Are women turned off if the Man makes less money?

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D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Here's my life experience because I've been the big money maker that was fat, and then I started pretending I'm super broke, that just happens to have no job, so I'd lift weights all day.

With the money... I'd get the chicks but it was usually short-lived. The only ones that stuck around basically just needed the money.

With the muscles and I'm serious, I downgraded to just focus on muscles. I moved out of my condo, into a $ 400-per-month apartment... a studio one that only has two burners on the stove next to the little sink. Furniture: My weight cage and weights, Television/computer (I use the television as the monitor) on the wall and a pull out bed. God dayum did I start getting tons of puss! These chicks started taking me out and buying me dinner. Meanwhile I just pretend to be broke af. Like not joking, I moved and I didn't tell anybody that I received retirement checks or anything. I even only drove a 2011 Crown victoria police interceptor. I hit those weights though. I have a bunch of guitars and guns as well but I don't think that really flashed money to women... it just added to my image. I dressed and still dress like I'm going on a hiking/camping trip. My balls are so free... ask me to wear a tight t-shirt and I'll ask you to kill yourself.

The bottom line... get ripped. Sure you can blow all your money on chicks, but it's not a thing when they blow their money on you!
The chicks I started getting were better too. They had jobs, and they even had hobbies! You know how amazing that is? 9 times out of 10 a woman literally does not have a hobby or any interests outside of watching stupid "love" movies that are like soft porn without enough of the fucking.

Now I'm married... if she goes broke I come up with just enough to get by and tell her I killed somebody and slashed a bag of lyme and burried them in the woods. Dudes, just get buff... don't try to attract chicks because you have money... because you will attract chicks that just want money. Sure you'll still get sex but you'll be looking at her going down on you, with her not really enjoying it and treating like a chore and know, she's only there to help pay off her rent and college debt.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

Just here to see all these “always exceptional” women respond in direct contrast to the vast quantity of quality research available on this particular matter. Ell oh ell! It never fails to amaze me!

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/jomf.12372

https://www.marketwatch.com/story/rich-women-like-rich-men-and-rich-men-like-slender-women-2015-09-28

These results are typical, not anomalous. There are dozens of responsible studies available, current and past. Women prefer men who earn more than them, and they always have. It’s important to note though that this isn’t one of those one-sided biases. Men typically also prefer to earn more than their women. Which is one of the reasons i find it curious so few women can be honest about this matter in mixed company. This is literally one of the few things we usually agree on, but somehow women have convinced themselves that’s a bad thing. Ell oh ell!

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

I make more than the median in my country. I'm pretty used to earning more than my partners.

It doesn't matter to me if my partner (if male) doesn't earn more than me.

It does matter that they're gainfully employed and can contribute equitably to our financial situation.

To me, a job is about more than just money. Whether it's their own company or working for another, holding a job means the person is probably able to do what they need to do to be a responsible person. Their passion for it can help me assess their ambition and creativity. Their dedication to it is a good indicator of how they handle commitment and responsibility.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

No as long as they can provide for themselves and come by it honestly.  Don't people get, a person's financial situation can change? From bad to good or good to bad..

Pinay_ako · Answer

Nope. As long as I know he’s working hard, making clean money and not doing stupid shady shit, he has my respect.

Summeroflove · Answer

Gold diggers are. Lol. Not most women. Honestly some women might be good women and have some standards. But. Find whose into you dude.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I would say they are. Most women want men on their level or just above them in terms of aspiration, ambition, work ethic, style, etc.

So if you have a woman that has a master's or a PhD like many are getting these days and a guy has anything like a master's, bachelor's, associate's degree, they more than likely won't be to keen to give him a chance or stay with him long. If she does give him a chance, she will more than likely expect him to get into a position where he makes just as much as she does or get a better education, otherwise she will look for a man that does have what she wants in a partner.

Anonymous · Answer

I broke up yesterday with my boyfriend mostly because of this; he has a very low paid job, lives as roommate in a trashy flat with 4 other people, doesn't drive and doesn't have any ambitions because he's pretty much bad at everything. He is also 10 years younger then me and doesn't know how to cook or clean. I, on the other hand, earn a lot above average, have my own house, a car, a pet, I cook, clean and all. We tried living together for a week and it felt like having a teenager child, not a boyfriend. Good riddance.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Those who say no are liars. Ironically, in a system that is catering to a woman's vagina 24/7 more and more women out-earn men and gain positions of power just for having a pussy. We can expect this to become the new norm in the near future, accompanied by an ever increasing number of woman who rely on anti-depressants, struggling with the fact that they have become cute men and not even the top 1% of men would be interested in them. I've had dozens of different jobs and the women were always making more than me while working less hours than the men. Today I have a high paying job earning more money than I ever imagined I could earn in my life and the women of the company are still out-earning me because it's a company policy to cater to their vagina with special privileges and benefits.

19magic · Answer

Wow despite the very abvious poll of what women want its apparently just lies.

