When guy says ”you’re very nice person and you have a good heart” , in other words he didn’t find me attractive?

[Anonymous]

Did I get friendzoned? He didn’t say I’m pretty…

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What do you think?

[Anonymous]

Sounds as though he’s not interested. Sounds as though after he said all that, there’s a “but” after it. You have a nice heart but you’re just not my type. He’s trying to be nice because he knows he’s going to disappoint you so trying to soften that blow there by pointing out some of your nice qualities.

[Asker]

After out first date he said he doesn’t think we should continue because our life goals don’t align. Do you think that was just an excuse?

[Opinion Owner]

It could be. Did he know what you looked like before he met you? Maybe he just didn’t like your personality.

[Asker]

He said after the date that I’m very nice
Person. We were chatting daily for 2 months before we met

[Opinion Owner]

So he never knew what you looked like? Yes it could have been an excuse that he really didn’t find you physically attractive. What were his life goals?

[Asker]

He did saw my pictures though

[Asker]

I told him I want to move abroad in 10 years… (I was hoping we could move together abroad one day) I also told him I want to maybe study more in our local university and get better job. He on the other hand seemed like he wants children soon and big family. I did told him that I want big family too.

[Opinion Owner]

So what did he say his life goals were? What are yours?

[Asker]

Read my earlier reply :)

[Opinion Owner]

I think o talked to you the other night already. Said maybe he is telling you the truth

[Asker]

Were our plans really that different in your opinion?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I think they were. You wanted something sounds like it later down the road whereas his sounded more like w in the near future

[Asker]

What I wanted later down the down?

[Opinion Owner]

You want to move abroad. He doesn’t sounds like it n he wants a family in whatever country you two are in not another country

[Asker]

When I asked him about what life plans didn’t align he said ” just in general they don’t align”

[Opinion Owner]

So either he was telling the truth or just didn’t like you physically speaking or your personality

[Asker]

But he didn’t want to go into details?

[Opinion Owner]

He doesn’t need to. I think regardless of what the truth is he just wasn’t into you. Again maybe that was the truth. I think you just need to let it go.

[Asker]

If it just about life goals I could’ve made compromise..

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sure you could have but he didn’t hear what he wanted to hear at the time or he wasn’t into you physically speaking.

[Asker]

What do you mean by this ” I’m sure you could have but he didn’t hear what he wanted to hear at the time ”

[Opinion Owner]

You told him your plan n he told you his. He didn’t like what he heard so you weren’t for him

[Asker]

What are the chances that he starts to miss me and reaches out?

[Opinion Owner]

Most likely won’t. Especially if this wasn’t a relationship that was less than a few months.

[Asker]

by the way I removed him from my followers. My instagram page is public. I noticed I male fake account (based on their name I assume is male) is viewing my instagram stories. Do you think it’s him?

[Opinion Owner]

Why is it so hard for you to take what I’m saying at value. It’s like women want to be lied to. Me lying to you isn’t going to change what he’s probably thinking. You’re grasping at every string to say oh what about this or that. Let it go. If he comes back he comes back but don’t make this your life that you’re only focused on it.

[spartan55]

Still won't let this go eh? If you are like this after ONE DATE I wonder what a relationship looks like with you? 😳

[laraWM]

No I don't think it is enough to tell. If you want ask him out and you'll know

[Asker]

Would guy say that any girl?

[laraWM]

Yes why wouldn't he?

[Asker]

Was our life goals really that different for him not to continue to see me anymore after first date? He gave me those compliments while saying our life goals don’t align.

I told him I want to move abroad in 10 years… (I was hoping we could move together abroad one day)
I also told him I want to maybe study more in our local university and get better job. He on the other hand seemed like he wants children soon and big family. I did told him that I want big family too.

[laraWM]

You only had one date? It seems a bit too much to solve for one date. You both need more time

[Asker]

Need more time in what way?

[Asker]

Do you think he just needs time to think?

[laraWM]

Yes I mean you probably don't know each other very well

[Asker]

But he broke things off..

[laraWM]

Then let him go if you feel it doesn't worth it anymore

[Asker]

What so do you suggest that I do? I reach out to him?

[laraWM]

Yes nothing to lose

[Asker]

by the way is it done deal that he’s made his mind. He said to me” I’m very sure that you’ll meet your soulmate one day” “ I really believe that you’ll meet more compatible person”

[laraWM]

Yes maybe, but if you like him then you can tell him and try again

[Asker]

I’m really scared that it would be desperate or I look like crazy. Because he’s a guy that I went with only one date…

[laraWM]

Did you ask him for second date?

[Asker]

Yeah that’s when he said our life goals don’t align etc

[laraWM]

I personally would try to tell him again I really like him but if he says no again there's not much you can do.

[Asker]

Do you think he speaking the truth about the life plans don’t align?

[laraWM]

Maybe yes, or he needs more time. Hard to tell for sure

[Asker]

We’ve been no contact 2 weeks now…

[laraWM]

I'd say follow your heart and see what happens

[LiamJHayden]

Depends upon the guy. Those two things are the primary keys for me to consider a relationship. For other guys, it is probably a brush off.

[Asker]

Was our life goals really that different for him not to continue to see me anymore after first date? He gave me those compliments while saying our life goals don’t align.

I told him I want to move abroad in 10 years… (I was hoping we could move together abroad one day)
I also told him I want to maybe study more in our local university and get better job. He on the other hand seemed like he wants children soon and big family. I did told him that I want big family too.

[Asker]

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