I’m still hurt after being ghosted it’s been 5 months since it happen it’s so hard to get over what do I do? I don’t feel right until I know why?

[laurlaur101]

[lightbulb27]

ghosting is terrible, it's like having a limb cut off. you think it's still there, but it isn't. can hurt terribly.

you have to take control over yourself, heal inside. Meditation/skilled relaxation, exercise, good diet and doing things that feed you inside help.

Understanding of yourself and others creates a stepping stone to move foward so this is not a wound, and you can engage in healthy relationships.

Religiously, from Christian viewpoint, there are tools, such as prayer, forgiveness, "turning it over to God".

As you develop a better understanding of people it helps. You realize that what people do isn't so much about you, it's about them. Were they afraid, distracted... we often never know. So many people I turned down had no idea the issue was me. This realization takes some pressure off you.

Then it comes to how you will manage relationships in the future, to honor each others, build trust, communicate effectively.

If you want to see resolution with the individual, that is your choice. you can do that in many scenarios. But you want to do so from a position of security and strength not desperation and hurt.

[Peachbae]

I have been through this before, honestly it is a terrible state. But you learn to move on with time, you understand that it’s not your fault at all but their loss. Hugs to you

[Majorlyconfused]

I don’t really need to say more than what lightbulb said as he said it all so well but I’d say that no one should have this much power over you especially someone who can treat you this way. Fine if someone wants to leave which hurts as it is but to leave without as much as a word is pretty shocking. As you go through life you’ll see more often than not that people get mistreated everyday and that they’re left with so many questions that will never get answers and that’s actually ok because people owe each other nothing. They did you a favour and you may not see it now but it will click one day.
Stand strong in the knowledge that what is in the dark will come to light eventually and I would apply that principle to yourself. Something is in the dark about yourself that needs to come to light and that is why do you have these feelings for someone after 5 months who treated you bad. Find out the answer to that if you can on a self discovery journey and then once you get the answer, you will heal. Please go out and live your life. You only get one, it’s a new year, it’s time to heal and love yourself. All te best to you

[Majorlyconfused]

How I moved on honestly was I found someone who treated me better. And yes it shouldn’t take someone else to get over someone but sometimes it does. There’s nothing wrong with that