What does this mean and why do guys have it and what should I do?

[Anonymous]

He said he apologizes for disappearing it’s not respectful of my emotions or my boundaries and yet he keeps doing it he says, he doesn’t know why he does it it’s almost like a defense mechanism that he can’t shake. He’s said I’m right that he looses good people. Last thing he said was I’m not all mentally well and there’s nothing he can really do about it?
I wanna love him and be there for him so guys, what should I do and why do men have defense mechanisms or whatever.

[Anonymous]

Well he may not be well mentally for sure. Sounds as though there’s a reason why he has the block, that defense built up. Like me. When I meet someone new I usually don’t like them, which if things don’t work out I know I never liked them from the start. If we become friends great. Where that comes from I don’t know, past betrayal by someone important to me? Maybe. But it’s what has worked all these years so I’m ok w it. I recognize it. Maybe someone in the past damaged him emotionally, so letting someone in like yourself who cares about him is getting too close to the vulnerable spot. It’s like when someone sabotages a relationship before they get too close to that person. They don’t want to risk being hurt so they do something to end that relationship. He can certainly get help. Talk to someone. Me, I just recognized it on my own. Just like I recognized that I was always going after women who were vulnerable as far as trouble in their life, who needed help only to realize fuck I’m just being friend zoned. After that said fuck that. Met someone who I’ve been w for 13 years.

[spartan55]

Sounds full of shit to me.