Is he playing mind games?

[ThereIsNoPlot]

Basically, I have been friends with benefits with this guy, and I ended up catching feelings. He breaks it off with me for another girl but asks if we can still be friends. I said yes, but now I feel different. He really seems to like the other girl. I feel like I don’t want to be his friend because I cannot deal with the hurt. I told him that I don’t think we should be friends, and he responds that he wants to see me. Why is he doing this back and forth crap? It’s so confusing. I guess it’s not really confusing because he said what he meant. But why is he trying to hang out if he cut off everything first, and now I am second guessing if I made the right decision. Is he still trying to keep me in the loop? Should I take what he said and respect it? I’m just so confused because he seems like he’s trying to test if we will still be friends like he wanted.

[Alli39]

Ok so first off, he totally may be. I'm not saying he's not, but I will say it isn't necessarily that malicious/cold-hearted.

Aside from straight up disrespect for your feelings, he might just really value you as a friend and wanted to see you to discuss how to preserve that, or he might have slight feelings for you and is trying to sort that out on his end, but is going about it immaturely. Either way, just walk away. Feel free to meet him once to discuss where you both are at if that's what you want, but don't feel like you have to stay even if he asks. You've already stated that you aren't able to move past him while you're friends, and you're just going to hurt yourself and possibly him by sticking around. He shouldn't want that for either of you, and even if he really does value your friendship, he should value it enough to be able to let go if you've clearly told him why you're leaving in the first place. (And if you haven't been 100% clear as to why you need to walk away, do so. He might just be in denial and hoping there's something else wrong that's fixable, and leaving ambiguity in a relationship that's ended will likely hurt him.)

So either he's straight up playing with you and so is not worth your time, he's not respecting your feelings and so is not worth your time, or his not understanding the situation and will respect your wishes once he knows what's going on. Sometimes people need to hear things directly. You've made the decision to cut ties, so talk to him and then follow through with it. You already know what you need.

[BasedBaeBecca]

Sounds like he is testing your boundaries to see what he can get away with. Sounds manipulative and probably isn't worth your time.

[spartan55]

Don't know what you are possibly confused about. He is keeping you around for free pussy.

[BarryLiverstone]

Sure is

[boobliker]

yes, we all do. M&F