I have never been so confused on a relationship IN MY LIFE.
Met a guy. Military. Started off sporadic dates, then onto vacationing trips, making future plans, relationship official. Now total we only dated for about 2months. He lived an hour away from me and would make the drive several times a week. Wanted to meet my family, my son, my friends, wanted me to fly to his family’s for the holidays. He planned my entire birthday day a month out with four different reservations. wuld text me throughout the day.
Alllll of the things you do when you are genuinely into someone and saying all the things you want to do with someone you’re serious about. Right? He even brought back gifts for my son, was just very thoughtful and attentive.
Well. He tells me how he’s up for orders soon (which he did tell me about when we met) and is stressed and that he is worried about us if he has to move. Asks me if I would ever consider moving with him. Now. We are still very fresh for me to even know If I would travel to another state with my son for. But discussed that we can talk about it and weigh our options and what is best when we get there because he’s not moving for another 6months ! We have plenty of time…
Fast fwd. He gets his orders two days before my birthday and that’s it. He said once he moves he’s going on deployment so even if I moved that we would have to do long distance. He tells me he can’t do long distance and bam, that’s is. He asks me to leave his stuff on my porch. Doesn’t even see me. Or hug me or anything. Just complete 180 cold. The same person that just texted me three days prior “I’m so happy with where we’re at rn, you’re the best “
he initially told me he can’t do long distance Then said he was scared to commit and then said he “couldn’t do the kid situation”
then I see him on a dating app
Nothing he tells me makes sense. Everything was his idea, he was making all the future plans. I’m lost. How do u go from moving, to cold turkey ghosting?
Met a guy. Military. Started off sporadic dates, then onto vacationing trips, making future plans, relationship official. Now total we only dated for about 2months. He lived an hour away from me and would make the drive several times a week. Wanted to meet my family, my son, my friends, wanted me to fly to his family’s for the holidays. He planned my entire birthday day a month out with four different reservations. wuld text me throughout the day.
Alllll of the things you do when you are genuinely into someone and saying all the things you want to do with someone you’re serious about. Right? He even brought back gifts for my son, was just very thoughtful and attentive.
Well. He tells me how he’s up for orders soon (which he did tell me about when we met) and is stressed and that he is worried about us if he has to move. Asks me if I would ever consider moving with him. Now. We are still very fresh for me to even know If I would travel to another state with my son for. But discussed that we can talk about it and weigh our options and what is best when we get there because he’s not moving for another 6months ! We have plenty of time…
Fast fwd. He gets his orders two days before my birthday and that’s it. He said once he moves he’s going on deployment so even if I moved that we would have to do long distance. He tells me he can’t do long distance and bam, that’s is. He asks me to leave his stuff on my porch. Doesn’t even see me. Or hug me or anything. Just complete 180 cold. The same person that just texted me three days prior “I’m so happy with where we’re at rn, you’re the best “
he initially told me he can’t do long distance Then said he was scared to commit and then said he “couldn’t do the kid situation”
then I see him on a dating app
Nothing he tells me makes sense. Everything was his idea, he was making all the future plans. I’m lost. How do u go from moving, to cold turkey ghosting?
