Guys why can't you understand that it's a turn off when you seek the approval of men?

[Anonymous]

Some guys care so much about the approval of their male friends. It's such a turn off. I like guys that don't give a crap what their friends think.

[ohsheeT]

You can definitely pick out men that are leaders versus men that are followers because the followers act like little boys jump around and giggle and they have to tell you every detail that they did the last time they got laid except for it's a bunch of bullshit. The leader guy he won't say anything his business is his business and he keeps her business out of everything the follower he will tell all his friends that he just got laid she sucked he had the teacher everything but he forgets to tell his friends that he only lasted 2 minutes and was already dressed with his shoes on and she said WTF you're kidding me I didn't even know you started let alone finished

[Asker]

That's so specific lol

[Kingship]

Solid answer ohsheeT. This is a solid description that separates the boys from the men. Its a sad since many guys that I know, older than me have a follower/herd mentality to life. Including family members. Trust his answer miss.

[Effably]

To be fair if we are looking for the approval of our guy friends we're not doing that to be attractive to girls. So there's no real issue with it being a turn off/on or not.

Friends and having fun with them most certainly take priority over impressing someone you barely know.

Of course it can go too far. But honestly, a guy not daring to impress his friends because a girl might think he's not cool for... caring about his friends... has to be way more of a turn off. Now that is weak.

[Asker]

Dude u need the approval of your friends lmao

[Kingship]

This answer baffles me and I bet many people, including the girl. What the f*ck are you saying.

You are protecting your own ego. I'll tell you the truth though, because it says you are 26, so I hope you are at least receptive to honestly and growth.

First, you said to be fair. Why are you justifying for your own weak behaviors.

Second, validation seeking behavior is what women do. Now ask yourself, no, don't defend, don't justify, let me talk. Look at yourself in the mirror and look yourself in the eye and ask yourself 'I am a man. I am a man that is worthy of penetrating females? I am a man worthy of respect, dignity, honor?'

If you can't answer that, don't even bother bothering women.

Respect>>>>>>> affection.

[Kingship]

Edit: 'AM I a man? Am I a man that is worthy of penetrating females? Let alone a man worthy of RESPECT, DIGNITY, AND HONOR?' 'And do I have shame for saying its okay to be weak?' Essentially that is what you are saying, build yourself up, and shut up. report me? I dare you, mr. no cojones.

[Effably]

What are you smoking?

I don't want an online shouting contest, that seems pointless. I will remind you that your rethoric is somewhere between simping, incel and alpha/beta nonsense. None of which normally get any.

In real life, having friends and having fun with them is perfectly okay. Even the OP made it clear that if we do not care about her opinion that would be attractive enough to her to overcome the fact we care about our friends. Don't dictate your life and adopt behavior that makes it less fun for the sake of someone else's fantasy -even less so when it is a minor thing even to them.

And also mate, 'penetrating females'? Really? That's the words you choose to seem like you know your stuff?

As for respect vs affection. For being attractive you're probably right. I am giving you that.
But being intriguing, interesting, will easily beat both out of the water. You don't need all these rules of behaviour if you can just intrigue people - and it isn't all that hard.

[Anonymous]

Because my male friends have been around a lot longer than most women that come into my life. Although they may act stupid at times they can see things that I don’t in her because I’m blinded by my feelings. It amazes me how women can dismiss men’s feelings, how we think just because in their warped little minds they think it’s wrong. Women have no idea what it’s like being a man, but because you’re idea of what is right isn’t what we think or how we act, automatically we’re the ones who are wrong, the ones who are fucked up. Then women wonder why men don’t talk, cause of bs like this. Rather than trying to understand it you just dismiss it or talk nonsense.

[Asker]

What's it like being a man?

[Kingship]

difficult. But fucking worth it.

[Kingship]

We understand that. Or at least I know I do, and its something to abhor. A man seeking validation.

Men do it because they are trying to reassure their sense of self, like women.

So, be patient with those men, or guys trying to still develop that part of themselves- seeking no validation, but their own.

[Anonymous]

And modern women just don't seem to understand that just because they have a fucking vagina doesn't entitle them to siphon all of someone's time, energy, resources, ambition, and will. There are other people to think about in our lives who deserve our respect, compassion, friendship, and help when they need it.

It isn't all about YOU!

[Asker]

Nobody said it was about you. I'm conservative. And conservative men don't seek the approval of their male friends. You sound like you're insecure and need approval from your friends.

[inhua]

who should they care about approval from then? women? children? society?

here's an answer. no one.

[Asker]

Exactly

[jahaims]

You do realize that female fashion/makeup etc. is 99% for other females right? Guys don't care what brand anything you have, or if your nails are done. Also you turned your projection into a gross generalization that couldn't be more inaccurate.

[Asker]

Make is too look pretty for guys. But yeah I don't wear any

[serious]

Yes I can understand that. It can indeed be a big turn off for women.

[ProbablyClueless]

For the same reason that women like the approval of their girlfriends; the validation feels good.

[genericname85]

girls, why do you not understand that what you want is not everything a mans life is about?

[Anonymous]

Are you saying guys should care that what they do is a turnoff to you? Do you see the irony here?

[Asker]

No I'm saying why do they seek the approval of men their friends.

[Asker]

Like they're afraid to have a different opinion then their friends

[Opinion Owner]

"... why can't you understand that it's a turn off..."

These ^ are your words. You are implying we should care what you think. We don't. Sorry.

[Asker]

Ok good job

[Asker]

This question is irrelevant now

[Opinion Owner]

Just calling out the obvious.

[Asker]

Yes thank u. You made my question irrelevant. Thank u so much *hugs*

[Opinion Owner]

Happy to help.

[Asker]

😘😘😘

[Anonymous]

We get it, your butt is hurt that we don't only care what you think and no one else. You need to grow up and get over that.

[Asker]

No I think guys that want women's approval are a turn off too.

[Opinion Owner]

Are you saying you don't care whatever anyone else thinks? Lol, people who say that are liars.

[Asker]

Yup I don't care. I don't need those approval. My worth comes from God.
It's nice if people like me or think I'm beautiful but I don't seek or need their approval.

[Opinion Owner]

Mmm hmm, lmao

[Asker]

What?

[Anonymous]

I don't care about the approval of men. But in fact, I don't care about women's approval either, therefore I don't care if it's a turnoff or not.

[Asker]

Lmao finally a normal person

[Anonymous]

How about if we don't care about what you find a turn off. Is that attractive to ya?😆😆😆

[Asker]

Yaaaaas

[Blueeyes81]

Why don't women understand we don't live to please them?

[RavVid]

I don't understand why they would.

[Grovermint]

Lmao.