I asked a guy why he talks to me is he just being nice or he really wants to talk. He said he was just being nice. How should I take this?

[aradhanaandrews]

[RHK36]

When a guy likes you, you'll know. He might be interested, but it will be for sex only. This applies to both genders.


Women stop chasing after unavailable basic personality having boys. They'll give you just enough attention to smash if you let them. Stop trying to change guys, wait for them to grow up or do LDRs. You'll just romanticize it all until you've had enough. You'll have wasted plenty of time and energy on someone that didn't deserve it.

Find someone nearby that you're actually compatible with or just embrace the single life. Don't settle because he's good looking or has money or tall or because you're lonely. Find someone that you have actual chemistry with or don't complain about choosing a guy riddled with red flags.

[ZXCwWRQWz]

Ask him to close his eyes and give him a gentle kiss on the lips.

[ZXCwWRQWz]

If he doesn't like it, you can just say you were checking something and smile and laugh and do girly things. But if he does like it, probably he wants to actually talk to you a lot more now.

[aradhanaandrews]

Can I really do that he said he was just being nice

[aradhanaandrews]

That means he is not interested.. wouldn't it ruin our friendship if i do that

[ZXCwWRQWz]

It'll only ruin it if you act all weird and embarrassed after and don't want to see him again. Women have major leeway in flirting. And that type of flirting can even change an entire man's conception of you.

[aradhanaandrews]

I really want to try this if i can get him liking me from being just nice... Can you help me more please

[ZXCwWRQWz]

I'm not expert beyond the basic suggestion. But I would leave you with a thing: it's not always about discovering who likes us. Sometimes your moves can persuade someone to like you too, and not just physically and sexually but on a deeper level. Our basic human interactions sometimes can plant the seed of longing in each other. There's no guarantee of success anywhere though; all you can do is try to plant that seed and move on if it doesn't work.

[aradhanaandrews]

Thnx... You mean to say i m not fully rejected i still have chance if i play my cards right

[ZXCwWRQWz]

Yes, and there's always a window of opportunity... until there isn't!

[ZXCwWRQWz]

@Dukearch I don't really believe the idea that the sexes are same absent sociological factors, and even then, I think they still heavily factor in.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I agree with this. I'd like it. Especially if she used tongue

[aradhanaandrews]

@Dukearch i actually asked him for a kiss and hug , i told him if i can kiss him and hug him if we meet and he replied we'll see now what should I reply back

[aradhanaandrews]

@Dukearch i don't know i just want to kiss him I guess i feel attracted towards him

[Kiss_Me]

I think you are being highly presumptuous. A guy can talk to you just to be social. It gives you the perfect opportunity to practice your communication skills with guys.

That being said... Yes, he could be interested. It that case it gives you the perfect opportunity to practice your flirting skills.

It's a win/ win situation.

[aradhanaandrews]

But being nice means he is not interested right

[Kiss_Me]

Being means he COULD be interested. Is he flirting or just having a conversation? That is the big tell.

[aradhanaandrews]

Ummm he gives me hypothetical question like wht if i started liking you and then we had sex... Now I don't know if by this hypothetical question he wants to see how i react to a specific situation or he is indirectly telling me that he likes someone else

[Malwi93]

lol can't we talk just because? i know i dont wanna fuck all my guy friends

[provokeesmokee]

I can't tell if that's his attempt at negging, honesty, or if he's just ridiculously socially unaware.

You don't owe him anything. You don't need to entertain him if you don't like him.

If you do like him... I don't know. I wouldn't continue talking to someone who admits they're only talking to me to "be nice". I prefer people who seek me out because they like my vibe and viceversa.

[aradhanaandrews]

I actually like him and asked him if i can hug him and kiss him if we meet we stay in different state and he responded we'll see how should I take this. I don't know why he is suddenly so rude to me

[Pinay_ako]

A guy spending his time to talk to you is a big deal and why he’s nice to you is because he likes you. Don’t question that. You should feel flattered he is nice and spends his time talking to you not someone else.

[GreatBigCircles]

That's a pretty weird thing for him to say. I can get why you'd be confused about that response because I'd be confused too. I'd message him later and just tell him you were confused by what he said.

