Is there a point of asking him for more time with me?

[Anonymous]

There is a guy whom I really like. He told me he wants to be in my life and when we are together, he is just awesome. He makes me laugh, is considerate and kind, and finds me attractive.

But when we are apart, he doesn't seem like misses me or wants to see me. We get together once a month and even though I make suggestions for things to do, he kinda ignores them.

I figure I have two choices: end it even though I like him a lot

OR ask him for more time.

But would it even make any sense to ask for more time if he doesn't feel the need himself?

Is there a point of even saying something?

[BasedBaeBecca]

There is never a harm in asking, but based on what you've said, it sounds to me like he is not as interested or invested in this relationship as you are. He might enjoy spending time with you when the opportunity arises, but if he doesn't even make an effort to plan things together or look forward to seeing you then it seems like he is either not interested in any deeper commitment, or he might not even be aware of your desire for one. Perhaps it's time to consider moving on.

[Anonymous]

If you’re having to ask chances are he isn’t into you as much as you are into him. Have you had sex w him already? When a man is interested in a girl he will go out of his way to do things for her, to see her, get her food if he works w her, help her more than he helps other women, make it a point to run into her even if it means going out of his way to “accidentally” run into her.

[Avicenna]

It's best to communicate with him about this. People can be oblivious or simply bad communicators. Someone has to take the intiative in communication.

[Asker]

And if he rejects me? Isn't it better to reject him before he rejects me? I mean if he says he doesn't have more time for me, I have to leave right?

[Avicenna]

That isn't the mindset I'd adopt here. I'd be looking to find a solution, and to do that, you first need to be clear with the other party about what you're trying to accomplish.