Non-traditional women, do you expect a man to be traditional and pay?

[rukus88]

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+1 y

ROFL! some of y'all women are jaded af, who hurt you?

[provokeesmokee]

No. I like it, but I also like buying a man meals. I buy my male student friends meals, which is a traditon among my peers - we're working age, I'm childfree, so if I'm meeting with a student, they DO NOT pay. Period.

I also buy my male friends and I've bought my male exes meals before, too.

I enjoy being treated, but I don't expect it. You can't be treated if you're expecting to be covered.

[rukus88]

I just mean in terms of dating.

[provokeesmokee]

Same answer applies. Why would dating change it?

[kylee2437]

I am a woman that can cook and clean, but todays society of men financially can’t support a woman where she can actually be traditional. Not one person I’ve dated or talked to wanted that dynamic.

[rukus88]

Oh they can, you just wouldn't be able to drive a Mercedes. Women use to marry for love. How many men have you approached?

[kylee2437]

@rukus88 none of that is relevant to your question. There’s a very very very small percentage of men in this generation that are traditional and it’s because they don’t want to put in more energy for a woman than they are receiving in the very beginning terms of dating

[KrakenAttackin]

@kylee2437. Your nasty tats and thirst trap profile photo tell me you are far from wife material.

[kylee2437]

@KrakenAttackin yeah because I’m not living my life to please you let alone any man. None of you men are exciting enough in the slightest and are a burden

[KrakenAttackin]

@kylee2437. You go QUEEN! YOLO, Hot Girl Summer, Step Daddy Season... OMG, you are such a cliche 😂

[kylee2437]

@KrakenAttackin where did I say any of that? I can cook, I can clean, I I finance my own college, I bought my own car, I’m financially stable for my age, etc. if a man can’t provide to his life, like I’m providing for mine then he’s not exciting and he’s nothing more than a burden in the long run

[KrakenAttackin]

@kylee2437. Where did you say anything like that? You didn't have to. Your tone and profile pic says it all. Also, you are looking to date "up", but you have already degraded your own value. There is a rapidly increasing value divide between you and the men you want. Your value goes down as theirs goes up. Fact.

[kylee2437]

@KrakenAttackin if being a basic adult is dating “up” then I’m definitely not interested in dating what so ever , that’s what you aren’t getting 🤷🏻‍♀️

[KrakenAttackin]

@kylee2437. But of course you are.

[kylee2437]

@krankenattackin says who? Is that you trying to speak for me?

[rukus88]

No man wants you so even considering it is useless, THAT's what your not getting. So you want a man to support you so you can be traditional but if he doesn't make as much as you do he is a burden. Thank you for proving all of my points against feminism

[kylee2437]

@rukus88 except the only way a woman can really prove her worth in the beginning is paying her half of things which then defeats the purpose of tradition , and that is if a man likes her personality.

[rukus88]

THAT! That right there is the root of ALL of your problems. Feminism lied to you and you think that's how a woman proves her worth. Men don't care in the slightest about haw much money you make. You know NOTHING about what men want.

[kylee2437]

@rukus88 no feminism hasn’t lied to me, this is from my dating experiences. Are you even a man that is cut out to provide for a woman entirely? I highly doubt you are.

[rukus88]

6 foot 6 figures, this time next year it'll be 6 pack. how much do you make? whats your body count? are you a single mom? have you ever cheated? Whats the shortest amount of time you have known a man in person before sleeping with him?

[kylee2437]

@rukus88 yeah I highly doubt that, and there’s no way to prove that. And I’m not answering your nonsense questions because they don’t matter. So many men preach about tradition but are not cut out for traditional ways, and on top of that a very small percentage of men remotely even want that

[kylee2437]

I think focusing on who’s paying what is stupid as hell anyways. If you two aren’t comfortable with the fact that the work load won’t balance out - you are showing signs of incompatibility

[rukus88]

thats what i thought. you want a traditional man but you are not a traditional woman, you don't deserve one. your fat, can't pair bond because your blown out from having one night stands, a single mom, and a cheater. ALL of which matter to a traditional man. sit down

[rukus88]

YOU wanted equality! you got it, no more relationships for you unless it balances out.