My lastest crush works in a supermarket while I'm aspiring to work up the corporate ladder till I'm on a happy medium. I dont want to become the boss boss, but it would be nice to maybe one day be the manager. But I couldn't care what money he makes so long as and equal proportion of our money goes towards things (if we're living together) then I don't care. Most women wants a man who can hold their own.

Guy13 · Answer

Every woman I have ever met... and i do not care what they say... wants a man with means as their Vision of Family and Life as a whole can not be fulfilled without it. No matter what they say, Money and Means are equated with Stability. It will be an issue on the front end, in the middle (we don't have enough), and the back end often leading to divorce. Money matters along so many fronts and don't buy anything different because the Costs can be exponential...

JDavid25 · Answer

I don't think women necessarily care about the money (they do but It's not the first thing on their mind).. At least decent women which is most I presume... It's the ambition that got men to make all that money.. It exudes confidence and that the men will be capable providers if the situation called for it..

Emiliamazing · Answer

The last time my husband and I made close to the same amount was 2004. I have an advanced degree and my career has taken bigger responsibility and financial leaps than his. We have been married almost 20 years and are both proud of our successes and each other. I think it goes both ways,

Katyalov · Answer

Eventually I want a family, so if he doesn't make enough to provide for his family, yes that’s sort of a deal breaker for me. Also I’m not the typical man hating feminist that most women are these days, I still believe the man is the provider, the ultimate bread winner, and I’m not wearing the pants in the marriage.

melanieeeB · Answer

Nope it's just important for me that he (like every other grown up person) can financially support themselves! Like that's a must, but everything above.. I really don't care

MikeInHawaii · Answer

I have often been amazed by how many gorgeous, otherwise intelligent women I know who gravitate towards losers. I don’t respect gold diggers, but I understand them! I will never understand women with the lost puppy syndrome jumping from one project man to another.

Nalix · Answer

Obviously not all of them, but we should all want our spouse to be competent and talented. My wife for instance, married me when we both had basically nothing. What we made, we made together, but she could see that I was driven and wanted to work.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

Surprise surprise most women said no.
Guys stop believing the stupid shit your grandfathers taught us. Doesn't work like that anymore. In fact it only did in their time because the women needed us to survive because they lwere not even legaly allowed to have a bank account!

affectioncrave · Answer

I'm not attracted to materia. I'm attracted to the person.

erandal · Answer

I'm not and I earn more than my SO by a significant margin. I married him for what he could bring to the relationship as a person, not financially. He is a part time teacher and 'house husband'.

TruthBringer · Answer

If they weren't, then this question wouldn't be asked. I can bet my arm that more than half the women here who said 'no' are lying to us or even to themselves. The truth is, women find men who earn less than them a turn off. And men know this. Hence why men are pressured from a young age to keep it pushing.

VanessaValentine · Answer

Men who are successful are more attractive. Let me just say if I was a guy I would be turned off on girls who couldn’t cook had narrow hips for child birthing and we’re loud and bitchy. It goes both ways.

jhl_x · Answer

That's one of the things I see a lot of people say that it doesn't matter, but I've never seen people say this outside the internet. The saying "women don't date down" doesn't exist because of nothing.

Slartybartfast · Answer

Broke men are simply invisible to most women. If they are noticed at all they are placed in the "friends only" category along with short men, bald men etc etc.

Women's standards are so high these days you need the James Webb telescope to see them.

Jltakk · Answer

Women want a guy that can provide for the nest. A man that is independently wealthy is an automatic get. Its a resume that "proves" you can handle supporting her and anyone else. A man living with his parents will no be attractive initially and will have an upward battle to convince her that he is partner material.

sassygirl13 · Answer

Nah. I married my husband without knowing how much he earned. I knew that I can earn my own money after I moved so it didn't matter as long as we can live a decent life.

Subarugirl · Answer

Naw, that just an excuse men make when they don't have any other desirable traits to attract sexual partners. Its easier to make money than it is to be good person.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Haha… how many would actually tell the truth?
For me, he must have drive, ambition. When I met my hubby here six years ago. He was making just enough to pay his basic bills.
we are in a whole diff place now that we are working together to build him up to his best potentials.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

No. Money isn't everything. I make almost twice what my boyfriend makes. And with his career path I'll likely always out earn him. BUT he's ambitious and always eager to climb. Always pays his share and doesn't ask me omfor anything. Funny thing is, I'll be the one saying that I want to get something done or go shopping but that we should skip it till next paycheck or something and he'll be the one to tell me that I should do it anyway as I work hard for my $$$

ethanallen · Answer

Men are success objects. Women are beauty objects. The difference is that men can continuously make advancements in their business and career to increase their success. Women can do little to stop the onward decline in their beauty. After 30, women being to fade and lose their appeal as beauty objects.

Reaper1985 · Answer

I mean if online dating proves anything the majority of women are attracted to men who are equal or more then they do. not many women are likely to date/marry a man who makes half or less then they do. unless he can make up for it in other ways in the relationship.

