Guys, What's something a girl can do to be more attractive or to get a guy's attention, excite him (it can be clothes, behavior, what she says) ?

[Anonymous]

[Summeroflove]

Be yourself and you’ll attract guys who want YOU! You shouldn’t be trying to impress every guy. It just can’t be done. Not everyone will like you.


Instead search for your soulmate. Sure improve yourself and become a better version of yourself. But be you. Find your style. What you like doing and the right guy will want you for that.



The same as you’ll know when you see the right guy when you see him. Don’t try to change someone into someone they’re not. It’s just not meant to be.

[Asker]

... Wise advice like from a book :)...
It's all true, and strangely enough I can tell myself the same but I don't trust myself enough yet and I constantly look for approval from others l 😔.
Yeah but I guess it's easier to get someone's attention, make someone like you wearing red lipstick and giving them an easy access to your body in general. (and you think they're actually falling in love with you.. ), it's easier then building the bond and affection gradually, this is more scary...

[Summeroflove]

Yes I totally understand I have been there too where I needed approval from others. I find this kind of love with Jesus Christ.

[Summeroflove]

Yes and if you mean easy access is sex. Yeah you’re right. Casual sex will destroy a person a man or a woman. Sex is for marriage. Real romantic love does take time to build and bond and get stronger.

I’m sure there is someone out there for you. None of us are perfect we just have to repent and do our best to do better.

[ratking63]

Be herself, takes care of herself, isn't too serious and is a little goofy. Makes it easier to approach someone, regardless of gender.

Clothes don't matter too much, but I wouldn't approach a girl that looks like a the typical Instagram model. A cute dress, something more conservative would get my attention. in my opinion the less makeup the better. Guys like to see the real woman!

[Asker]

The problem is that when you decide not to wear makeup you look very ordinarily or tired because you're the only one not wearing makeup, everyone else does. For example I'm blonde so my eyelashes aren't nicely black and pretty so without mascara my eyes don't catch anyone's attantion, they look smaller, my skin isn't smooth like everyone else's because I'm not wearing a foundation.

[Asker]

Why would something more conservative get your attantion?

[ratking63]

Something more casual, in the appropriate setting, to me personally gives off the vibe that someone is comfortable and relaxed. I'd hate to approach someone that looks anxious or something like that. But if it was like a formal event, the color red is very attractive on a girl, especially on dresses.

[ratking63]

I totally see your point about makeup. I'm not saying don't use any, just don't use too much.

[Asker]

Hmm red, yeah, it's a color of sexiness.
That's really annoying and weird how I try to 'hide' and I feel stressed when I get someone's attention. I'm too modest.
I like blue like my eyes and black dress is beautiful too and very comfortable to wear.
Someone looking anxious makes you feel anxious and scared to approach?

[ratking63]

Yeah, not because I'm scared to comfort them but it kind of makes me think "am I making them anxious?" Just me tho. Yes, a blue and black dresses are beautiful & sexy too!

[ratking63]

Overall just be yourself. In the end, that's what you want people to know you by. Don't hide your personality

[Asker]

I understand... I want to be approached but I'm too stressed sometimes that's why I try not to stand out, I play hard to get and I look unapproachable in general 😔 but it doesn't have a lot to do with 'you:

[Asker]

Very true ❤️
But since I don't have much experience I don't really hang out with people, guys, I worry about their opinion I want to be liked and maybe impress somebody...

[ratking63]

Same! I play hard to get too, I kinda have an air about me that kinda makes me look pissed off 😂

[Asker]

Air?
Haha, and I look kind of seriously and formidably

[ratking63]

Lol. Well, at least people take you as serious! Don't want to be caught lazy or something!

[Anonymous]

The best thing you can do is make the fist move and be obvious about it.

[Asker]

Should I or a guy make the first move though?

[Opinion Owner]

Doesn't matter. As long as some does it.

[BarryLiverstone]

If she’s healthy and in shape, put effort into how she looks and appears in public. Is that what you meant?

[In_Trance]

She needs to be herself. That's the best thing she can do