[kylee2437]

@rukus88 who said I want a traditional woman? That was your assumption from me talking about my dating experiences. I would rather not have a man that shuts out all my options of becoming my own success because I want to be with him. I’d rather pay for dates than date a man that keeps me in a loop of not being able to break up with him if needed

[kylee2437]

A traditional man*

[kylee2437]

I just refused a man buying me a $130 concert ticket today , no thank you. I’ll decide if I’m going to the concert or not on my own terms

[rukus88]

exactly, you want commitment, but want to be able to walk away from him in a heartbeat, why would a man settle for you

[kylee2437]

@rukus88 that was your assumption that I want automatic commitment, I do not want commitment if the man I am with is less than what I want and I’m not letting up on that, so no automatic commitment doesn’t excite me

[UniquelyBasic]

I think a lot of women would want the ability to be a stay at home mom while the guy provides financially but depending on the lifestyle someone wants most people need two incomes to support a household.

[John_Doesnt]

Of course they do. No woman wants actual equality, they just want extra benefits. I actually asked a similar question and every woman had a meltdown because all they had to offer was meow meow and donut.

[Apple1996]

I'm pretty traditional so yes I expect a man to pay

[Agape93]

I expect him to pay for his own damn bills and his own shit.

[rukus88]

... that, doesn't answer my question

[Agape93]

Uh yeah, it does. That's the only shit I expect him to pay. Think.

[rukus88]

So if a man goes to pay the bill, you will stop him and insist on paying your equal share then right? you wouldn't just sit there and let him spend an un-equal amount of pay would you?

[Agape93]

Your definitely new here if you haven't seen my stance on this lol

If a man asks me out to dinner, he pays.
If I ask him out to dinner, I'm paying.
If he wants to go eat but he doesn't have the money, I'll pay for it or we can just eat at home. Equal partnership, equal sharing of the costs in it

[kylee2437]

You just assumed she doesn’t ask men out on dates and you don’t even know her. You are probably one of the more bitter men I’ve seen on this app, someone in your life needs to give you a hug

[rukus88]

@kylee2437 insults are the tools of the defeated

[kylee2437]

Insulting people is literally all you have been doing, and acting bitter towards women that admit that they don’t care about a man paying or not.

[Agape93]

Exactly. But dude, enough of your bullshit.

[TacosRAwesome]

I'm not sure where I fall on the traditional scale but I prefer men who at least offer to pay.

[jennifer_bloom]

I judge men on a case by case basis but he won't get an automatic rejection if he does not give me money or if he does not have any to give

[KrakenAttackin]

Of course they expect a man to be traditional, even when the girls ar selling their cootchie online for $4.99/month.

[Apple1996]

4.99$ seems a bit low. These girls are worth more and need to raise their prices

[KrakenAttackin]

@Apple1996 whatever the simp market will bare.

[Apple1996]

The simp market has no limit. They are out here buying farts in a jar and used socks from women for 100s-1000s of dollars. Selling coochie for that low should be illegal

[KrakenAttackin]

@Apple1996 True enough.

[Billlewis]

@Apple1996 Oh my goodness... this ^^^ might be the comment of the year! You are so awesome for saying that, goddess!

[Apple1996]

@Billlewis haha thanks 😊 you interested in buying some of my used socks?

[Billlewis]

@Apple1996 I'm going to message you now...

[Billlewis]

I hope every woman who responds to this question says 'yes'.

[JoyGirl]

Oop…I guess since I am traditionally, I shouldn’t be here. 🚶🏾‍♀️

[rukus88]

LOL I'm gonna guess you meant "not traditional" ... I'm gonna assume you moving on means I don't need to explain your hypocrisy, thanks for saving my time sorry you were too weak not to save yours.

[JoyGirl]

Pardon me? 😂

[rukus88]

No no honey we're done now. you left a sarcastic comment and pushed on remember

[JoyGirl]

Oki 😂

[Anonymous]

I expect him to pay for his stuff. I’m not going to be paying for someone else.

[Anonymous]

I expect him to pay for his food and I’ll pay for mine.

[Yannishka]

Hmmm ehhhh arrr... no.

[gothbxtch]

nope, would rather split or pay myself

[Anonymous]

Always split at first

[Anonymous]

Nope