Question for the men regarding girls telling you they like you out of the blue after years not seeing each other ?

[Anonymous]

To the men, if you haven’t seen a girl for a long time and out of nowhere after years she messaged you and tells you she likes you but was very too straightforward and demanding an answer straight away what would your reaction be?

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Also would just like to add that this is a girl you used to like but never asked out what would
Your reaction and answer be?

[Anonymous]

It depends. I mean just because she liked me doesn’t mean I liked her. Also depends on whether I’m w someone or not at the time. As I get older I start to think too, does she really like me or is she in a situation that she’s trying to find a man. Maybe she’s got X amount of kids, fathers all left now she’s desperate to meet someone because it’s hard on her being a single mother. My birthday was about 12 days ago, I hadn’t heard from this girl in years. We had a history. Very complicated. But after all these years when she stopped talking to me she texted, said Happy Birthday. Immediately my first thought was, what do you want? Besides that’s not something you just spring on someone then expect an answer right away.

[Asker]

Very well put thank you 😊

[SnowedIn]

Being contacted is a nice thing, even after a while. That's cool. I'm flattered.

In the case that you describe, the real issue is the demanding. If that were the case/situation, then it'd be an instant turn off. Don't ever demand from me or ultimatum me.

[SnowedIn]

Regarding your update: if she was nice about it; that's cool. If she did the demanding thing -- nope. No contact.

[Asker]

Really good honest answer thank you 🙏

[SnowedIn]

Thank you!

[Cuminginside]

Yeah they never work They always blow up in somebody's face

[Jamie05rhs]

"but was very too straightforward and demanding an answer straight away"
In what way? What kind of an answer?
"Do you like me?"
"Do you think I'm pretty?"
"Would you date me?"
"Would you marry me?"

[Jamie05rhs]

@mariammhan

[Asker]

In a way like this

“ I like you do you feel the same “ ?

[Jamie05rhs]

@mariammhan Oh. That's a very reasonable question.

I would just answer her honestly.

[Asker]

What if the the guy said “ wtf” and the girl replied “ that’s not an answer “?

The boy replied “
I haven’t seen you in a long time that’s all you say that’s weird of you “

What would you think about this situation how would you react.

[Jamie05rhs]

It sounds like you ghosted him. Is that true?

[Asker]

I didn’t ghost him but in school time he used to be the popular most attractive guy every girl wanted , I have facial palsy so I couldn’t say anything as I felt low self esteem , plus his friends were the type to make fun of him bcz one of his friends knew he liked me. That’s why I acted like I didn’t like him because of them and he used to say some bad things behind my back too but never to my face like “ eee you mad I don’t like her” but to my face used always come near , try sit by me , stare at me secretly. It was a complicated situation back then. I thought maybe as the years go by he would understand why I didn’t tell him.

[Asker]

What wpuld you make of this situation?

[Jamie05rhs]

You're both playing games with each other because you're scared.

[ohsheeT]

This has happened before. I was shock but it was cool. And then kinda sucked in a way because I was in a relationship at that time.

These are the moments that happen where you always wonder what it

[Asker]

Hi so what if a girl says this and a guys reactions back is “ wtf I haven’t seen you in a long time and that’s all you say that’s weird of you” what would you say in this situation in your own opinion?

[ohsheeT]

Oh I. Would feel it out. And talk to her for sure know how or why it ended that was them this is now. Except my ex wife I would just smile how are you. Ok well I'm really late I really have to go and move on but out of all my relationship that was the only one that ended bad. * Not as in bad. Just in bad for me because she was so pissed off at me for walking away. Any thing she could do or make up to gete in trouble or give her more money she did it.

[OlderAndWiser]

I would have a mixed reaction. If it's a girl I like, I would be flattered and interested (assuming I was available) but I would also be a bit surprised by the out-of-the-blue, launch-right-into-it approach. It would seem to be a little bit socially inept.

[Asker]

Hi can you write the last word in formal writing socially what?

[OlderAndWiser]

Being socially inept means lacking in skill, competence, or ability in a social setting. A socially inept person could suffer from social anxiety, have a low level of empathy, be on the autism spectrum, or simply having too little social experience. The opposite is socially adept.

https://socialself.com/blog/socially-inept/

[CaptainOverthink]

If he was me it would depend on..
- What my memories of you are.
- What my relationship-status currently is.

But if I was single and we barely spoke and I at least remember you as a visual 4/10, I'd give you a shot, because how a woman treats you and behaves could bring you up to an 8 in an instant.

[Kokoroho]

Such a turn off, and not sure why she thought it was okay. I'll reply saying.
: love you too, from a distance.

[Asker]

Thanks for replying 😄 can I ask why to you feel it’s a turn off if it’s okay?

[Kokoroho]

"if you haven’t seen a girl for a long time."
Any one would lose interest, rapport, or attraction.

"out of nowhere after years she messaged you and tells you she likes you"

The fact she thought about me is sweet but it's null and void when stop think, why did it take so long. Then you think about it further. She might have motive or bored. Then I reach a conclusion.
Well I can return the feelings I never had and now I feel your forcing me to get a reaction. Oh she will get it. Get the ol
: let's just be friends.
Text.

