He said he doesn't want to live with me?

[Anonymous]

I know him for 4 years

2 years dating and he said living together its problematic and he had bad experience

He was in marriage for 20 years she was a drug addict, cocaine, crack, she was cheating on him she was beating him

She put him in jail, lying he beat her

Before that he was breaking up and coming back with her everytime

After knowing she cheated she was fucking men and women she was stealing from shops and each time (4 at least) after break up he was coming back to her and lived with her

And now he says he is afraid to live with another woman.

Im a total opposite from her

I dont understand

[DaveJord]

Dude does not feel comfortable about it, and he is being honest with you. I do not know what to tell you, if you cannot understand that... but you got to do what you got to do. Sounds like he is not wanting the same type of relationship that you want with him, so that's a problem. So, you need to have that conversation with him. I mean you are 30-35 and you are looking for something more than that, and if he is not then you got to start considering where you stand in the relationship and what you really want for yourself. If he is not able to understand that then you need to do what you need to do.

One would think he would understand that and want to work it out, but if he doesn't then you got to do what you got to do.

[Asker]

he invited me to his country
and now what... he pretends me to go there on my own
thats fucked up

[DaveJord]

Yeah, screw this guys.. something is not right.

[Asker]

Why you think

[DaveJord]

4 years and live in separate countries.. seriously I would move on.

[Guy13]

Once shatters like he was it is years, if ever, to recovery and act normally again. You should expect the same in other areas of the relationship too.

[Asker]

I dont get it
Sorry
Not native English speaker

[Guy13]

Okay. He will hurt you badly. He has never moved past the old. He can not embrace the new. You deserve better man than him.