Does he want to leave me?

[Anonymous]

We have been dating for almost a year. Last two weeks he doesn't talk to me much, sends me 2 messages per a day and miss spell like written in a hurry... He said he is busy with work. Even on his birthday he was busy and just said I love your gift thank you and nothing else. I noticed he shared my favourite movie with his girl best friend, he also follows a lot of girls on social media... I kept brining things up to him but he calls me overthinker and crazy for not trusting him. Even tho keeps repeating same action. He answer me early mornings and he said he came back from work 1am... when I read this I already saw how much a fool I am lol. But I want others opinion

[_Maya_]

I wouldn't say those are clear signs that he wants to leave you. That is a bit drastic of a step to take if the relationship is good otherwise. I also don't think following girls on Instagram means much. Like they are probably girls he has no shot with anyhow. Not trying to say your guy is a loser or anything like that but those girls I suspect he follows are probably not interested. Sharing a movie with a best friend also isn't a big deal. I do think you're overthinking this a bit.

[Asker]

Oh okay thank you~I am huge overthinker. I think I screwed it little since I always act hurt and tell him my overthinking

[_Maya_]

You're welcome but I do think you're reading too much into it. Unless you have a good reason to think there is a problem there probably isn't.

[Asker]

Yeah... only that he doesn't answer me as much as before. I got mad at him so I am scared if I screwed it now

[Anonymous]

I think that this relationship is not going to work and he is not much interested in you but this relationship is just for name shake he isn't seriously into it. You are just barely floating on some hope that everything is ok when it is not also he is just manipulating you telling you are over thinking but you are not. Your doubts are fully reasonable. I feel sooner or later you would realise it and break up.

[Opinion Owner]

You are seeing things clearly but you are doubtful just because he is gaslighting you telling that you are overthinking. That is making you to self doubt but you are not. You can clearly see he is giving importance to other girls best friends and following other girls, while he is with you. You are just being gaslighted. Don't self doubt yourself so much trust your inner feelings and analyse yourself logically how far you are right or wrong how far he is right or wrong. Trust your own wisdom your own rationality. Not because anyone is telling anything about you makes you that. These are all just manipulation techniques.

[Asker]

Yeah you are completely right. It has passed few days from our conversation. I am just trying to have a talk with him but he ignores me and gaslight me. Since I know people can get busy but 3 weeks has passed and there are weekends also but he answers shortly. I think it may be a new girl since he is following her liking posts etc. I am sad and dissapointed but trying to handle it mentally since it really hurted me since when people feel sincere one day and other just ignores my feelings and resolving it. I think everyone should have time for people they care about even little bit but clearly he doesn't like me so much.

[red-lipstick-girl]

your lover doesn't love you if she loved you she would make time

[Asker]

but he had like a lot of work stuff... but still

[red-lipstick-girl]

but she doesn't think of you

[Asker]

Oh okay true

[spartan55]

Do you ever even see this guy?

[Asker]

Yes but we are in ldr

[spartan55]

How often?

[Asker]

2 times

[spartan55]

Ever?

[Asker]

Yes ever

[spartan55]

Honey, that's not a relationship in any sense. Come on, you're kidding right?

[Asker]

Nope I am being serious...

[spartan55]

Honey, you aren't in a relationship, sorry.