How do you stop being so hard-headed & get out of your own prideful mental barriers?

[Anonymous]

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[teamvic]

Well give me an example that causing you to be hard headed and prideful

[Asker]

I'm too prideful with being simplistic, living in my old-present ways.. I feel like I'm sinning with even a little bit of show off. Everything feels like a show-off to me. People have complimented my fashion - styling sense. I always like scrolling over stuff imagining myself in them. But when it actually comes to doing it, it feels like I'm stooping below. Or I would turn into sm1 else. Like I don't buy stuff for years but smtimes I feel like I am needed to, for going out.. So I just buy lots of stuff at once. But I've never been able to wear any of that. I don't even show my talents. I think I do have the control to maintain it n stay like a slob with pride throughout life. But sometimes, I just wanna give in, become a show off, go for proper relationships, and start seeking validation through others, like everyone else. I'm so hard-headed.. Nobody in my family is like this. I don't know how I turned this way. Like being invisible feels very right, even a little bit of being visible, being noticed, just feels, too wrong

[teamvic]

I see so its more about you are confused about finding the balance between being seeing as confident and cocky🤔

Well first off I would not recommend doing stuff for other people's validation. You'll just end up unhappy.

Well it all comes down to this. Are you happy with how you are?🤔 based off this comment I dont know if you're happy or not but I do know you want change in your life. And how do you do that? Well the simple answer is to start doing what you want to. Not what you're comfortable with. But just start slowly you know. You don't have to flash and show off right away, just like keep that core, humble version of your self but still be prideful of what you can do and how you look🤔 as opposed to being cocky and showing off, see thats the asshole version, which no one likes. But prideful and humble is a good thing I'd say.
Everything is a mindset and all you gotta do is convince the little voices in your head that tell you no, that you should. Because I could sit here all day and say all this stuff but at the end of the day the only person who's gonna get you to change, is you. The way I see it, is you got two inner sides conflicting with eachother right, the one who does want to do the stuff you mention, and the side that wants to stay in your comfort zone. Now just find out which one you'd truly want to be and go with that one. You don't have to abandon your way of thinking but it seems how you think right now, it's too, " restricting" you know what I mean? Like you should be able to do whatever you want. But it seems your own thoughts are keeping you from doing it

[Asker]

Thank you so much for observing my message so well n taking your time writing this. You've given a really helpful response🌟 I'm saving it on my phone as a reminder for future cuz obv I can have those conflicting thoughts again. Like u said, I'd myself have to remind n take action for that. Thanks😊 @teamvic

[teamvic]

you're welcome😌 if you ever need me I'll be here haha, see yah

[Anonymous]

I would suggest a therapist if it has become a real issue for you. Therapy wasn't for me, but you may find it useful.