Why do straight guys feel threatened around gay guys?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Because, without exception, whenever I leave my house I am targeted and harassed by them wherever I go:

In addition to staring, they make sexual gestures, touch themselves, stroke their hair, cough as they pass me, reach out their leg/s towards me, make weird facial expressions (moving their jaw all the way right/left), cross their legs and posturing at me, and talking in an uncomfortable way to name a few.

Instead of stopping when I tell them to stop, and that I do not consent, they move closer and double down; so I now have to raise my voice so that those around me will peer pressure them to stop harassing me.

Today, when I was at five guys, the cook looked at me coughed to get my attention whilst cooking my burger, and then spoke in a really high pitch accent when giving it to me. I left it on the counter and forfeit the £8.65. I'm not eating something coughed on.

Last week I was spat at by a man I told to stop staring and touching himself (I initially didn't say anything and moved all the way to the back of the bus, but he just turned around and kept doing it) and then after getting a doughnut from Tim Hortons to calm down, I was targeted by another who tried to stalk me home during the dark. They only stopped following me when I broke a stick off a fallen tree branch and carried it for protection.

I don't dress in any particular way, I never style myself, and even in dirty old clothes, they don't get the message. The only way I can be safe is to surround myself with women, which isn't hard but not always an option. I am a traditional man who dresses and acts as such. I have naturally good looks by others' standards, fair hair, broad shoulders, but I cannot go out without being targeted for them.

Any responses legitimising sexual harassment or questioning my identity should be removed.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Threatened? That's news to me. I don't know anyone who feels threatened.
The guys I know, including conservatives, have no problem with gays who don't act ridiculous.
Maybe some people just don't care to be around activists or the kind of gay guys who flaunt their overly sexualized gayness. Nobody has a right to be liked or accepted.

There are some gay guys I really like and some who make me absolutely sick.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Not threaded but they just feel wrong to be around.

My hubby put it to being in a single women's group for him. Not supposed to be there! I'd be pissed so why would I not be mad a guy will flirt with him.

Won't be the first time lol shameless

menina · Accepted Answer

I'd say it's either because they believe that just because a man is gay he's going to be attracted to them. Or it's because they're homophobic.

Sonorous · Answer

Funny because I was confused at the word threatened too. But when I thought about it, if someone doesn't want to be around a gay person because they're gay. Which I've seen many many times. Even to the point where the gay person would get beat up if they kept interacting with the person. Then it would mean that the persons disgust sensitivity is very high for gay people. And your guard only comes up when you feel threatened. Otherwise you'll behave as if you're in a safe environment.

So, I think that's the right word to use. A lot of them feel threatened by them. But mainly because they don't want to be associated with a gay person. And if we're thinking rationally, we don't just become threatened by something unless there's a possible disadvantage ahead. And they could feel that. Even if it's not true.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

My little brother just doesn't like being around them. he's fine around a friend of mine who's gay but he says for the most part he doesn't feel comfortable around them. He says most of the ones he meets act a certain way that he doesn't want to be around.

I think threatened is a pretty strange word to use. I think some people make their sexuality a major part of their personality in a way that a straight person won't. I got no problem personally with whatever someone's into but if I can tell your sexuality before I can even speak a first word to you, you don't see how that makes some people uncomfortable? Lol

Stoner710 · Answer

Because they’re stupid, I don’t want gay folks wearing at assless cap in a gay pride parade like they did in LA. But you do what you want in your bed room idc I’m not gay but I don’t care if you kiss your boyfriend before you go to class or work. I don’t announce that I’m strayed. I don’t see why you need to announce that you’re gay. I don’t think Gaby boys should be persecuted or beaten. I don’t think gay marriage is a thing because marriage is between a man and a woman with the interest of bearing and raising children, but idc if you’re gay have fun with whom ever you want. I understand the tax benefits when it comes to “gay marriage” which is why I support the idea of civil unions, but I’m not uncomfortable. I took gym class with a gay guy. He saw me in my boxers every single day did care issues with the trans crap

