Do men find it harder to accept the idea that their girlfriends might earn more money than they do?

[Julie4]

[MrOracle]

The majority of men wouldn't care how much money his woman made - if he was the only one who cared, it would be irrelevant in most relationships.

The problem is that WOMEN care - most women anyway. And all of her female friends also care. That's where the problem comes in.

See, the vast majority of women expect her man to out-earn her - REGARDLESS of how much she earns. And if the time comes when she out-earns him, she's FAR more likely to decide that he isn't good enough anymore, and that she can do better - and most of her friends will encourage this, because misery loves company. Women are actually more likely to divorce their husbands if she comes to out-earn him than if he cheats on her, even if he's still earning lots of money.

Of course, that rarely works out well for the woman, because most women don't realize that men DON'T CARE about a woman's money - how much money a woman makes is not something that the majority of men value - and the ones who DO value it are overwhelmingly the POOR men who are looking for easy money from someone else. None of the men that women WANT will care about or give a woman any points for being a high earner. Those men already have plenty of money, and don't need hers - but in order to GET that kind of money, the woman will have nearly always had to trade away all of the things that men DO value in women, and so high-earning women tend to be seen as low-value women to men. Women struggle to accept this truth, because women value men's earning potential so highly that they think it MUST work the other way around, but it doesn't. Men do not care about a woman's money (her debt, and her spending habits/fiscal responsibility are separate matters).

Again, what men value in women is the following:

• Youth (closely tied to fertility)
• Innocence (lack of experience, both in and out of the bedroom)
• Femininity (the opposite of Feminist)
• Submissiveness (being willing and able to follow his lead)
• Fit (reasonably in shape)
• Friendly
• Loyal
• Respectful
• Family-Oriented (rather than career-oriented)

Notice that you won't find any mention of education, degrees, careers, income, houses, cars, handbags, shoes, or vacation/travel. Those are things women care about, but men assign them zero value at best, a negative value at worst.

As a woman, if you want a "high value man" and want him to take you seriously, you have to have most or all of the things on the above list. The less you have, the significantly lower your chances of getting a commitment from such a man. Sure, he'll bang you, because a man who is a 10 will happily bang a girl who is a 5, but he's not going to take her seriously as a relationship partner.

Most women START their adult lives with everything on this list, but most end up quickly spending all of this value "having fun", and have little left to "spend" when they decide to "settle down" and find a man for a relationship. That's why real, lasting relationships are getting rarer and rarer, and why so many women have to settle for "situationships" that last a few weeks or months today.

[Summeroflove]

Some men feel insecure about it but honestly I think women who lack financial independence and intelligence are the ones men need to be aware of. Those are the women many times looking for a free ride in life. That’s not to say that some women can’t stay home if their husbands making enough to comfortably support everyone and that’s what they decide to do.

What I am saying is though to be quite blunt about it it’s the women who don’t need you but genuinely want you that you should be looking for. I’m not saying to go to the other extreme of being superficial and materialistic either for men I’m not saying women who make less money are necessarily bad either.

But I think if a woman’s making more money then a man yet she chooses him as well as chooses to stay despite having other options. That it’s much more likely that she genuinely wants him, that’s not to say there isn’t other ways to take advantage of somebody. It’s just saying that it’s better then having someone because they want the financial benefits of being with you.

It doesn’t bother me at all if I’m with someone what matters is building a genuine connection. People too concerned over money in a relationship will never find one anyways.

[FreyaRed]

I don't think rally confident one have a problem with. In a good relationship they benefit if their girlfriend or wife earns more, if their ego is hurt I guess it's some masculinity complex

[itsannalee]

Nope, some men enjoy it and with no shame asking for money to their girlfriends. Some men aren’t only hole digger, but also gold digger.
I met some when i was young.

[Spencer10]

Ha ha ha... hole digger. Thats funny. Well played! lol

[OlderAndWiser]

All of the above, plus the fraud perpetrated on us about Biden's competency, the Hunter scandal, Kamala's stupid laugh and word salad fails, and disgust with the level of virtriol spewed by the far left.

[Miristheiss]

I think women do.

First, as men. We know that we do everything that actually makes the world work. Women do air conditioned office work at a computer. Men grow and produce all the food, they build every single thing that exists, there is electricity and power because men build, engineer and maintain the power grid, their is running water and clean drinking water because men deal with the water system there is plumbing because men do it, there is gas in our gas tanks because men find it, harvest it and refine it and transport it. Men do EVERYTHING. Women just complement men.

