Does he not want me to stay anymore?

[Anonymous]

So there is this guy that asked me to stay over at his house for two days and I said okay. And now he keeps contradicting himself but saying I can stay? I don't know if he's trying to tell he he doesn't want me to or he does? Is he being rude? we don't live in the same state by the way

[Watermelon15]

When he says 'because it's like months in advance I don't know how busy imma be..'

he might actually mean:

'because it's like months in advance and I don't know if I have met someone else by than time, maybe we're not together anymore in September..

I dont know, but it seems like when he keeps 'reassuring' you that 'i have time for you for sure, for sure' he says it, so it doesn't completely looks like he doesn't want you do come. But it seems like he says it while wanting to say something else.

This is was 'could' be happening, but it might isn't I dont know your boyfriend

[Asker]

Makes sense I don't know idc he's dumb

[Asker]

I'll just see in September what's up

[Anonymous]

Well even if he brought it up first, it doesn't necessarily have to take it too serious. Just like sometimes when I tell people "See you later" or "We will go have lunch someday for sure", that "later" or "someday" may never happened lol. It just like the way people talk, not necessarily be like a promise. Plus, you didn't mention your relationship between him and you? As I can see from the convo, it doesn't seems to me he is that interested at least, he would want to meet you, but not to the point where he is definitely looking forward to it.

[Asker]

I guess but he kept asking me to stay

[Asker]

Then I said yes

[Opinion Owner]

He might just being polite or this is his personality being socialize. Everyone can say anything like this, the real test is when he could turn his words into actions and this is how you know of he truly cares about you.

[SarahsSummer]

You're getting too deeply involved in this way too early. honestly, I even feel a little awkward reading your questions. You're being kind of aggressive to nail him down as he says "months in advance"
If you have a place to stay, assume that's where you're staying, but when you meet up with him, go with the flow.

[Asker]

He doesn't know about me acting like this so it don't matter

[Asker]

I know I just want what I want and I get aggressive bad habit

[SarahsSummer]

I'm only referring to your questions you've texted him. I'd try to suppress your aggressiveness in the subject. It may thwart your efforts to stay with him at all. Just let him be comfortable you have a place to stay so he has no pressure and when you are there hanging out with him, wait for him to ask you to stay with him. Don't bring it up again.

[Asker]

Lmfao okay I wasn't being really aggressive I was just saying it's fine I don't have to stay with u because it's fine lol. And I mean it's a trip so that's why I'm planning so far ahead I forgot it might be weird to him however for me not so much since I'm going on a trip

[SarahsSummer]

Have fun!

[10dsw]

He's losing interest (and FAST) but doesn't want to break it to you because he knows you're emotional.

This is EXACTLY how I pulled out of a relationship with a girl who was a virgin prior to me. I felt really bad for her so I wanted to break it down softly

[Asker]

Ummmmm I don't think this is the case

[Asker]

He doesn't know me at all lmfao tbh I was just literally asking him a question

[10dsw]

Then he probably feels uncomfortable with the thought of a girl in another state hanging out with him. Regardless, this is a TEXTBOOK blow off.

[Asker]

Lmfaoo!! He's the one asked me to stay at his house!! So that's why I'm confused

[Asker]

He kept asking me and I said okay

[Asker]

Then he acts like this lmfaoo

[10dsw]

That's how you know something is up. A guy that is into you will make time for you. A guy that is looking for some fun or attention will do stuff like this and bail. Women do this a lot too. Very common

[BBoy201]

This guy's annoying "idk" "like" "lol" those words don't help when someone's trying to arrange airfare for crying out loud. Good luck sister. Bring a backup plan just in case.

[Asker]

Yes he's very annoying and the crazy thing is he's the one invited me to his house!!! He's the one asked me to stay over lol!!

[Asker]

I didn't really wanna stay anyway I just didn't wanna be rude when I rented a hotel and didn't stay at his house but it's weird that he acted like that when he's the one asked

[BBoy201]

Yeah he invited you, so it doesn't have to be ruled out 100%, but the words just don't help obviously. Time will tell.