RingOfFire · Answer

I don't feel threatened I feel disgusted and repulsed. I think it is a normal and natural reaction to things that are unnatural which homosexuality clearly is since if everyone were homosexual there would be no human race. It is a defect. I have had lots of times when homosexual men flirted with me or made suggestive comments, even if they were my friends and knew I wasn't interested. It disgusts me. When I was in my 20s some guys were following me around the streets in a major city like stalkers and making sexual comments and I wanted to throw up. I don't care what you do in the privacy of your own home. Just like with any other defect, I don't hold it against the person as long as they respect me. But keep it to yourself. That's all I ask. If you want to flaunt it, have sexual demonstrations in the streets, you are a crass, classless person who is disrespectful of others and deserve all the scorn and disrespect that you get back in return.

ManOnFire · Answer

The only gay men I ever felt threatened by were gay  predators  at the gym when I was growing up, pedophiles that waited till you went into the locker room to try to talk to you or purposely undress very close to you or get in the shower stall next to yours. Apart from those, your average gay man has never been threatening to me.

Nikki1989 · Answer

They are either homophobes or just really insecure.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I think there’s a couple reasons

1. They’re afraid that gay men will treat them the way they treat women themselves. A lot of straight men (not all) are creeps towards women. They don’t respect their boundaries and they feel gay men will do the same to them.

2. cause they’re in the closet and they’re afraid of finding men attractive so they get defensive

CrazyKittyStyx · Answer

I have a few good gay friends and I don’t get this either! It’s a bit like being around a gay man implies they’re gay too! I believe there are studies showing that men are more likely to think women are attracted to them when they aren’t and women are more likely to think men aren’t attracted to when they are. Confusing but it does explain why a straight man might automatically assume that a gay man fancies him and then act all weird around them.

Meropatrick · Answer

Because not all gay guys are nice and Some of them are really flirty and too much with the sexual remarks. I dont like people who act overly sassy or play a character while they r talking to me an lisp and snap fingers and shyt. Even if a girl did it its annoying as fuck. Dude talk like a human and not like a chipmunk or get the fuck outta my face

richardcory · Answer

Doesn't bother me. Heck when I was younger, I realized that each gay guy was increasing the ratio of available women to men in the area

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Why do you assumed that heterosexual men are “threatened” by you? Feeling “threatened” is not the only reason why people would not want to be around you. But claiming that they feel “threatened” may make you feel better.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I won't say threaten but rather uncomfortable.

I have been around gay guys before and I talk with one of my classmates who was gay but they didn't cross a line with me with that gay ish unlike some gay guys that do be acting flirty with men who aren't gay.

AaronKrieger · Answer

I've never felt threatened before by a gay guy. Hell, even a friend of mine in 8th/9th grade liked me and I was fine with him calling me hot. He knows I'm straight and never crossed a boundary by never doing anything beyond that.

LazerBean · Answer

They don't feel threatened, they feel disgusted. And that is because some people find homos disgusting.

Azizdarealist · Answer

I'm not sure because I feel like I do around anyone else. Someone being gay has no affect on me. I'm quite comfortable around gay people. I actually get a little more feminine myself around gay friends. Not interested in anyone's sex life and I'm comfortable in my sexuality. What I see sometimes is men who are too insecure and want to be macho, I'm not sure what that accomplishes other than looking like a tool.

nolookingbackx · Answer

I don't know, maybe they feel like they might hit on them and it's kinda awkward.

magiusX26 · Answer

am i supposed to feel threatened? news to me. one of better friends in high school was a very openly gay guy. he had troubles in his home so he wound up moving in with us for a ywar or 2. i shared my room with him with no issues.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

I think those who are threatend are afraid a gay guy may treat them the same way the straight guy is treating women.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Do they really? People assume I'm gay all the time and whilst I don't come across too many gay guys, I don't have a problem with them.

Levin · Answer

No issues, I just have bad experiences of them hitting on me, including one who tried to grope me. There's some fucking creeps out there.

normalice · Answer

Because of the barely-controllable urge to get our dick sucked whenever possible might result in having less cum to offer the next girl we see.

chicken_nugget24 · Answer

Most of them don't but some do because gay people are comfortable with themselves, have confidence, dress better etc.