[hahahmm]

Guys don't need to talk to a woman just to talk. He can talk to other guys for that. You are basically asking him to beg for your attention, when he already went out of his way & took the risk of talking to you in the first place.

[spartan55]

Take it as guys hate questions like this and if you want to chase him off keep it up.

[aradhanaandrews]

Why guys hate such questions? I deserve to know if he likes me or he is just being nice

[spartan55]

Because it's honestly a dumb question, and annoying. If he didn't want to talk to you, he wouldn't. You girls make it 1000 times more complicated than necessary. Do those mental gymnastics in your head all you want, but don't bring us into.

[hahahmm]

Correct. Also men & women don't even think the same way. The way women seem to think of certain words makes no sense to a man. He needs to put a lot of energy into trying to translate what she said into man speak. And even then he knows she might just be playing head games.

[Kiss_Me]

I hate to come across as an ass hole... You deserve VERY VERY VERY little in this world and in your life. You WANT to know if he likes you or is just being nice. You do not deserve it.

Look, the guy is asking the question to see if you like him, AND he is putting the idea of having sex in your head to make it easier to get in your pants.

[spartan55]

Sure thing white knight.

[hahahmm]

@spartan55 think Kiss_me was talking to aradhanaandrews

[boggboss]

That he is not intrested in you just enjoys talking to u or being friendly

[Anonymous]

This seems to be an example of women saying that they want a guy to be honest, but when a guy gives them an honest response, it definitely isn't what they wanted to hear.

[strateguy632]

he picked the more polite option, but did not understand your question

[acidburnone]

as him being nice, stop overthinking it. he was just being nice and thats it

[aradhanaandrews]

Mean he dosen't like me

[acidburnone]

he likes you like a little sister

[aradhanaandrews]

Thts funny, actually i m very anxious i really want him to like me but not as sister

[acidburnone]

well then better confess your feelings to him before someone else does it! risk it all or never know what you could have gained!!!

[acidburnone]

as a friend once told me "you don't try, you don't get!"

[Starlove4]

Take it for what it is lol he literally told u. Why would he lie?

[mommymommymommy]

Meaning he likely is just sort of "entertaining" you, if you need it, but, wouldn't actively go out of his way to

[jahaims]

Tell him you appreciate his kindness but don't want to waste energy on a relationship that is pity based.

[In_Trance]

What provokes you to even ask a question like that?

[aradhanaandrews]

I just wanted to know if he likes me or not and him saying being nice means he dosen't like me

[In_Trance]

I think you need to have better conversations with him

[aradhanaandrews]

Explain better conversation

[In_Trance]

Talk about things that matter. If you knew each others clear intentions and were open and honest, you'd know exactly where you stand all the time.

[Blueeyes81]

That he was just being nice and move on with your life.

[aradhanaandrews]

It means he doesn't like me

[Genevieverudd]

trust me, guys are usually pretty upfront and can even be rude sometimes.. if he’s talking to you and being friendly he prob means it

[aradhanaandrews]

Being nice means being friendly is it... So is there a chance he can like me

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

He is keeping his safe distance. He implied it clearly. I guess you are just one of his professional colleagues. In and out of the job.

You are brave to express what you felt. I would suggest you to never change that. Not many women do the thing you did. It clears the air for us guys.

Although it may be difficult as some may take unfair advantage of it while others may truly reciprocate your feelings. And some may not just give any response at all.

[aradhanaandrews]

@The_Shadow_Dweller i asked him if i can hug and kiss him we stay in different state and he said we'll see how should I take this

[aradhanaandrews]

I m not his colleague we are frnds

[slatyb]

What do YOU want? Ask him for that.

[WhitneySnow]

Don’t talk to him anymore

[shades777]

like a teenage school girl and write a poem

[Alex8736]

is he a co-worker?

[Tstrbrainer]

With a grain of salt 😉

[jahntt]

That he's just being nice?💀

[Anonymous]

Well at least he tolerates you?

[monghjay2]

hahaha lol

[whistlingwh0res]

Manwhore