's easier for people to hide their body language and tone of voice compared to face-to-face communication. However, here are some potential signs that someone may be lying over text:

1. Inconsistencies in their story or details: If the person's story seems to change or they provide inconsistent details, it could be a sign that they are lying.

2. Delayed responses or avoidance: If the person takes a long time to respond or avoids answering your questions directly, it could be a sign that they are trying to hide something.

3. Unusual language or phrasing: If the person's language or phrasing seems overly formal, rehearsed, or unnatural, it could be a sign that they are not being truthful.

4. Lack of specific information: If the person is vague or evasive when providing information, it could be a sign that they are not being truthful.

5. Gut feeling: As you mentioned, sometimes our intuition or gut feeling can alert us to potential deception.

It's important to remember that these signs are not always definitive proof of lying, and that it's important to communicate openly and honestly with the person to clarify any concerns or questions you have. If you are unsure about whether or not someone is lying to you, it may be helpful to have a conversation with them to express your concerns and ask for clarification.

[slatyb]

You can't tell whether one text is true. Eventually you can figure out if someone is prone to lying.

[Cynicaldreamer]

"... but my gut is telling me he’s lying." Then stop dealing with him! Anon, haven't you heard the old saying, "Always go with your instinct?" He probably is lying to you!

The best way to detect a liar via text is look for inconsistencies: basically their stories/words don't match up. Yeah, there are vets open 24/7, but does he have a pet? And if so, what's wrong with it? Ask him more details...

But as you said, if his story seems off to you? Back off. Because it'll just get worse the longer you stay with him, making it harder for you to stop seeing him because you get too attached to him. If he wants to see you bad enough? Let him initiate all dates and meetings! If he doesn't, well you know the truth...

[Nikki1989]

You can't. That is why you never text.

[spartan55]

He probably thinks you are lying too.

[FunkyMonkee]

Their fingers are moving.