He wants to moove out but stay together?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have dated for over two years now. We mooved in together quite quickly- only after two months. Our relationship is going well. We have our arguments at times (like all others). However, recently my boyfriend once again told me he wanted to moove out. He has previously said this- but not gone Through with it. Often in times of anger/frustration. He tells me he needs to moove out to Get his routines in place. He already signed a lease. I’m having a hard time understanding «its not you its me». As we all have seen How that often ends. Personally I suffer from seperation anxiety and he is well aware of this. I have openly expressed that mooving out will be extremely challenging for me and I fear it could drift us apart. He does not seem to care as his only response is «it won't be as bad as you think». As he has expressed he wants to do this for a period of time. I asked him How long he thinks he needs. (I understand that this might sound selfish, but having an idea of time would help me cope with my anxiety.) He told me 6 months. However i have a hard time believing him. Something in my gut is telling me this is his escape and he does not want to date me anymore. I communicated with him, asking what we might do if he is not ready to moove back in after this period of time. All he said was «if thats the case, we can just break up». He is sending me so many mixed signals. Last night he expressed that he wants to marry me in the future and that he wants to move abroad with me. Suddenly out of nowhere I Get the feeling that breaking up after these 6 months is an option. I believe communication is key in a relationship. Therefore I expressed my worry towards his comment on breaking up. All he told me is that Nothing in life is guaranteed. I’m scared that I’m simply dragning out time with this guy. I’m terrified his intentions are to dump me- because if you truly love someone would you really moove out? Can it work? Or am I just delaying a major heartache.

[SueShe]

Your fears to move apart are justified because at the end, moving out is all what it is about.

I am not here to judge but moving in together after 2 months is a big error because you cannot know a person well enough after just 2 months.

If he already signed a lease, that is the best indicator that he has plans to totally separate from you, not just moving to a new place but a total cut in relation.

He is using a very cowardly way to take his distance from you as he has realized that moving in together after such a short time was a big mistake. People seldom tell all the truth about themselves and now that he realizes that being with you practically 24/7 is not what he thought it would be, he wants to move out.

He is bad at communicating and always tries to calm you down by giving you some false hopes when he states he wants to marry you. He has no such intention whatsoever. Once he has taken his distance from you, he will let you know through text that your relation is over and out. He will not tell it directly to your face because he lacks the courage to do it.

[Avicenna]

Sounds like you don’t want to do it, if do you shouldn’t

[Iron_Man]

That’s up to you to do what you want

[Anonymous]

That is one huge red flag.

[Asker]

Could you elaborate as to Why you think this? Because he is mooving out? Or the things he said? Should I run?