Why would a man be terrified of a woman?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy through a friend and asked if he could help me with car trouble and he helped me. But anyway he's cute asf and so I asked him do you got a girlfriend and he said no and I asked how long you been single and he said 5 years. And I asked him why and he said because people have forgotten what the meaning of a relationship and what true love means and he also said he loves women he's not gay but he's terrified of women so again I asked why and he said his last relationship he caught his ex cheating on him and she claimed that he raped her causing him to loose everything which I get that sucks but why be scared of women?

[Anonymous]

So it’s no so much that he’s scared of her physically speaking like she can kick his ass. Most men are not afraid or intimidated by women. He’s talking about the same concerns I have for my younger son who is 17. A concern that some girl may accuse him of something when it’s not true. She may claim he abused her like his mom did to me when we were younger. Make up some rape allegation because he cheated on her or dumped her. Men these days don’t want much to do w women because a lot of them are garbage. Meaning they want to act masculine, they try to justify sleeping around as empowerment, we don’t need men type of attitudes, etc, etc. I wouldn’t want to date these days either listening to the stories I hear, the shit that a lot of women pull. Men don’t want marriage in fear of losing everything they’ve worked for. A lot of women say men are bad, garbage, trash, but women too are really selfish. They want equality but only in the areas that benefit them. But they want to play the damsel in distress when it comes to their benefit. I think a lot of women are childish, are never really held accountable for their actions.

[Finchie40]

I pretty much went through the same thing with my ex , and exes , minus the raping part , But based off my experiences with girls, most Girl’s are selfish people that only really care about themselves , Most girls’ expect a man to do for her but she doesn’t feel she has to do for him , when a girl doesn’t get her way in a relationship, she will either end the relationship or screw someone else, she is capable of setting boundaries in a relationship but not capable of following the same boundaries she set for her partner , For a relationship to last and for love to grow both partner’s have to remove selfishness for each other or the relationship will not last. Whatever you tell your partner not to do, that has to go for you as well or the relationship will turn one sided , You can’t expect someone to do for you , if you can’t do for them , My ex would always throw a fit if I went out with my friends that she didn’t like , so I distance myself from those friends out of respect for our relationship, but when I told her I didn’t like some of her friends, my feelings and concerns didn’t matter , she choose her friends anyway, which caused a double standard. Most guys in general want a girl that stands by his side no matter what , that is loyal to him and loving to him , that doesn’t hesitate when it comes to intimacy and affection , That prioritizes him the same way he does for her. Most girl’s don’t think intimacy and affection is that important in a relationship, most girls will use it to their advantage to get their way , When a girl starts using intimacy and affection to get her way , Her partner is more than likely going to look elsewhere or end the relationship with her. Most girls don’t grasp the concept of boundaries and respect in a relationship period. it’s her way or no way and that’s why most Guy’s do not want to get into relationships anymore , Cuz most girls are selfish people

[D_Bone_Steak]

I fucking felt every word of this... this is some real shit. You hit the nails on the head. Those double standards is where the problems start. I've gone through it and watched a lot of friends go through it.

[Finchie40]

I experienced this and witnessed this shit to many times my man, to the point it changed my whole outlook on love and relationships to realize my own worth , I no longer settle for a girl that doesn’t wear my shoes like she expects me to wear hers , I no longer jump into a relationship with a girl until she climbs a lot of walls and proves to me she isn’t a selfish pos cuz sadly most of them are so I only give what I want to receive , if I am not receiving what I am giving she is best to keep walking , Thanks for a good time but not a long time , I no longer chase a girl when she decides to be selfish , i will express my feelings of concern and walk away , Most girls do not know how to be respectful in a relationship , most girls’ will compare you to other men or compare
You to their exes , she will say things like you are being insecure , you don’t trust me , if she starts saying shit like that to you she know longer respects u, It has nothing to do with insecurities, it comes down to disrespect, she only cares about what’s best for her period. If she can’t sacrifice and remove selfishness for me , I sure as hell won’t do the same for her , it needs to go both ways or it isn’t going to work , if she finds another guy or screws another guy, I would shake his hand and say thank you man , you can have her , but do yourself a favor and kick her to the curb once you are done fucking her because that’s where she belongs. To a brother to another brother I warned his ass , I been on both sides of the spectrum plenty of times , Meaning I been the devoted loyal loving husband and I also been the other guy Most girls are never satisfied , they don’t know how good they have it until it’s gone , let them go man , they are not worth your time or energy , When a girl truly loves you she will be submissive to you , if she stops being submissive to you , she is being submissive to someone else , Kick her ass to the curb she is not worth your time

[Finchie40]

The truth is , I hate being this way , but I realized I have no other choice , I am tired of having my heart shit on by selfish girls period , that do not know the true value of a relationship, Most these girls’ need to open the Bible instead of opening Facebook and Instagram and tik tok , etc.. and focus on what they already have in front of them instead of focusing on what they don’t have that’s clearly one of the main reasons Most girls’ fail at relationships, they are easily drawn and vulnerable to things they don’t have , Do not settle for a girl that does not want to be a team partner to you, do not settle for a girl that is only after your money , do not settle for a girl that can easily jump from cock to cock , do not settle for a girl that doesn’t make you her priority , you will only be digging your own grave my man , us Men need respect , if a girl can not respect you , you will not be able to respect her period, the main reason a guy might cheat on a girl is because she only cares about herself , Most men will not cheat on a girl that stays loyal and faithful to him , that doesn’t withhold intimacy and affection from him , Most girls need a man she can look up to if she isn’t getting on her knees for you she is getting on her knees for someone else , make it clear to her that you will not tolerate her selfish behavior and show her the door and tell her don’t let it hit ya in the ass on the way out , do not chase her , make her chase you

