If a guy says to a girl ” it’s been very nice to talk to you and get to know you” how would you interpreted it?

[Anonymous]

How would you interpreted it?

[Finchie40]

, if I say that to a girl , I am basically saying I would like to do it again, letting her know I am interested in her but I truly don’t know how she feels about it? , so in a sense I am putting the ball in her court allowing her to make a decision on whether she wants to do it again or go or separate ways. We as people can’t read each others minds , We truly don’t know what someone’s intentions truly are. If I see a beautiful girl that catches my eye and I approach her and start up a conversation with her , I have no clue what her intentions are or what her relationship status is , if I end up having great conversation with her and I enjoyed the time I spent with her , I will basically let her know that I enjoyed talking to her and getting to know her allowing her to make a decision on whether she wants to continue seeing me again or not

[Asker]

What if he was doing this “ he's trying to politely draw everything to a close”
Why emphasize it was very nice to get to know me etc

[Finchie40]

What do you mean by politely draw everything to a close? Was he implying that he doesn’t t want to see you again or was he just laying everything on the table to you to the point it ‘s like take it or leave it?

[Asker]

Yeah. He said because of our different life goals we shouldn’t continue to date. I don't know was his ”it was very nice to get to know” implying that he otherwise did like me

[Finchie40]

Then it was just a polite way of letting you go , and for him to move on without you being angry or upset with him based off of his decision.. Whether he is telling you the truth or not as to why he doesn’t want to see you anymore, that’s a whole different story , cuz to me it sounds like a lame reason to end things with someone , but who knows , it’s his loss not yours , if he truly valued you he wouldn’t of ended things with you period , my advice to you is to just move on and do not give him another chance period , cuz he might just be weighing his options and trying to keep you on the back burner if things don’t work out while he is weighing his options , One thing I learned in life is to never allow yourself to be someone’s convenience, if someone truly values you they don’t need time away from you period

[slatyb]

As it was spoken? Were you hoping for more? If you want a date, ask for one.

[Asker]

In general I want to know what it could mean

[Asker]

Since he said “very”

[Pinay_ako]

Depends… some people are just nice about it. Doesn’t have to mean anything than what it is. If it’s during date, then yes they’d wanna know you more. There’s some attraction or interest at least… to go on. But one thing’s for sure you made a pleasant impression on them

[Asker]

Why emphasize it was very nice to get to know me etc

He sent me long pragraph actually. He said I’m very nice person and have a good heart. He said he thought we shouldn’t continue to date because we have different life goals

[Spongebobssocks]

I would see it as he is not intressted and wants to move on to someone else.

[Asker]

Why emphasize it was very nice to get to know me etc

He sent me long pragraph actually. He said I’m very nice person and have a good heart. He said he thought we shouldn’t continue to date because we have different life goals

[Spongebobssocks]

Then that's why. You have different life goals. Best to move on then

[Asker]

Why would he want to reject me in the ”most nicest” way though? Does he want to keep the door open? Did he have feelings for me but we just wasn’t compatible

[Spongebobssocks]

He is just trying to be nice. Which makes it worse for you😭😅 but just take it as a compliment and move on. That's what I would do

[Asker]

What should I take it as compliment?

[Spongebobssocks]

That it was nice getting to know you etc

[Asker]

But how was it nice to get to lnow me when he didn’t want to continue to date

[Spongebobssocks]

Men are more logical on average than women when it comes to these areas. He can think everything felt great but because he sees different futures he break it off.

[Spongebobssocks]

Thank you for MHO! Wish you the best!

[als24]

Either he wants to do something similar again or he's trying to politely draw everything to a close. Depends on the context.

[Asker]

What if he was doing this “ he's trying to politely draw everything to a close”
Why emphasize it was very nice to get to know me etc

[als24]

In that context, I think he's just trying to end everything on a really positive note and doesn't want you to get upset if you don't hear from him again.

[Asker]

Obviously I would get upset. His ”nice” words don’t change that. I don't know what he was thinking. And also saying I’ll meet someone soon

[crossdressingrihno]

I would take it at face value and not really care that much.

[MustangGirl01]

I would feel like he’s wanting more than friends in relationship

[Asker]

Why emphasize it was very nice to get to know me etc

He sent me long pragraph actually. He said I’m very nice person and have a good heart. He said he thought we shouldn’t continue to date because we have different life goals

[AngryCarl2]

I'm glad I met you but I never want to see you again.

[Asker]

Why emphasize it was very nice to get to know me etc

He sent me long pragraph actually. He said I’m very nice person and have a good heart. He said he thought we shouldn’t continue to date because we have different life goals

[AngryCarl2]

That's basically what I said. He's letting you down easy.

[Asker]

Why would he want to let me down easy?

[In_Trance]

I think think it's been nice to talk and get to know

[Asker]

What if he was doing this “ he's trying to politely draw everything to a close”
Why emphasize it was very nice to get to know me etc

[In_Trance]

So you walk away with the thought of him being good. A nice guy.
It's a validation tactic

[Asker]

Why would he want validation? Is he tryibg to keep the door open..

