Guys in relationships, why do you 'like' other women's selfies?

[Anonymous]

I'm not talking about your family members or close friends. I'm talking random girls from your hometown, girls you've barely/never spoken to, etc. Why do you react to their photos knowing your partner would likely be upset?

[slatyb]

I do this all the time. I compliment other women too. Why not? It brightens their day. My wife is secure in our relationship and it doesn't bother her. Those women aren't available to me and even if they were she knows I wouldn't leave my marriage to be with them.

If my partner were likely to be upset by that, I would find a new partner. I have no patience for people who try to use their insecurities to control other's behavior.

But that may not be the whole story in your case. What does your partner do to make you feel secure in the relationship? Does he compliment you?

[Asker]

Thanks for this perspective.

He does compliment me, but to be honest, after I see he's liked another woman's pictures it makes me even angrier when he compliments me/tries to touch me afterwards. These women never look anything like me, either, so it always stings. I'm not an unattractive woman by any means, but it still hurts.

[slatyb]

Does he do anything to deliberately make you feel insecure in the relationship? It sounds like this is all internal to you. Before you blow up this relationship over behavior I feel is normal and non-threatening, you might try to get some counseling and talk through your insecurities.

Or I could be wrong.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

Never done it. Won't ever do it. Don't even browse womens' photos online either and don't watch their videos. z

Social media is just full of half naked girls prancing around and posing in all the same stupid poses. I avoid interacting with that as much as possible.

[magiusX26]

dont have to be in a relationship to understand why. just because someone is in a fully commited and working relationship does NOT mean others of their potential sex partners gender all become neutral in looks/appeal or hideous. that is like saying "because i am a proffesional chef and cook at home, you are not allowed to like any other food ever again". expecting yoyr S O to not like (as in click a "like" button on the internet is a mix of insanity, insecurity, childishness (think 2 year old mentality) , egotistical, narcassistic, and controling.

[OfMiceandMen]

Not sure, why a guy would do that? Why intentionally do something that could piss off the person you are with?

Something like that would never cross my mind... if I don't know the girl, then I'm not about to like her selfies... that's just way too creepy!

[Ascelin]

I've never dated someone that's bothered by me liking someone elses pictures. but if I was to date someone who didn't want me to I'd simply stop. but normally I'll like any post if I think someone looks cool or has good fashion. I never like thirsty stuff either way.

[LiamJHayden]

I do not. In fact my entire attitude about excessive selfies can be summed up nicely by

[nolabels]

I've never received such a thing.

I'm of an older generation.

I'm not dead, though.

A "selfie" would be welcome! 👍😊

[Khronuskeeper]

Have you ever looked at a sunset, garden, car, dress or maybe even a guy! And just thought, "wow that's pretty, I like that" That's why I like photos on social media. Because I like the photo.

[strateguy632]

we mark like kuz we DO like, and give compliment. we dont think our s. o. is watching what we mark like and will feel jealous.

[spartan55]

If you didn't put as much value on social media this would'nt be a issue.
But girls think social is reality and worry about stuff like this.

[UnknownSwede]

When you post pictures on social media. Do you make sure that only straight women likes your pictures?

[In_Trance]

Get off his social media

[BarryLiverstone]

The guys enjoyed seeing the pic. How does it feel seeing the likes?

[barn_stormer]

cuz they're hot. if you get upset, that's your problem.

[KrakenAttackin]

Girls in relationships, why are you constantly posting inappropriate, half-naked, pictures online?

[RavVid]

I would react as I do to any photos of females.

[pass_the_celery98]

I wouldn’t do that, I think that’s wrong.

[Jmmmfi4]

It's not a big deal

[Anonymous]

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