Robbey · Answer

I make more than double what my husband makes and I couldn’t care less.

MCheetah · Answer

Immediately and always. It's just that half of them will lie about it.

Youryeodongsaeng · Answer

At least he's making money. I don't really mind if he's making less money than me. At least he has a job and isn't sitting on his ass all day.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I’ve made considerably less than girls I’ve dated, married etc Never had a problem  I just think some use it as an excuse

Blackcosmo · Answer

Nope as long as they can live normally. I'm not a spender so I don't mind and I'll be making my own money.

zagor · Answer

I think it depends. If she is a cashier at Burger King she will likely be turned off by a guy who makes less money. If she is a heart surgeon or CEO it would not probably not be as important to her as it would otherwise eliminate a huge portion of the dating pool, though if he made significantly less it might matter.

plredhead · Answer

I don't care if a man makes more than me. I do care if I am always paying for everything and they don't pay for at least half of the dates. I don't even care if they pick cheaper restaurants or activities. I just want to know that they don't think of me as a meal (activity, trip) ticket.

MzAsh · Answer

No. As long as he’s not constantly sponging off me then I don’t mind.

MTC29 · Answer

I'm going to get into trouble, but I'll say it anyway: women imagine having a nest, so that a guy who has his own home is automatically attractive.

Money? No one really cares- or not enough to ask to see your tax return.

USLegionary · Answer

Absolutely. Women always shoot for a man that's better than them.

TallAnon · Answer

I've noticed a very slight difference, but it's not relevant enough for me to care. If I say I'm a senior programmer or that I'm a game developer (both are true), the responses are quite different, I partially suspect people don't know game devs easily make 6 figures.

Anonymous · Answer

While the women on here will disagree, most women date up. It's part of female hypergamy.. Why do you think most women divorce and leave if the man loses his job? Why do you think successful women can't find men? They effectively limit their dating pool. Statistically women want men who make more than them..

JDBSLAOQ · Answer

is a man turned off if a woman makes less money? tf does money matter in real love? unless you're getting married for financial stability i dont see why it would make a difference

MrBraun · Answer

I don't think so. A lot of girls don't care too much about money but big salary could be plus. On the other hand there are of course golddigers. And they care only about money, any other thing they don't find attractive on men... :)

Emily_925 · Answer

Mm if they like don't work at all bc they're playing video games or something then yeah I guess but not really how much he makes if he's still working hard

genericname85 · Answer

they'll say no out of compassiona and emotion. but realisticly: yes.

TrueConfection · Answer

Not really. It depends on how much less. Minimum wage because he doesn't have ambition? Forget it. Works full time and can pay his bills? The amount doesn't matter.

NathanDavis · Answer

not in my case no...  and with the last two, the one thing they did not like at all was a guy that cares too much for money and the wrong way as well

SaraSmithishere · Answer

Probably only if the woman is a barista bringing in $26k

Anonymous · Answer

From personal experiences with every woman I have to know, money is the greatest factor for the guy. As a guy, your love, other talents, and personalities have little to no effect on girls. But I will not say you have to make huge amounts, some girls want a lot some less but still, you have to.

I know many guy friends that are slobs otherwise (can't cook, clean or have a creative talent) married to beautiful girls as they are earning money.

Avicenna · Answer

Probably a majority are (hypergamy is for real for a large number of women), but definitely not all. Either way, he does need to bring other things to the relationship that she looks for.

Hogoblin_of_Venice · Answer

Looking at those poll results shows me a lot of women are liars.

razelove · Answer

I really don't know, right now is the first time in my life where I'm not the bread winner and it seems like I'm the only one bothered by it.

Anonymous · Answer

I can't speak for every woman, but I can speak for myself. And no, I wouldn't be turned off.

Money isn't the most important thing in a relationship, it's important but not the mostest.

If you really like them, it won't really matter.

Melodis17 · Answer

Nope, although being unemployed, lazy and not ambitious can be. I have never dated a “rich” guy and honestly have no desire to.

Sandeeppingping · Answer

The younger you are as a guy the less it matters, and vice versa, the older you are the more it matters

Sarahr123 · Answer

Well if it is a traditional woman seeking marriage then the general notion is that the man should be well set up in life.

Anonymous · Answer

No question. More accurately it makes a guy look more attractive to her. There have been many studies that have confirmed this.

kikissss · Answer

No women don’t care about that. At least I don’t. Was getting much more money than my previous boyfriend and I was happy and he wasn’t happy that I got much more money than him. So yep that didn’t last !

Twalli · Answer

Actually men seem to have a bigger problem with women making more than them than women do.

aliiiek · Answer

Yeh , they will look down to that man , and looking down means turn off to woman

Anonymous · Answer

I make more than my partner and I'm always motivating him to get a better job because he is severely underpaid. I'm mostly doing this for his own benefit as it'll help him, I'm okay.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Nah. The only money I care about is my own.

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