So men do the important stuff.

We reject the pride they feel because they may get a high paying job. Women are the ones who always want to date across and up. So the more a woman makes she usually will then date fewer and fewer men because she still feels the guy has to take care of her. So they limit their OWN options due to their own BIAS.

Not men. They don't give a shit about your careers.

[SolitarySolace]

Not all men struggle with this, but societal expectations have long placed men in the role of providers, which can create pressure or discomfort when that dynamic shifts. However, times are changing, and many men today embrace the idea of financial equality—or even being with a partner who earns more—without feeling diminished.

The real issue isn’t about who earns more, but about mutual respect and shared values. If a man feels insecure about his girlfriend making more, it’s usually due to outdated gender norms or personal self-worth, rather than any inherent problem with the relationship itself.

What do you all think? Do you believe societal expectations still make this an issue for many men, or is it becoming less relevant?

• Eva ❤️

[glennos89]

Not at all, as long as she isn't fully committed into her career like most feminists do I'm perfectly fine with her making more money as me.

But woman that are very career oriented are a big turn off for me because that's a masculine behaviour which is not attractive at all

[sawno]

If she did and didn't mind i'd be fine with it. The problem is that in a traditional family dynamic and expectation this creates a ton of friction.

[Spencer10]

It would never bother me. I would embrace her success. Its the 21st century right? Just dont rub my nose in it. But I would never date a woman like that anyway.

[Syntosi]

Men? No. Insecure men? Yes. Personally I would just be happy that my family was doing better than just relying on me.

[ProbablyClueless]

I don't! But I've also never dated a woman who felt the need to get shitty about money.

There are A LOT OF WOMEN WHO FEEL THE NEED TO GET SHITTY ABOUT MONEY.

[molonski2]

Its NEVER happened , but I would certainly love it , as long as she was financially responsible , and literate ( financially ) .

[Shiprex]

Not always but often women lose respect for the men who were there when they were being built up and once they aren't seen as value added they start looking for a new upgrade.

[Joshydavid25]

No, it's more like the pressure to make more money than your woman if you wanna be seen as a man.. It's not so much that men can't accept it...

[Avicenna]

I think it's more likely that women have a problem with making more than their boyfriend does, but, sure some guys do.

[Sunrising]

If they're doing the same job YES !

We want sexual equality 🤣

[FunkyMonkee]

I never had a problem with it! So she makes more than I do! Who cares? She makes what she makes, I make what I make.

[exitseven]

There were times when my wife earned more money than me. It never bothered me. We are a team.

[alice55]

Idon't think they care much as long as she don't boast about him but Im' not a man so

[Bklynbadboy12]

I don't mind it at all it's not like I make 20,000 a year and she makes 80,000 I make six figures and if she can do better than that I be happy for her cause that means we could do some great things together financially

[TrustOfWorthington]

Many guys seem to be unable to comprehend that. I don't mind, it would be probably relaxing so I'd know we're both able to keep ourselves afloat.

[RedInnocent69]

Some do. It challenges their traditional sense of manhood. I like to think I could get used to it, but unlikely to ever find myself in that position

[Dongie]

That would be great as long as she isn't arrogant. The girl in the picture is smokin'! Big pretty mouth.🥀🍷❤️‍🔥

[Staximus]

Half of my friends' girlfriends and wives make more money than them, and I haven't heard them complaining about that at all

[RedThread]

I'd be totally fine with that. I would love and support my partner's success.

[OddBeMe]

I would guarantee that. Whether they choose to let it bother them, diff story.

Chivalry has flipside.

[Surely]

As long as she helps with the household bills. Wouldn’t bother me in the least.

[masterSir]

Doesn't matterhorn much they make as a girl friend. She became a housewife when we got married.

[fish5505_87]

Mine does, but I work harder and more hours, that's what I find hard to accept. lol

[Anonymous]

Not a problem for me. But that might be cause I like dominant girls.

[Drumlin2001]

I wish she did, would make life so much easier

[loveslongnails]

Doesn't bother me!!

[jahaims]

That would depend on the individual not gender

[RyanEC]

I think some would but most wouldn’t care.

[Ironco]

In today's world, I wouldn't care.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Many, yes. I wouldn't.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

A man no a boy yes

[Cyrus000]

Nah not really.

[nawtee_me]

Not at all

[Anonymous]

Some do, I don't

[Catdirt]

I don’t