Guys, do you outgrow being mean to girls even as an adult?

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I have this male co worker who likes to get in my face every single day just because and I never ever give him the reaction he wants. He likes to mind my business all the time, like what is up with him! He’s not my boss, nor a manager. But he’s always trying to get my attention. I ignore him or pretend I didn’t hear or see him. Coz he’s irritating the hell out of me. And imma about to report him! What should I do? I’m only 3 months on this job but I really like this job. I don’t want problems and he seems like the manager’s pet too.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Accepted Answer

Report what he is doing to you, using your phone if you can.

ProbablyClueless · Accepted Answer

A lot of guys out grow that kind of behavior, yeah.

ManOnFire · Answer

I think by the looks of it that he is either into you and trying to get a foot in the door by acting like a micromanager, so that eventually he can try to shoot his shot and ask you out, or he really is a manager's pet. Or both. I lean more towards the first option because I know a lot of guys try to play those kinds of games, acting as if they don't really like you and they're trying to be a pain as a way to actually get close to you. I could be totally wrong but that's what I'm thinking.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I'm not mean to people because of their package I'm mean to them when they suck as people, regardless of what they're packing between their legs. I don't know what your work environment is like where that's tolerated. I've only had two people get in my face at work. Both of them had time on the ground after proper warning to think about bad life choices. Granted both times I had to talk to HR about "anger issues" but I just explained I wasn't angry, not even at the time, just not going to tolerate horseshit from racist trash.

Fuentes · Answer

Sometimes u gotta push a hard line to let people to know when and how to fuck off. Ao u gotta tell him if he doesn't get that you been ignoring him, hey bro I don't know you so leave me alone and do your thing or fuck off. If he continues after that then u report him, but if you tell a man publicly or any weirdo I don't know YOU and why are you bothering me, that's more then enough to embarrass him just cause he's the managers pet doesn't mean he's gonna be OK with any type of harassment like that unless he wants to get sued or lose his job too lol

MementoMori777 · Answer

Just call him out on his behavior, no one expects to be called out and I have noticed this is an effective method to people that are annoying, ask him why he is always in your business, I don't know if that's a liable reason to report but if it is, why not lol

ohsheeT · Answer

I've ever never had to outgrow that because I've never done it and with your coworker one day you just need to smile at him and say hey  dude so how long the doctor say you're going to act this way

private_joy · Answer

I grew out of that behavior around middle school.
I know women do exact same thing to men.
They'll act aggressive or act very mean to the guy they like for no reason.
But sadly, some nice men will take it to heart that she doesn't like him and will move on.
And the girl would wonder why he's acting cold and distant around her.
Men and women do this type of behavior to each other all the time.
I believe most should stop doing this type of behavior after they finished middle school or high school.
If they continue to act like that after grade school shows they're very immature and juvenile.

MatthewA · Answer

Stand your ground , he might feel lonely and uncomfortable. Assuming you haven’t shown any interest in the past he could be acting desperate. I would suggest having a genuine conversation. Be considerate about his feelings, but be direct about your feelings. If nothing changes after , he probably is stubborn or just lack the emotional intelligence to understand and you should look to change your environment.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

I don't recall being that way around women. Maybe at age 8, when being nice to a gal, on my block, led to weirdos in the neighborhood accusing you and her of doing inappropriate things together, you shunned her just to protect yourself. Otherwise, no.

I only really get snippy with a woman if she's given me a very good reason to hold a grudge.

RoseySarah · Answer

Talk to her after recording him being so dumb on your phone! Men hate me cause I actually report Thier dumb buts at work! No they are dumb and only get worse!

