Why he doesn't want to live with me?

[Anonymous]

Here is the story

2 years he was flirting with me at work, while being married.

She sent him to jail

He came back, continued to flirt (he wasn't living with her but in another house)

After 1 year i accepted first date

(All this while working together, till this days)

Had 2 dates... after second it was a month gap before 1st sex

Now its 2 years oficially dating

No talks about living together

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to say for sure why your boyfriend doesn't want to live with you without more information about your relationship and his personal circumstances. However, there could be many factors at play, such as:

1. Personal preferences: Some people simply prefer to live alone or value their independence, even in a committed relationship.

2. Past experiences: It's possible that your boyfriend may have had negative experiences with living with a partner in the past, and may be hesitant to repeat those experiences.

3. Financial concerns: Living together can be a big financial commitment, and your boyfriend may not feel ready or able to take that step at this time.

4. Relationship dynamics: It's possible that your boyfriend may have concerns about the dynamics of your relationship and whether living together would change things in a negative way.

It's important to have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about your feelings and expectations for the relationship. You could start by expressing your desire to live together and asking him about his own thoughts and feelings on the matter. It's important to listen to his perspective and to try to understand where he's coming from, but it's also important to communicate your own needs and expectations for the relationship.

Ultimately, it's up to you to decide what is best for your own well-being and to make choices that align with your values and priorities. If you feel that living together is a non-negotiable aspect of a committed relationship, it may be necessary to consider whether this relationship is meeting your needs and whether you are both compatible in terms of your long-term goals and values.

[BoopBoopBeep]

No one includes you, so if you've not brought it up you've nobody but yourself to blame. If you DID bring it up, you didn't tell us how it went, so it's really impossible to give a good answer at this time.

[Asker]

I didn't mention it to him

[BoopBoopBeep]

Ok so you didn't bring it up with him, he didn't bring it up with you. What's the difference?

[Asker]

Once he said living together is very hard he had very bad experince with his ex wife

[BoopBoopBeep]

Then THAT is why. You already got an answer from him. How would we know more than he does?

[RHK36]

You don't see his flirting with you while married as a red flag? And you're still wondering why it's not getting more serious? Lady if you're willing to be this blind, no advice is going to help your refusal to look at reality right in front of you.

[Asker]

At first it was like ajoke
He never cheated on his wife
He only got serious with flirting when he left her

[Asker]

Instead of insulting me you could explain it to me