If a guy says “I feel like you don’t want a relationship so I don’t want to get my hopes up”?

[Anonymous]

I said I feel like all you want from me is sex

and he said well I feel like right now you do not want a relationship with me I said that’s right I don’t and he said well I don’t want to get my hopes up

But the thing is I do I just can’t take him seriously when we only hang out at his house

[spartan55]

Why are you saying you don't want a relationship when you do? I swear you girls are so weird. You can't take him seriously? Why would he take YOU seriously when you tell him you don't want a relationship. He is following your lead right now. It looks like you are determined to blow it somehow.

[RespectfulGuy]

Girls give sex to get love; guys want sex before showing love.

I you agree, then you'll notice that your question and details are the same, from the perspective of a guy and a girl.

[Anonymous]

Tell him that
Say you need to be taken seriously and house dates don't cut it for me anymore.
Say you want a real date. No drinks.
Maybe his house is all he could afford. Would you really be happy with that... down the line. In the future?

[Asker]

Unless he doesn’t want to take me on dates because he doesn’t want to get his hopes up about a relationship or that seems like bs?

[Opinion Owner]

Girl.

[Asker]

What? You think I’m making excuses for him?

[Opinion Owner]

Why ask for help if you keep going around what I'm saying

[Asker]

I hear you girl, it is good advice I need to be honest or just leave him alone till I meet someone else

[runnerboy]

It sounds like he wants sex more than anything. Is that happening? Sit down and talk about where you each want the relationship to go.

[Asker]

Unless he doesn’t want to take me on dates because he doesn’t want to get his hopes up about a relationship or that seems like bs?

[runnerboy]

I tend to agree with you. Dating is part of a good relationship. I'm kinda new to sex (and it was great by the way) but dating is way fun also... your thoughts?