What does a guy consider a “fit looking body” on a female?

[Anonymous]

As a female, I tend to get worried often about my body. I’m not necessarily big, but I don’t have a thigh gap, a six-pack or flat stomach (I have a little pouch/bump at the bottom). I have muscle, but I’m not a “bodybuilder” body type. I get worried that this isn’t necessarily attractive because of the media, so I figured I’d get honest opinions from people around me or online. What’s considered an attractive, “fit” body to you guys?

[EnnyT-S]

You are absolutely being made to doubt yourself because of ridiculous images in the media. If you are healthy-looking, that's all that matters. Purely aesthetically, men, like women, have varying tastes, but when it comes to realtionships, it really is more about the person as a whole. If you have confidence in yourself, you'll be attractive.

So, keep fit to the extent you want to, and do it for yourself, not anyone else. Guys will be attractd to you.

[Anonymous]

That varies. But at your age girls and boys both tend to be a little ridiculous. The best thing you can do is love who you are. Because half of what makes someone attractive is self confidence. If you don't believe you're attractive it's hard for others to believe it as well.

[inhua]

that depends on who you're trying to attract

if you're trying to attract a super fit equivalent then staying reasonably fit is fine. the same applies to any other guy of varying fitness levels

[BarryLiverstone]

The honest answer is guys use their eyes to see what she looks like to determine if she is attractive. Being fit can help.

[BarryLiverstone]

By the media, are you saying you compare what you look like to others?

[Asker]

Yeah. Between models, editing, influencers, and the female body builders you see, it’s hard not to.

[BarryLiverstone]

I can’t remember seeing a female body builder and considering them to be attractive. Do you think that’s the ideal?

[Asker]

I mean, yeah, in a sense. They’re slim and whatnot. Usually, you don’t see any fat on their bodies 😅

[BarryLiverstone]

As a guy, I can be confident and say lots of guys don’t want to be into a girl who has no fat like body builders. Is that a look girls want in a guy?

[Asker]

Not necessarily, no. Fit, yes. But to have no fat is unnerving to see on a male. I get worried there is an eating disorder involved

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya it’s kinda the same. Like zero fat would be very boney, bulging muscles.

[BarryLiverstone]

But like you said, models often are edited.

Honestly when I’m at the beach I see lots of attractive people walking around. Natural, not fake, just being active.

[Asker]

Yeah, that’s valid. I guess it makes sense. That number on the scale just seems high 😅.

[BarryLiverstone]

What’s a better number? Like we all have individual bodies and muscles and carry weight differently. If it said 130 would you still worry? Or 145

[BarryLiverstone]

Actually I feel ya. I remember being at a low weight after puberty and wanting to be like other guys lol

[Asker]

Honestly, yeah. That’s why I asked. Being above 130 seems like a lot. And like it maybe appears like a lot

[Asker]

Valid. The system gets into everyone’s heads 😅. Glad we had this talk! Seeing it from another perspective is def important

[BarryLiverstone]

No cap :)

[Avicenna]

No one expects perfection, really. It's kind of in the eye of the beholder.

[Wise4myage]

For me, the athletic body type appeals to me the most.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

The difference between fat and fit is 8 letters

[DaBiggestBird]

I imagine muscular but not buff.

[barn_stormer]

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