AviatorTom · Answer

A former friend of mine thought that being gay was contagious, so he avoided gay guys. That was crazy, as were some of his other ideas.

fonduegirl · Answer

Because consent suddenly makes sense when a gay guy hits on a straight one

stepyo99 · Answer

To feel threatened, I would have to perceive some sort of danger. The primary feeling I get around gay guys is disgust.

Fuentes · Answer

I don't feel threatened I am actually nice when at work, but I don't agree with the life style so we won't be friends but that doesn't mean I don't see them as humans.. I just don't agree. A man should be a MAN if you ask me.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Because straight people are weird and generally not ok.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I didn't know that was a thing. I don't hang out with insecure guys I guess.

reds-noro · Answer

Unfamiliarity -> Unwilling to accept people that they consider too different.

Anonymous · Answer

Too broad a generalization. Never seen a straight guy get intimidated by a gay guy. They may dislike gay people for whatever reason, but that doesn’t necessarily indicate intimidation or insecurity.

Anonymous · Answer

We don’t all feel threatened. I will say this; as a straight guy that has been hit on by gay guys; I understand how women feel when dealing with unwanted advances.

Exterminatore · Answer

I find it hard to imagine straight guys feel threatened by guys who talk with a lisp, where their moms panties, and is limp wristed.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Is there any way gag can ban nonsense questions like this?

Tomisworthless · Answer

I feel threatened that they might see me as gay since everyone assumes I am which would only confirm the sssumptions

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I don't. Each faggot is one 'competitor' less :D

exitseven · Answer

I don't feel threatened by gay guy. None of the other guys I know feel threatened either.

Anonymous · Answer

Because gay guys are all d-generates. Repr-bate , Perv-rted , Homo-philes. 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡

sheikalana · Answer

I don't think they do LOL. My best friends are gay and I never heard them saying such thing.

Thongboner420 · Answer

Straight guys act threatened around gay guys because they assume they will try to have sex with them. Witch is not true in most cases. I'm gay but u would not guess by my appearance. Until I take off my clothes u never know I wear thongs.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Not sure they do. My OH has a number of gay friends. Never had an issue with any of them

Provingdatruth · Answer

Because they don’t want gay gays to be attracted to them?

VforVindication · Answer

Threatened? I just don't want any gay friends because all they think about is fucking an asshole ffs. That is enough to keep me the fuck away from those dirty perverted freaks.

Luopio27 · Answer

More like afraid of being sexually harrased by a man. That is the same fear many women have over straight guys.

Christoff92 · Answer

Because gay men are totally gentleman to the ladies. Why because they're not attracted to the opposite sex.

JCT666 · Answer

Well, for me, because in the few occasions where a gay man has hit on me, they have been very inappropriate.

Anonymous · Answer

We don’t. We’re just looking at how weird and creepy you appear and judging you for your sick perverse lifestyle.

Anonymous · Answer

There is a huge difference between “threatened” and annoyed.

genericname85 · Answer

they don't. and the assumption that they do is pretty damn narcissistic.

msc545 · Answer

I don't mind., I'm not gay or bi but I have many colleagues who are gay and friends that are gay. No worries.

AydenHazor · Answer

Those who do it's usually because they're afraid gay guys will treat them like they treat women.

AimeeKyle · Answer

I don’t believe that’s true, at least not from my experience/POV.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Inexperienced cisgenders aren’t used to guys flirting with them

Anonymous · Answer

Because they're afraid they won't be found attractive

Anonymous · Answer

Not sure why you think this is a widespread thing. From what I've observed, most straight guys just think--SWEET! Less competition for me!

Anonymous · Answer

I have been molested by gay men twice so far. I have not reported it. Other straight guys will make fun of you, in case of reporting.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't, I just don't like being hit on by gay dudes.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

That doesn't make sense.

gothbxtch · Answer

because they’re gross homophobes

tzdc21 · Answer

Threatened? Huh. I don't feel threatened.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

Probably more disturbed than threatened.

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