Why would a man be scared of a woman he is interested in?

[Anonymous]

Whenever we're in the same room he seems so afraid.

He's afraid he might come off too sexual and awkward.

He's afraid he might come off too awkward.

He's afraid he might come off too sexually motivated.

He's afraid of his feelings - too strong and confusing.

Something else - please explain below.

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by the way., we have spoken before, we are quite good acquaintances.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Everything you listed.

Also STDs are scary, does he know if you are clean or not?

Pregnancy is scary.

Being a afraid you might fuck up and scare off a person you like is scary.

Society has also made it scary for men to do anything with women, because no one ever believes the guy's story about what actually happened, only the girl's story.

Without any situational context, it's impossible to say.

[Asker]

We're really good acquaintances, almost friends I'd say, but we don't know each other very well.
We have spoken a lot before, but lately he has been looking too nervous to come up to me.
From my end nothing has changed, but I guess something has shifted within him.

We have this unspoken liking each other thing, I'd say. It's obvious.

But I can't mention it, because he seems so anxious and stand offish at this time.

[dynamicyandere]

He doesn’t want to mess up.


It’s like going to an audition and you have one shot to show the judges your performance and if you mess up, you’re disqualified.


Many guys get into a similar head space and it makes it difficult for them to act natural.

[Asker]

Huh, okay, that makes sense. How can I help him relax? I feel as if when I come up to him he gets even more anxious. So I guess that's not an option here.

[dynamicyandere]

If you are interested in him too, the best thing would be to show him signs that you’re interested in him too. That would for sure put him at ease.

If you’re not interested in him in that way then…

He just needs needs to slowly and gradually get more familiar with you and feel comfortable with you either by getting past his own anxiety on his own.

Or, by you showing him that you are very accepting and patient and welcoming and non-judgmental and he can relax around you.

[Asker]

Very good advice. This is what I've been trying to do, but it doesn't seem to be working. Yet, at least, and I'm getting a bit discouraged here.
It might be best to leave him alone and let him push past this on his own, if he feels I'm worth it, I guess.

[dynamicyandere]

I’m glad you found my advice helpful!

It could be that the signs you’re sending aren’t obvious enough for him. Some guys are good at picking up on signals, but many aren’t.

But, with enough signals, he might post a question somewhere (like on gag, haha) and ask if the signs he’s seeing means that a girl is interested. 🙃

[Vikkrram]

As an shy guy and girl you tend to do that unknowingly coz you didn't know that what other person is thinking about you. You didn't know their feelings at all. There we start to have ignore games.

[Rangers]

Intimidation as he fears being embarrassed when he gets rejected and feel put down

Plus he knows what he needs to do and that's get up to talk to her but the hardest part is going up and saying "hey"

He needs to make his move of which he'll almost certainly get rejected as the girl can tell he's nervous but he'll get better if he learns to ignore the people who will laugh at him afterwards

[docster]

In my case, I'm always afraid I won't have anything to say.

[boggboss]

Because he is shy and not confidant the same reason a girl can like a guy but freeze up when talking

[Hardworkingguy]

He's afraid she might be attractive but with a personality he can't handle or stand

[Asker]

He knows me, so I know he's attracted to my personality as well. What else could be the issue?

[Hardworkingguy]

He's afraid that you might not like him back the same way..

[Asker]

Well that's sad. I was sure I was quite clear. :/

[Hardworkingguy]

Just tell him you like him... Most of us men are not good at deciphering women's signs