We're only seeing each other but he won't commit?

[Anonymous]

I've gone on a few dates with a really nice guy. I asked him what he's looking for and he said he's "open to anything and seeing where it goes." A few days later I asked him if he's seeing anyone else and he said no. I asked if he wanted to keep it that way and he said he's not looking for a committed relationship. I asked if he wanted to just keep seeing each other without a label or if he wanted to see other people. He said he didn't have a good answer but he doesn't want to be exclusive or be my boyfriend. He also made it clear he's not interested in anyone else. We agreed that we'd keep doing what we're doing until further notice, but I'm having second thoughts. I just don't understand why he can't commit to me when he's not interested in other women.

[Lokiion]

Some people just don’t want to commit to anyone or he not attracted to you he could like your company and talking to you but he physically isn’t attracted to you or he is talking to other girls and you just don’t know however if you think commitments so important just call him and tell him something along the lines of “I can not keep talking to you if you will not commit to this relationship if you can’t I will have no other choice but to stop talking to you and find another person” and with that he will either commit or leave

[Asker]

He is attracted to me and he says he isn't talking to other girls but commitment is important to me so I think I'll be taking your advice. Thank you.

[Lokiion]

No problem always happy to help although I would like to know how it plays out

[EricSummer]

Is it really important to find out why he does not want to be your boyfriend? I think the main point is that he is not willing or able to give you what you want. Maybe he is just looking for casual sex, who knows?

The important point for you will be to move on and find somebody who desires being your boyfriend. I think you should insist on having someone who is on fire for you and easily gives up all potential other women to be with you.

[236color]

What do you mean by commit? Agree to be exclusive, or move in/get married? If he's a similar age to you, it's too young for most guys to consider making long term commitments.

[Avicenna]

Could be that he doesn't want to commit to anyone, period. Or maybe he feels like he hasn't gotten to know you well enough yet.

[spartan55]

Keep asking him over and over again until he gives you the answer you want. Guys love that!

[Lokiion]

That’s quiet literally one of the stupidest things I’ve ever heard in my life YOU may like that but for the majority of people they just gonna get annoyed and never talk to you again

[spartan55]

It's called sarcasm sir.

[Lokiion]

It’s hard to understand sarcasm through text sir without any time of clear indication that it’s sarcasm

[spartan55]

Sure thing.

[JB2255]

It sounds like he isn't the one, if you are compatible with another person you would know somewhat if at least in the short term they would make a good partner.

[Lokiion]

Not all people operate like that he could just like to talk to her and not be attracted to her he could just not want to commit there are endless possibilities Ik it’s the social norm to date someone that could be a good partner but some people just don’t like titles and stuff like that

[Iron_Man]

Be careful, he might just want sex