My coworker gave me money for myself when he was buying something at work and then also called me baby?

[Supernatural_fanatic]

Is he being flirty or just one of those people who call people like honey and dear without any romantic meaning?

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to determine the exact intentions or motivations of your coworker without more information. However, it's possible that his behavior could be seen as inappropriate or unprofessional, depending on the context and your personal boundaries.

Using terms like "baby," "honey," or "dear" can be seen as overly familiar or flirtatious, particularly in a professional setting. Additionally, giving money to a coworker without a clear reason or explanation could also be seen as inappropriate or potentially crossing professional boundaries.

It's important to communicate your boundaries clearly and establish professional expectations in the workplace. If you feel uncomfortable with your coworker's behavior, you may want to consider speaking with them directly and expressing your concerns. Alternatively, you can reach out to a supervisor or HR representative for guidance and support in addressing the situation.

[Supernatural_fanatic]

Did chat gpt write this xD

[SteveSmith1985]

He is 100% flirting. No question about it. That couldn't be more clear. He is openly flirting. But giving you money for yourself is... generally "bad" flirting (insofar as its straight-up trying to impress a girl by giving her money)... unless you're talking about like a couple of dollars or something. But it is most definitely flirting. Nobody is going to do that for anybody/everybody. Couple that with also being called "baby"... and he might as well have said "I am flirting with you right now" (for how clearly he is flirting)

[Supernatural_fanatic]

It was just $5 because he was buying something that was like that much and so he gave me the money for the thing he was buying and then another $5 and said for you

[Gingerbread_GB]

Give you money? a cheeky move for a coworker. It sounds like he's flirting, but not in a pleasant way. I wouldn't want a coworker just start calling me baby all of a sudden.

[spartan55]

Pretty pushy for him to say that but you likely don't see it that way.

[Supernatural_fanatic]

I just don’t know if it’s like a common personality thing for some guys where they just refer to women like that or if he’s singling me out specifically

[spartan55]

Do you want him to? He sounds like a moron tbh

[Supernatural_fanatic]

No I have an amazing boyfriend I just want to know what’s going on so I can either cut it off if it is a flirtatious thing or if it’s just him being playful with no harm

[spartan55]

You know what it is stop playing dumb. If some girl was doing that to your boyfriend would you let him plaead ignorance? Didn't think so.

[Supernatural_fanatic]

Yeah because some girls are just like that, I know a lot who are super nice and nurturing to everyone around them without trying to date that person or anything. But thank you for your opinion on what you think it is, I appreciate it

[spartan55]

I think you are very naive if you believe that. To dismiss it as a 'personality thing' is like calling a zebra a horse with stripes. The things he is saying to you are highly inappropriate and could easily get him fired. If you think the entire situation is innocent then carry on with your head in the sand. If I were your boyfriend I would not be happy right now. (that's assuming you told your boyfriend which you didn't say)

[Supernatural_fanatic]

Well I think some people especially from the south call people honey and darling without necessarily meaning I want in your pants, I just never heard baby as one of those which is what I was asking about. I told my boyfriend and he said to be cautious basically because this guy has a criminal background as well

[spartan55]

Well, that's an interesting plot twist, how did you out he is an ex convict? I work with several dude's who have been to prison. There is a BIG difference between someone convicted of violent crimes versus those with drug convictions.
I get what you are saying about it being part of the Southern nomenclature having lived in North Carolina and Texas for nearly 30 years. Nothing about that guy suggests he is coming from a wholesome place. The giving you money thing is VERY weird. Did you decline it hopefully?

[Supernatural_fanatic]

They were for drunk driving and driving with suspended license type things. It’s a hospitality business we’re in so he gave me $5 on top of what he was buying as like a “tip” and I did decline and he insisted so I kept it since it wasn’t anything outlandish.

[Supernatural_fanatic]

Also he told me about the past record and I also did a quick Google background check

[spartan55]

Shit DUIs are pretty common in the hospitality industry.