Trust me, try to move on. This happened to me and the guy and I got into a situationship for a year after he dumped me for the same reasons, thinking I could change his mind. Surprise surprise, nothing changed. Men like that are unable to stay in relationships. In my exes words, “I thought I’d try to make it work but I’m just not a relationship guy”. I’m sorry but he won’t change :/ give him time and space and he’ll either realize what he lost and come crawling back, or he’ll move on and you’ll have lost a loser.
As far as i can confer upon this is you only know one side of him as he has portrayed uptil now. Assuming not enuf sex b/w both has happened and guess both dont meet enough he has explored his wilder side too that is being in a relationship simultaneously looking for others and i guess he did have chances many time but he refused. Though he is a self-doubting person which gives me hint that you are normal innocent girl. But you are his real rescue at this point of time coz he doesn't know that he won't get the same stage/start again. COnfront him to be single or wait coz one should not decide in bad times
Yep. He failed you. A relationship infraction with a terrible reason to break up. Nothing you can do to salvage the situation but rest assured if he ever comes crawling back to you, remind him of his own words "wanting to explore and find someone, who is compatible", then turn it around him and tell him to move on, leave you be and not to contact you anymore.
Sorry for your loss girl. You did not deserve that and definitely did not deserve to waste your time on him. Sending you hugs if you need them.
There's not much to be said.
Many people (young guys especially) need to explore the world alone, find out who they are, how they are seen in the world.
Four years is a long time by many metrics. If he didn't break up with you to go do this, he's already anticipating that he would regret it. He's in his prime years, and he wants to test his market value out there probably.
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If after 4 years of being in relationship he isn't sure what he wants, he doesn't want a relationship. It probably hit him one day that the time to get married/properly settle down isn't in the future anymore, It's now, and that scared him.
You may have been compatible as boyfriend and girlfriend, but from what you've said I don't think he wants to be married. He could well be telling the truth when he says he still loves you, but that doesn't mean you should stay with him if he isn't willing to go as far you want. He's had long enough to decide. I wish you the best.
I think this dude has deep issues, and If I where you i'd give him some hard time coming back to me, IF AT ALL...
He does not deserve a second chance, unless he shows you in a GALACTICAL way that he is sorry, other than that NO.
It's sad that he wasted 4 years of your life, this dude doesn't make sense you deserve so much better.
who cares? What do you want? How much longer are you willing to wait? in my opinion you have waited too long already. Date other people. If your goal is to be married in, say, three years, tell them and see if they are interested. If they aren't, drop them.
He desires other girls. He wants to have sex with other girls. He wants to be single.
He simply doesn't want to settle by involving the government. He can happily remain settled with you as you have for four years, he simply doesn't want to escalate it to a situation where he isn't in control.
He got tired of you so is looking for better offers. I think you've been unceremoniously dumped. But he might be back for sex now and then.
You really thought he would commit to you after not having to for FOUR YEARS? You aren't very bright
He simply doesn't want to commit and he must be having solid reasons. It's better you should ask him.
Did you break up? Then just move on, he is playing games. I'll be he comes crawling back to you if you stop communicating with him. Break ups are hard but that's the way life is, unfair.
I stopped reading at "he loves me". Please break up with him and stop wasting your time.
He has decided that even though he loves you, you're not compatible.
You would need to ask him why he thinks that.
Probably got scared or felt under pressure that he had to settle down after being with you for so long
He thinks he can do better than you, and is just with you in the meantime while he tries to find someone better. You should dump him now
He is cheating on you
He wasted your youth
He’s waiting for someone better to come along
Sounds like you need to move on too
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