[catiecatie]

So I have a big crush on this one guy. Very cute and is willing to help me for my test coming up, which I need to text him some questions about it tomorrow. Anyways he’s very cute and looking into his social media I haven’t seen a girlfriend for awhile, so same boat about 6-7 years. But that doesn’t mean he doesn’t have one. Anyways he seems interested in me but I will have to wait to ask him out because I don’t want to come off too clingy or anything, but my cousin says the reason why men don’t want to commit is because the woman are willing to change the guy for themselves. Cheating can be a big factor as well, but not wanting to put yourself back out there man that sucks. Lol hopefully we aren’t talking about the same guy though.

[SueShe]

He gave you all the answers to your question.

What happened to him 5 years ago may have been a pretty rare event but nowadays, everyone cheats on everyone and he simply does not want to be caught in the middle on yet another cheating story.

Women, just like men are no longer angels and their sexual hormones do the talking in a relationship and no longer reason.

I fully understand him and given his rather negative experience, I would react the same. If his story is true, then a woman ruined his life and his belief in women. Nowadays, it seems that faithful people are the exception rather than the rule.

[DaveJord]

I do not think terrified is the right word, but as a man that's been through a lot in his own relationship, I definitely have a healthy respect for women! LOL

I have been put through the ringer, and every time now days when I meet a woman I have to do that math in my head and ask myself is this one really worth it?

Like do I still have the same energy and motivation I used to have when it comes to women... and honestly something has changed inside me when I think too much about it.

I totally get why that type of thinking can lead you down dark paths. But at the end the day everyone is different and not everyone has the emotional capacity to be actively dating.

This guy just sounds like the last woman crushed his soul.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Did you miss the part you just wrote about "he said his last relationship he caught his ex cheating on him and she claimed that he raped her causing him to loose everything"

Stubbing your toe sucks. Losing half your ist for something you didn't do is a different level.

[provokeesmokee]

Oof...

Dude, do you know how bad a false rape allegation can be? No wonder he is terrified - he could've had his whole life ruined.

He's doing well if he avoids women who don't understand why he is as hesitant as he is.

He's not the one for you. At least not until you both do extensive therapy.

[DextroShade]

He literally just told you why he is scared of women: his last girlfriend cheated and falsely accused him of rape! Thanks to #metoo a single accusation made with zero evidence can ruin a man's life because even if he doesn't go to jail he can still lose his job and his social standing. I don't blame the guy for being MGTOW. This is the world feminism has created, and it's a shitshow.

[D_Bone_Steak]

So you talked to a dude that lost everything to a piece of shit woman and you're still wondering what would make a man done with the idea?

I guess it's just not noticeable to some women.

[Kiss_Me]

People in general have lost the meaning of character, morality, and ethics. They think they can fuck with impunity, lie, cheat, and steal whatever they want. Then they get angry and cry "victim" when they can't get away with it.

The guy in your post experienced a female personification of this.

This is why I always encourage everyone to date just for fun, not relationships. It gives you time to see if they are worthy of your continued attention. Most will not.

[Sexiestjohnson]

Not everyone can endure the emotional injuries of wrong love. Personally, my fear of women is a bit different. I saw a beautiful woman in a dream that felt like Jezebel or Babylon or Fear and I took off. Prior to this, I wouldn't even run away from gun, bomb, knifes or gang clashes. But women scared me 😂

[OfMiceandMen]

Being accused of rape, when you didn't do it, would be like someone peeing in the pool. You're not up to just diving back in again.

So I can see why he would be terrified... that is a particularly bad experience.

[Noodle_fan]

it is obviously not your fault , i think it is better for him to be single for now , because he is clearly not ready to has girlfriend again yet

you probably won't believe that a guy , who is mma fighter , actually scared of girl

https://www.youtube.com/embed/YEeDYHtz5fs

[Shy_Steve]

I don't blame him I would be terrified aswell if that happened to me.

It's like if you were raped by a Guy, Would you be afraid of Guys for a while?

Just keep showing him you would never do something like that and he will warm up to you.

[spartan55]

Apparently you weren't paying attention because he clearly gave you the reason.

[ARWINGx1]

Although I could've given my 2 cents on why I'm "scared" of being in a relationship, the short version is that my autism/Asperger's are the biggest "contributor" to that.

[boggboss]

How can he give u the reason and u still don't understand why he would be scared

[devilish-cutie]

he is scared of being hurt by a woman cause thats what happened in the past, so he is having hard time trusting another one

[abc3643]

She's a lot bigger than him.

[Jazzy54]

He told you… He was cheated on. Men have feelings, too. Don’t forget that. Maybe that traumatized him and perhaps he doesn’t trust women as easily anymore.

[LiamJHayden]

Well sometimes they are terrifying

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[Juxtapose]

Hel literally told you why. When people are burned they take measures to make sure they don't get burned again.

[jshm2]

Simple and naïve people like you, are why he's terrified of women. You're so oblivious.

[Christoff92]

Probably think women are evil 😅🤣