[In_Trance]

everybody wants validation... you included

[Asker]

You didn’t answer my second question. Is he trying to keep the door open? It seem like he didn’t want to burn bridges

[In_Trance]

No idea. you'd have to ask him

[Shashou2210]

That’s a wrap …. He doesn’t want to talk as it’s a politically correct way to dismiss someone

[Asker]

Why emphasize it was very nice to get to know me etc

[Shashou2210]

It’s to avoid explaining the whys … it’s an easy way out for him not to engage in explanations.
You simply reply: Likewise. Take care

[Asker]

He sent me long pragraph actually. He said I’m very nice person and have a good heart. He said he thought we shouldn’t continue to date because we have different life goals

[Shashou2210]

Was the paragraph before of after the “was very nice getting to know you”?

[Asker]

It was in the beginning of that long paraghraph

[Shashou2210]

That was to summarize the break-up and keep a clean exit.
Don’t settle for less than what you deserve and if there were truly different life goals then it is what it is.
Keep your head high and stay positive.

[Asker]

During our first date He asked me “ if you had kids would you like to stay at home or work?

I wasn’t expecting that question..

Before that I did asking during our date what his future plans were I don't know if that was too much lol

After the date he told me our life goals are not aligned and we shouldn’t continue to see each other. When I asked what plans didn’t align he said just in general level they’re not align.

[glennos89]

He probably likes you a lot

[Asker]

Why do you think so?

[glennos89]

That's what I would say if I really liked a girl I talked to for the first time 🤷‍♂️

It's kind of a subtle hint but what I actually would mean with those words is... Damn I really wanne get to know you better because I think I wanne get together with you because Im totally attracted to you 🫣

[Asker]

What if guy says that to a girl after their first date?

[glennos89]

He is interested in dating you

[Asker]

Doesn’t kind of sound too friendly instead of something that show romantic interest? He didn’t say I’m beautiful etc

[glennos89]

Have you said to him that he looks good? Have you told him anything that makes him feel secure enough to be able to open up to you?

This is the problem that a lot of woman have, no offence to you! Woman expect that the guys put in all the effort to progress forwards but woman doesn't seem willing to put in some effort themselves in order for the guy to feel comfortable enough to speak his mind without having to be afraid to be called a pervert or freak. Because a lot of woman out there are threating guys they dont like as shit. Being a guy is difficult and you have to be really carefull with what you say or do to a woman. That's the sad truth 🤷‍♂️

[Asker]

Earlier during texting I did told him he looks good when he sent me a picture

[glennos89]

Ooh okay then he should step up his game for sure 🤷‍♂️

[Jazzy54]

Was he ending the conversation for the night?

[mommymommymommy]

wouldn't it depend on what YOU want

[Anonymous]

It's done. Let us move on.

[Asker]

So in other words mean I’m done with you?

[Anonymous]

Id view it as positive.

[Asker]

What if guy says that to a girl after their first date?

[Asker]

Doesn’t kind of sound too friendly instead of something that show romantic interest? He didn’t say I’m beautiful etc

[Opinion Owner]

That's ok in my opinion.

[Asker]

Why do you think it was ok?

[Opinion Owner]

Because he wants to get to know you.

[Anonymous]

Bring polite after the convo ends

[Asker]

Why emphasize it was very nice to get to know me etc

He sent me long pragraph actually. He said I’m very nice person and have a good heart. He said he thought we shouldn’t continue to date because we have different life goals

[Opinion Owner]

Oh he was rejecting you in the nicest way possible

[Asker]

Why would he want to do it ”most nicest” way though? Does he want to keep the door open? Did he have feelibgs for me but we just wasn’t compatible

[Opinion Owner]

He rejected you the nicest way because he thinks you're a nice person and doesn't want to break your heart. He might not feel compatible with u but he can see ur a human with emotions so he wants to reject you gently.

[Asker]

Do you think his reason was geniuine though (different life goals)?

[Opinion Owner]

Well what are his and urs life goals?

[Asker]

during our first date I asked him what his future plans were. I don't know if that was too much lol

Then he asked me“ if you had kids would you like to stay at home or work?

I wasn’t expecting that question..

After the date he told me our life goals are not aligned and we shouldn’t continue to see each other. When I asked what plans didn’t align he said just in general level they’re not align.

[Asker]

Before our first date he did told he want to have big family. I also told him I want several kids too.

During the date I told him when kids are little I would stay at home and when they’re bigger I would work. maybe when I told him I would like to continue my studies at some point and get better job it was contradicting me wantind kids/ big family. I also said after 10 years I would like to move abroad

[Opinion Owner]

Oh maybe he doesn't want to move abroad

[Asker]

After the date he told me our life goals are not aligned and we shouldn’t continue to see each other. When I asked what plans didn’t align he said just in general level they’re not align.

[Asker]

Why didn’t he want to tellme what exactly didn’t align

[Opinion Owner]

Oh maybe he's not attracted to u and used that as an excuse

[Asker]

So otherwise he would’ve told him what didn’t align?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah

[Asker]

Some people say he was being genuine

[Opinion Owner]

Those people are wrong

[Asker]

Why are you so sure?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm smart

[Asker]

Yeah right

[Opinion Owner]

Girl he's not interested! Move on. U seem pathetic