Cause I don't feel the same way. Well not anymore.

[Asker]

Wow very well put I applaud you and respect you for your honesty👏👏

[Kokoroho]

Thank you.

[Andres77]

Sounds like she’s in a messy relationship, and is looking for a safety net. I’m not rushing anything..

[Asker]

Really good answer thank you for your time. 😃

[Andres77]

I have someone in mind. If she contacted me I’d say “we’ll see”. But I don’t like being forced. It would take time.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

It would make me, Shy, Happy, Blush on my end. I would be glad to hear from her. I would have hopes that this would be true on her end. Furthermore, I would hope this would bring us closer together.

[chriss]

I would say thank you but after many years I have moved on but wish you luck. I wouldn’t feel anything to be honest since people move on but that is just me

[Justinslay]

Depends what I have going on on in life. Who knows. He could have been interested for a long time. Just too nervous to say anything I don't know the situation but honestly being honest and getting things off your chest is the best way to handle any situation no matter if it's not the alchemy you want

[Asker]

Hi thanks for replying so if the girl said

“ I like you do you feel the same “ ?

Out of no where and you haven’t seen each other in a long time how would you react?

[mommymommymommy]

While she didn't do it out of the blue, she mentioned she's been saying it, for a long time now, so, whe i told her how i felt, i said to her "well how come you never said you did" (after she had just said it, in reply to me). She's like "im sure I've told you before". So, all those times she had, she was actually telling the truth (not just saying it like "hey, i like ya, pal". as if im being friend zoned or something)

[Berethor]

Depends on what she did in all this time, if she still virgin then I am going to accept her. :)

[Christoff92]

I'll be wow. That's awesome. Didn't know that she had me in though 😊

[Asker]

Hi so what if a girl says this and a guys reactions back is “ wtf I haven’t seen you in a long time and that’s all you say that’s weird of you” what would you say in this situation in your own opinion?

[Christoff92]

Ok. Well she's being very aggressive then. Wouldn't want to reply back. Because she looks like a utterly jealous type to be honest 😕

[TrillXHippy]

I’m going to sit there and think about who I am for however long I want. Nobody is going to demand me to do anything. If any girl thinks she’s going to ever demand me to do anything she got me messed up

[Cuminginside]

I wanted to always say this to you "what have you done for me lately?"

[joeND]

Is a long time 1 yr or 10 years? Is he available? we need more details. I rarely go back to an ex but many will. I figure if they broke my heart once why let them do it again, if I broke it off the girl never calls back.

[joeND]

don't fear rejection , if you like her go for it, though you might be aa back up guy until she finds a new lover. I had one girl where I was her backup plan once aa month or so. After a while I had enough of it

[Asker]

Hi , the guy is single at that time and so is the girl. They haven’t had a relationship ship before but liked each other and never said it.

If the girl never used to show it to him in his presence.

After years the girl out of no where tells him

“Hi can I speak to you if you remember me.” And tell him my name.

“ I like you do you feel the same”?

How would you feel about this?

[berisky23]

I'd thank her for telling me and tell her I need some time to take it in.

[peterrezeeek]

i think i can't give a quick answer.. i would ask her many questions so we have to keep it touch and chat for at least a mounth to know if she really likes and wants me or just she wanna to use me..

[sureitis]

i would tell her the truth and as far as reaction that would have to depend on if im in a relationship or not and or if i still liked her

[jeremy_09]

I thought mostly guys did that to girls. Girls are usually pretty good about letting you know they like you.

[Asker]

There are girls who do this truss me there is plenty

[RingOfFire]

Just taking a wild guess this is something you are planning to do?

How close am I? 😉

[Asker]

Not planning sir but just wanted advice on 😊

[boobliker]

it may be there out of time and need to wed someone

[Asker]

Sorry can you write that in formal writing I don’t understand?

[boobliker]

some girls need to be married by at time in there life

[PointTaken]

It all depends on the girl. I will answer honestly for sure.

[Asker]

So what do you feel if this happens to you and this was a girl you used to like but never asked out?

[PointTaken]

Would depend on how I am in my life. If I never moved on I would tell her I still really like her that much and want to meet. If I've moved on thinking she never did like me and I have another girlfriend, it would be difficult.

[Sabretooth]

How strong did I feel about her?

[Asker]

If they liked each other but the girl never used to show it and run away from Him and the boy never used to admit it but he was showing with his actions.

Then years later the girl messages and tells him who she is and says

“ I like you do you feel the same?”

How would you react?

[Sabretooth]

sounds almost familiar. probably say: ''I have for awhile''.

[Asker]

What if the the guy said “ wtf” and the girl replied “ that’s not an answer “?

The boy replied “
I haven’t seen you in a long time that’s all you say that’s weird of you “

What would you think about this situation how would you react.

[Sabretooth]

could mean anything. is he angry? at who? is he upset?

[Asker]

Yes I would think same great answer

and why would you think he is angry and upset with the girl?

[Sabretooth]

well, he obviously really liked her but she never made a move. and before you point out the hypocrisy--that's why I put in that caveat ''at who?''.

[shortster]

Ask her out on a date

[EaterPeter]

That have not happened yet. Other way around, yes.