I feel hurt that I got ghosted after a hookup?

[Anonymous]

This man I hooked up with (oral only) did not follow up with me for over 2 weeks.

I felt like we had a friendship at the minimum as we were talking for months and months before this happened. At least, I wish we could have a friendship.

He would tell me he cared for me and even that he loved me amongst other things. I hooked up with him because I had feelings for him.

I wonder if he thought I was unattractive or if he’s seeing someone else or if he wants to get rid of me so he’s giving me the message by ignoring me. So many possibilities are running through my head..

More importantly, this really killed my self esteem and makes me feel like shit about myself.

Men, why do you do this?

[midnightmoon05]

He is married. He was cheating on his wife while messaging you on his time then finally met up and got a free bj or h/j or whatever you give him for free.
married men find it exciting to get that.. so now he is on to the next plans back to his wife. He has to make sure his wife doesn’t find out.
if you want a real relationship…learn from this cheating man…

you call around dinner time. If he picks up and happy to talk to you, he is available. If he meets yiu on your time…he is interested.
you were too passive and allowed a stranger to use you.
in being blunt … many have fallen into this and more…so best of luck in the future.

[Anonymous]

Well chances are he was already seeing someone, maybe even married. I’m sure he found you somewhat attractive. But in reality he was playing the game that men know they have to play to land a chick. Whether it’s just for sex or for a serious relationship they’re both kind of the same as far as getting the girl you want. So he may have just been buttering you up, telling you everything you wanted to hear so you’d give in. And you did. I wouldn’t doubt if he comes back around apologizing, making up excuses, then you say ok it’s fine. Then end up sleeping w him then he moves on. Women do things similar to land a man by lying about things like living sports.

[DerekC321]

I'm sorry, that sucks. It's easier to ghost someone than to have the balls to tell them to their face that you've lost interest in them. Ghosting is the easy way out.

[Asker]

But I’ll already know they lost interest in me by the silent treatment so what are they hiding?

[DerekC321]

It could be he found someone else.

[DerekC321]

He should have been straight with you. You deserve better. I would move on.

[DerekC321]

Thanks for the MHO.

[Rei13]

Don’t let a man’s shitty behavior make you feel like it is a reflection of yourself. It is a reflection of him. Let yourself feel the loss and mourn it since you did place value in it, then throw yourself into a hobby or spending time with other people. I know for me when someone hurt me the gym helped a lot (great outlet for all that energy plus it helps you look better too, win-win situation) and just consistently finding someone to hang out with while I processed those emotions. There are a lot of reasons why he did what he did and you might never know, and that is okay. You will heal from it

[intovertedguy]

I think women shouldn't do hookups, they have a lot to lose and benefit very little from them. I think it's better for women to have a boyfriend or a long term relationship.

[WhitneySnow]

He’s a jerk. An asshole, to put it more bluntly. I’m sorry girl. Just block him and try to move on with your life.

[Asker]

Thank you

[WhitneySnow]

You’re welcome

[intovertedguy]

I agree with WhitneySnow. You should also seek counseling to help you with your self esteem.

[spartan55]

Did you message him at all?

[Asker]

He would always be the one to message first throughout our relationship. It’s our longest established custom and we both preferred it this way.

[spartan55]

Oh please... what a crock. So you are telling me it was just impossible for you to message him? Did your eatablished custom work out?

[Anonymous]

Keep far away from people like this