[evelyn26]

A typical guy answer. They can only focus on the now, the present. Things can change so planning sometimes doesn't work out. I suggest you stay with your friend somewhere and see him when he is not busy. Hopefully he makes time for you.

[Asker]

Exactly he's just being annoying af I didn't want to stay with him in the first place

[Asker]

He invited me

[samhradh_leannan]

He's being noncommittal. It doesn't seem like you are a priority for him. It sounds like your relationship wth him is casual anyway, so it doesn't really make sense to make plans months in advance.

[Asker]

Lmfaooo truuuuuee

[Thisnamestaken]

I saw a guy like this a few times. Just like you, I was always the one making the effort traveling out to see him. From your messages he seems to have too casual outlook on this. Carry on with your own plans with your friend, put yourself first and let him be the afterthought.

[Justinaveragedude]

I feel like he wants you to stay, but wasn't actually expecting you to visit. Or am was expecting just you. Maybe he was hoping for it to be just then two of you. He does seem hesitant now, but doesn't want to be rude or upset you. There is something up. Just talk to him about it. See if he will tell you. There is obviously something.

[oridian]

could also be he doesn't like planning that far in advance, some people like to go with the flow

[Asker]

Could be

[Blonde401]

He's not that crazy about the idea. Either he's met someone else or he's got other irons in the fire. Either way he's just not bothered about you coming down. Doesn't sound comfortable with you staying.

[Asker]

Yea true but the thing is he asked me to stay lol... he brought it up

[Blonde401]

How long ago was that? He could have changed his mind since.

[Asker]

Like 3 weeks ago

[Blonde401]

Yeah guys live very much in the present and their moods change with the wind TBH.

[Anonymous]

I don't think he's being rude. His tone definitely changed when you mentioned your friend though.
As long as he wants to see you still I don't see the issue?

[Sasakroll96]

Dont stay at his place. Only see him when you are there.

[TheCougarMan]

His trying to pull out nicely, maybe he has found a significant other and not sure if he will still be with her when you fly down, so maybe you a plan B

[Asker]

Are u sure tho? He was the one that asked me to stay?

[TheCougarMan]

he must be getting cold feet then, or he is just a idiot. Is he going to get laid?

[Asker]

Yes he is

[Asker]

That's why I think he's dumb af

[Asker]

Hmmm iguessss butt he kept telling me how excited for me to visit him.

[TheCougarMan]

he must be a virgin

[Asker]

Shit must be

[Anonymous]

He playing games. Have a plan B just in case he flakes

[Chanel1981]

Judging from that I wouldn't plan on staying with him. What's your relationship?

[girlinthemirror]

Write him that u can't understand him and seems like he dont like that idea, tell him to write u if he change his mind and dont write to him anymore
If he wants he will write u and arrange everything

[Sha84]

this guy is a wimpy loser

[April10]

I don't think he wants you to stay with him.

[Asker]

He's the one asked me to stay with him...

[April10]

Sometimes people say things without meaning it.

[Asker]

He asked me like 4 times lmfao

[Asker]

And is texting me as I type this

[Ladyslipper]

He doesn't seem too thrilled about it

[Asker]

Yea I know but the thing is he asked me to stay lol...

[Asker]

I never asked him

[Asker]

He's the one brought the idea up

[Ladyslipper]

Ah okay.. Maybe offer that u will stay at a hotel with ur friend and you guys can hang out whenever he's free to take some of the pressure off the whole ordeal

[Asker]

Yea I am that's what I planned to do I didn't really want to stay with him in the first place lol I'm just wondering why he's going back when he literally asked me to stay... lmfao he was the one not me.

[Midget_Hug]

I see nothing contradictory...

[chuy10]

who send that text

[Asker]

I'm the blue he's the grey

[chuy10]

he's does seem kind of odd he would prefer doing art than spend time with you. I don't know about that something is not right

[Asker]

I don't know he dumb he asked me to stay lol

[chuy10]

get naked ask him to draw you or paint you I'd go for the girl instead lol