Me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for 3 months now. After like a month he started being very nice and lovey one day or for a few days and then very dry and cold the next. I’ve talked to him about it and said that I have a feeling like he’s not fully expressing himself and his feelings and feel like he’s holding back. He never really replied anything in return that made sense so we just kinda kept going. Now I’ve come to a point where i obviously can’t take it anymore and I want to know why he treats me good one day then is cold the next. Turns out he truly believes that if he is “too good” to me and “shows me love eveyday” that I will leave him for being “too nice” because “that’s how we girls like it” or that it will get boring. I've said to him that im literally telling him that I’m not like that and pretty much begging him to fully express himself, his feelings and love. He won’t listen and says that I’m not right and that the whole one day you get it next you don’t is what has kept me here so far. I then truly said to him that I cannot stay with him if he keeps doing that and the whole point of us communicating this is the fact that I won’t stay if he keeps it up. So it’s either he is in a relationship with me and acts like it or not. No playing games. I even said that I understand that he is scared and that I would have patience and help him. I tried to tell him that I won’t leave. I don’t know what else to do or think. I could also see that when I said all that he truly thought “oh shit she is serious about leaving” and has tried telling me that its my decision to make but I’ve let him know that “Either we get through this together or you stay stubborn and lose me”
Boyfriend won’t treat me right because I will leave him?
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Is this an online only relationship?
No. We are 2 hours and 45 minutes away from each other. We try to see each other every weekend, mostly because we both work full time jobs under the week.
Your significant other shouldn't be such a headache, much less a headache you see maybe twice a month. Is there at least a plan for one of you to move to the other?
Well not really. The distance isn’t the problem or the amount of time we spend together. Like I said we try to see each other every weekend and we sleep together in conclusion almost every Friday Saturday Sunday sometimes even till Monday. And of course there is plans and conversations about the future.. i just don’t really see how this is relevant to my question
So first it was every other weekend, now it's every weekend? Which is it? Relationships should bring happiness to your life. Is yours? If you are threatening to leave over the way he treats you then that is a crap relationship. And say what you want, but being with someone daily is completely different. I think you know you need to end it, but just don't want to be alone, which is pathetic.
So leave him, he's not worth anything.