Is he just not that into me?

[Anonymous]

It’s been six months. We have something going on. We talk and text and call every single day and not a day went by where we haven’t talked. He always reassured me Are texting me every single day in the morning call me every day. so I brought up that conversation,

“ are we friends with benefits, are we just friends?”

In the beginning, he said he wants to see where it goes. Then he says he likes being alone. Then he says he doesn’t have time to deal with the relationship right now because he has a lot going on with work. then he says he’s only into me and then I’m the only one that gets His attention. Then he says I really like you and I really care about you a lot and I Want to see you again then he says I want to see where things go again”

I’m 31 and he’s 18 years older than me I mean come on

[FoxyFatale]

Honestly, girl, he’s giving you all these mixed signals, and I get why you’re confused. Sounds like he’s unsure about what he wants or maybe just not ready for something serious. I’d suggest talking to him straight up about where you stand, because you deserve to know what’s really going on. Don’t settle for anything that doesn’t feel right.

[Asker]

He said if I wanted more with him, then he would be happy. It’s like what the hell man. I don’t get it.

[FoxyFatale]

Yeah, that’s super confusing to me. It sounds like he’s saying one thing but acting another way, and it keeps changing. If he’s not giving you clear answers, it’s totally okay to step back and figure out if that’s really what you want too.

[Asker]

I simply asked. Are you keeping your options open? If you are then I have no problem. I just need to know so I know where I stand so I don’t expect anything from you and I said at your age, you should already know what do you want me as just a friend or something and I said please don’t be one of those guys that just leads me on. I don’t have time for that. Obviously, I’m sure he has other options. I know guy would be totally 100% honest about not having other options that’s totally unrealistic. It’s like if we are just friends with benefits then tell me if we’re just friends then tell me if you don’t want anything more than you’re willing to give me then tell me. It’s like what do you want, dude?

[Asker]

But then I totally understand that it’s up to me to decide if I want to stick and put up with this stuff or not

[spartan55]

Stupid ass post. So you are really underage?

[BarryLiverstone]

He’s not into you and he’s not secure in himself

[Asker]

Not into me, even as friends?

[BarryLiverstone]

As friends prob, not a good friend but someone to talk to

[BarryLiverstone]

But have you been consistent with him? Have you initiated everyday and have you taken the lead?