Why is he ignoring me but is also nervous around me?

[Anonymous]

I think this is quite a complicated case. So I had a thing with this guy last year (almost got into relationship, with him promising, being romantic and stuff) but he decided to end it as he was not ready for serious relationship (kind of like being led on?), basically he gave me a choice to either be his friend or not, and nothing more than that. and now it has been like almost 8 months since this happened. And I notice that all this time he's been ignoring me, looks angry but is also quite nervous around me. Like when I pass by him close ,(we are classmates), he would suddenly take a deep breath and sigh. Or whenever we walk pass each other from opposite direction he would rub his neck and hair and look nervous while looking up and down. Only in group discussions in class that he normally responds to what I say and help but I think that is due to the teacher's participation. But he can communicate with others like normal outside class. When my friend or anyone say hi to him, he said hi back. But when I said hi to him, he just raised his hand and waved it, and then look down to the floor. But when he sits in class near me he would aggressively rub his hair, his face, fix his cloth, rub his arm, keep sliding his hand through his legs and rub his shoes. Sometimes my friend caught him stealing glances at me. But the thing is, whenever he said something to me (which is outside of class and rare, due to needs), he sounds quite angry. He can be quite friendly to other people but not quite to me.

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Edit : We have been ignoring each other since that happened.

[honestanswersonly_]

Im in a real similar situation. I asked a gag days ago about it. Jus not class mates as i see her at the bar she works at. In the kitchen. Not a bar server. A couple days ago i decided to cut her out. No more games. She acts similar. My opinion with Your gag is he prolly regrets not getting with you cos he is scared of being hurt. he's confused nervous sad etc. If you ever see him like standing or sitting alone go up and say hi. One on one.

[Asker]

You mean she led you on? And who left first, you or her?

[Asker]

Sometimes this guy looks mad at me or nervous. And like 2 or 3 months ago I tried to say hi to him but he just raised his hand, not a word. Like he doesn't want to even utter a word to me.

[Asker]

Is this his hatred to me?

[honestanswersonly_]

I dont no if she led me on. she's never been in a relationship before. Me and her eventually got physically close, no sex. She introduced me to her parents. Then one day month ago she like got scared after saying its scary how close we got. A good scary. She stop trxting me. Said she needs time to her self. I dont get it

[In_Trance]

This is simple
He's not interested
Any guy that tells you he's not ready is lying. Guys (and girls) are always ready if the right person comes along
When a guy tells you "let's be friends", it's to keep you as an option should all others run out.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Ignoring - has nothing to do with having interest into you.

From my experience, when a man is into you he will try his best to show it to you, to remind you, he’s there and thinking of you, if that’s not the case - that guy doesn’t see your value and thus, isn’t worth your time.

I suggest you don’t lose any more time thinking about him.

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Good luck 🤍

[SnowedIn]

He does not want a relationship with you but still thinks about you.

Move on.

[MeatPuppet]

Anxiety. He's ignoring you because he's nervous around you. Shyness and social anxiety in men can make them look aloof and even arrogant and irritated.

[EssenceOfLight]

I behaved that way with 13 around art teacher who wanted to fu** me. I knew it's wrong but I was attracted to do that with her. She was hot I had to do that, if I did it were just few months sooner.

[Asker]

So you liked her then? What makes you ignore her and not talking to her?

[EssenceOfLight]

I was confused and afraid of her proposition to paint her naked in her flat after school when she kissed my neck and put her tongue deep inside my ear. I was a 13 yo. boy with zero sexual experience.
I liked her later because she gave me always good grades. It took just some time until I've go a little bit educated in this topic with girls in my age.

[spartan55]

I think most of this is in your head tbh. Why does it matter since it was 8 months ago?

[Asker]

But he still looks kind of nervous around me tho. I try to ignore him by looking down too.

(It matters cause I still have some feelings for him, and besides that I am curious.)

[spartan55]

Guess you'll have to learn on your own.

[jujus]

I deal with the same stuff. Used to go visit this 1 girl every weekend until I stopped going, now when I see her at public gatherings she acts like she hates me or something acts totally different