Is it a turn off when a man acts like a big kid (personality wise)?

[Anonymous]

I kind of like this guy at my job. He’s some type of chef and I think it’s attractive.. I think he takes care of his responsibilities…I hear him talk about marriage. He said he doesn’t want his girlfriend to work… but then he said he wants his wife to make more… and he feels he should wait to afford a ring I don't know..

but there are some things about him that I’m not so sure about. He loves anime a lot. He has a anime character tattooed on his arm. He even chants the anime thing… like dragon ball or Naruto…He curses but not whole lot… but enough. He plays video games like call of duty and sometimes he gets high.

But I just feel like he’s so good in bed. He’s confident and he works hard.

is this just a guy thing or…. He still got some growing up to do.

[Anonymous]

I believe it’s a male thing. Maybe not anime as far as every man liking it but as men we all have our little interest. So long as his interest don’t get in the way of his responsibilities. I think we as men don’t grow up quick the way society says women do because time isn’t against us as far as having kids, a family, etc. A man can be in his 40s, even older yet still have kids. Who knows maybe you may even partake in some of those things w him. The way I look at it better him at home playing his stupid game than out partying, getting drunk, not knowing if he’s w other women or what. I myself play video games at 45, that’s my outlet from not blowing up at the world sometimes. It’s a stress reliever. Before I used to drink a lot, I mean a lot. Now I’m home. We also watch basketball together which she never really did, but now I think she’s a bigger fan than I am. Besides I don’t think you want a man who’s too serious, no fun in life.

[Asker]

Very true… I like that perspective.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Nope. No anime.
That would be a hard no if I were you

[Anonymous]

It depends on the woman. Most immature women are drawn to this in men.

Sounds like you both got a bit of growing up to do.

[Asker]

I’m not drawn to this at all … but do I throw away a man just because he’s imperfect? I don’t think he’s bad but I don’t know

What defines a man…

[Opinion Owner]

There's nothing wrong with youthful exuberance until the time comes when you need to adult. This isn't rocket science. It's not that hard to tell when someone has that in vs. One that doesn't. Sounds to me like you're lying to yourself. It sounds to me like you just want this guy to be certain way.