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

I’d go ahead and report him. Regardless of if this is the “be mean bc of a crush” that’s not how adults do it and if he’s bothering you, make a complaint. It’s your job, not a social setting

236color · Answer

Some do, some don't. A lot of us men don't have a very high emotional IQ. Many of us barely understand what we are feeling and even fewer of us how to express it. Largely, male society in the US only appoves of anger as a male emotion. Fear, love, compassion, disappointment, sadness and so many others are seen as suspect, possibly gay.

peedy · Answer

I was never mean to anyone especially girls as a kid teenager and adult so I have no idea where you are coming from with that question

Billlewis · Answer

I don't think it's necessarily outgrowing being mean, as much as accepting the woman's inherent superiority over us.

slatyb · Answer

That's just obnoxious. Can you handle it, or do you need to talk to your manager? If it bothers you, take notes: when, where, what he said.

Andres77 · Answer

Is he married? Find his home number and call from someone else’s phone and leave anonymous messages for his wife. There are apps that disguise your voice and phone number.

thatshydork · Answer

This sounds like harassment. I’d tell him off and if he still doesn’t listen then report him.

pervertedjester · Answer

To the main question: We do for the most part but I still taunt from time to time in jest. To the Rest: What reaction is he looking for?

Juxtapose · Answer

If people kept getting in my face I would burp loudly.

msc545 · Answer

Yes, I mostly outgrown it. At least I used to until I got divorced from my ex who stole my child. After that I don't trust women at all.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I have never been mean to anyone unless they deserve it. You should just tell the guy to leave you alone because you are trying to work. Don't take crap from him

dolemite58 · Answer

He sounds like one of those weird guys that doesn’t pick up on social cues, there’s a difference between playfully busting a girls balls and harassing her. Id go above the manager to the boss if u have to.

Reorx · Answer

I finally did, ages 4 -12 I'd tease mercilessly the girl I liked. The best way to handle an instigator is to not give them the reaction they want.

Z1pTD · Answer

I know someone who was in a similar situation once. They ended up quitting and moving to get away from the guy and regretting they hadn't done so earlier.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

IF I was EVER mean to girls, I probably stopped by the time I was 12!!

Christoff92 · Answer

No. I just don't bother. One girl that was complaining about to another person. She was looking at me ready to cry. So I just stopped altogether 😃

Jerre · Answer

I am not mean to anyone, men or women. I do hope you can get through to this guy and hope he stops messing with you.

DerekC321 · Answer

I was never mean to girls. But your coworker sucks.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I don't remember ever being mean to girls or anyone else.

muscles_glasses · Answer

suprisingly I've found that being disinterested/rude to women gets more dates but thats not who I am or who I want to be

Rollingstones84 · Answer

I was never mean to them. Give them respect and they will give it back

frodoboi · Answer

Yes we. In fact it's nothing more or less than a choice. So find someone who chooses to not be mean. Self control as an adult is a must.

the_sinner · Answer

I’ve never been mean to girls intentionally and I never wish to do so.

Jennz6 · Answer

Guys are mean and I just don’t know what to do

jeffend888 · Answer

Then you need to change jobs. Because that isn't going away unless this guy leaves the company. That could be years.

DisturbedFanatic · Answer

Yeah he sounds like an office bully. I personally wouldn't endure it. Straight to HR.

Yut3n · Answer

Warn him to give you space. Then report him to hr for harassment if he doesn't let up

gothbxtch · Answer

he sounds like a total asshole

Belgie · Answer

Guys do, assholes don't.

TooHot2Care · Answer

"About to...3 months"? Rank: Doormat.

OddBeMe · Answer

This site proves otherwise. The alt right, anti-feminist inceldom proves otherwise.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I think most men are pretty nice to you, if you are nice to them too.

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Use him. Keep him on leash

Anonymous · Answer

If your only 3 months in and he's the manager's pet could he perhaps be monitoring you for the manager?

spartan55 · Answer

What do you mean by 'get in your face'?

EaterPeter · Answer

Not sure, it can be really difficult

rexret · Answer

Kick his balls. He'll learn.

Nominal · Answer

Stupydity, Report him.

BigDog1989 · Answer

lol, have seen republicans in congress?

lightbulb27 · Answer

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