? Why hasn’t he caught feelings for me?

[Anonymous]

I have feeling for him.. It will never make sense to me why he didn’t catch feelings… I feel like we do have an emotional connection and it’s been a ride.

I think we have had a bumpy ride.. he says he cares about me even if I don’t see it. He has been honest with me on myself , he does try and quiet my insecurity when I feel insecure that he doesn’t want me. He also didn’t want to sleep with me. He said “he didn’t want me to be all hurt if a relationship didn’t happen “ that really hurt and him calling me lonely angry and insecure hurt. He can be a jerk but I really feel like we could have loved eachother. It makes me so sad

[BarryLiverstone]

He’s not attracted to you

[Asker]

Why you say that?

[BarryLiverstone]

Based on what you said he’s not into you

[Asker]

Attracted to me looks wise?

[HollyK21]

I agree with Barry on this one, the guy does not reciprocate your love and affection. The sooner you accept this rather than tell yourself comforting lies, the sooner you can leave him alone and get on with your life.

[BarryLiverstone]

Thanks Holly. I assumed the asker wanted honest answers

[Asker]

@HollyK21 crazy part is a couple months after we stopped talking he entered into a relationship. He’s now engaged

[Asker]

He’s not attracted to my looks?

[HollyK21]

@Barry the truth can be hard but it’s better to say it☺️🙏
@asker that’s tough, sorry you had that experience but I think you make it harder on yourself by breathing life into that breakup. The man is engaged to be married, meaning he’s very much moved on and there’s no chance of rekindling. So what do these questions do for you? It’s certainly not closure. Sometimes it really is just as simple as “he’s just not that into you”, there doesn’t have to be a detailing on what specifically turned him away. He is gone.

[Asker]

@HollyK21 okay thanks

[HollyK21]

No problem. If you’ve been feeling this way for a while, maybe you should consider professional help if you haven’t already. It could help a lot with moving on.

[Asker]

@HollyK21 yeah I think it’s time. I’m quite depressed about it