Would it bother you if the person you're getting to know makes huge spelling mistakes when they text you?

[Anonymous]

This new guy I am getting to know makes huge spelling mistakes. "Hear" instead of "Here" and "Quite" instead of "Quiet" sometimes I can tell when he's joking around when he puts "yo" in there. Other times I'm like... is he ok? Is he drunk or is something wrong. I'm used to guys who text like they're writing a college paper. This guy got his master's degree, I know he knows how to spell words. He had to know to write those research papers. I used to write them in college, they're intense. So it's just surprising to be texting someone who makes huge spelling mistakes that even a small child would hopefully know the difference between. But who also has an impressive education or occupation at the same time. Am I just being too hard on him? It honestly makes me think he's drunk. Oh and he doesn't correct himself either.

[Ozanne]

No one's spelling mistakes should ever trump the possibility of how much they care for you and how much you love spending time with them! :) What you've described are so common for text/spelling errors anyway.

Let me tell you, I am a published author, and have been writing for a living for decades. When I met my husband, he couldn't spell at all. It was clear that my strengths were the written word, and his strengths were other things. But I can say that when we met, he loved me and was willing to move heaven and earth to be with me that I couldn't help but fall in love with him.

I later learned that he had a learning disability, that always affected him throughout life that began when he was a child. He was self-conscious of it, and always felt he was stupid. He is NOT. He is one of the most intelligent people I know, able to pick up on things easily, and is a quick problem solver. He also sees things in people before others even realize it.

I have learned to give people a break with their grammar/spelling/punctuation mistakes, because most times, people aren't trying to get their words out professionally, but they want to express themselves quickly. And quick is when mistakes are made.

I do think it looks nice to have a polished bio on a dating site. And for other circumstances like resume-writing, thank you letters, etc. -- they should all be given some care. But in text? No. Look at the things that are more important, because unless you meet a professional writer, you will likely just find the next guy to come along is also going to make the similar mistakes too -- just with different words. If I were you, I'd let it slide, and don't make a fuss over it. :)

[jennifer_bloom]

The bible says arrogance makes you ugly. You don’t believe in the bible, so you will just get uglier and uglier.

[Asker]

Is that arrogance getting hung up on the spelling and stuff?

[jennifer_bloom]

It's arrogance to make fun of somebody else's intelligence, especially somebody smart enough to get an advanced degree or an elite education

[Asker]

I didn't mean to make fun of him but you are very right. I am wrong for doing that. Thank you for calling me out on that. God is important in my life, I don't mean to be a bad person or do bad things like this. Now that I'm acknowledging it, I feel ashamed and regretful. It's hard to have all the sins fresh in my memory, do you mind telling me anything else I should keep in mind to be the best person I can be. Or if you don't mind giving me a url link to read so I can work on myself. If you don't mind, that is. Thank you very much.

[_Maya_]

I am torn on this one. On the one hand I am guilty of not using proper grammar when not writing a paper or something for school. I just can't be bothered. I don't misspell words often though and if I do I correct myself. On the other hand it is a bit much to get upset over. I don't really know if I would be annoyed or not. I am going to lean towards I would be. I would probably try to bring it up in a funny way to see if he even knows he is doing it.

[Asker]

I'm a writer so spelling, grammar, all of that is engrained in me. I don't know why but it annoys me when he makes these mistakes. They're really mind blowing or even simple mistakes. Especially when he needs to put a comma in a sentence. I dont understand what he's saying until I realize, oh he needs that comma in there. Ok, now I know what he's trying to say. Though I'm not saying I write perfectly, I make mistakes too. But I never knew I was that person until basically it happened to me. My main concern is if he's a functioning alcoholic. He told me he rarely drinks but when he texts like that it makes me think he's drunk like all the time.

[Wise4myage]

Spelling and punctuation bother me the most.

[Asker]

@Wise4myage Yeah, I would get that.

[_Maya_]

See, I can use proper puncation when I have to. I am not a writer. I am in my Master's program. So, when I write for school, I do use proper grammar, spelling and punctuation.

On here I could give a shit less because it is informal. I guess that is my point. Maybe because it is informal he doesn't care? I am not saying that it isn't annoying... I'm just trying to say that might be the cause of it all. I would still probably bring it up as a tease or I would make a joke about it and see if he reveals anything.

[SueShe]

I see this problem often on GaG when people make extensive use of voice dictation but have a poor pronounciation. The algorithm cannot differentiate between the multiple sounds and uses the one closest to the pronounciation.

That is the problem of youth nowadays that is no longer capable of writing texts without the assistance of a computer.

[_Maya_]

I have tried that voice stuff and it is horrid for accuracy.

[provokeesmokee]

Yes. I'm a big English nerd.

I would find it grating and annoying.

[Mamaliv]

Kinda drives me crazy! Lol I get mistakes here and there but all the time makes me wanna slam my head into a wall!

[Jkgordon]

That’s not good I would ask is your phone correcting your spelling or is this you constantly using improper English

[Finchie40]

That doesn’t bother me , spell checks on phones are dumb as hell as well

[ohmyguy]

communicating via phone that would have never come up
I'm sure he didn't think an English teacher was grading his notes

[Nikki1989]

I don't text. If you can't string words together and talk to me, it is an instant dealbreaker.

[Anonymous]

you said huge spelling mistakes. i was thinking the whole damn sentence was incomprehensible. but just "hear, here, there, their" etc... not a big deal. it's text messaging, don't take it too seriously.

[LunarEclipse433]

To me, text is hit or miss. Small screen, typing with your thumb etc. And the infamous spell check changing crap. It’s not like a resume.

[shortster]

Yes, it makes it difficult to understand what they are trying to say.

[spartan55]

Is English not his first language?

[Asker]

Yes, English is his first language.

[spartan55]

Oh boy, then that would be annoying...

[Asker]

😂 You're funny

[spartan55]

Does he use there instead of their or they're?

[spartan55]

Loose/lose

[Anonymous]

ho yes, that would end things pretty quickly

[Anonymous]

Only if her typing was so bad I couldn't decipher the meaning of her posts.

[exitseven]

No, because I cannot type with a damn too

[Anonymous]

Not gonna lie, that can be a real turn off.

[KrakenAttackin]

Autocorrect fucks me on a regular basis.

[ohmyguy]

Turn it off take a few seconds longer to type n proof read before sending.. or laugh..

[ohmyguy]

Huge. Like.. un recognise able as words aranged for communication using writing... which possible but. There is a word, i miss. spell in sentence.. but cause of that.. its a prob.. or lack if caps n punctuation. Cause its a bit ridiculous.. we should easy be able fill in blanks n often we. use language we hear use repeated n we adopt a word or two in our vobulary.. n verbally blah blah.. but using. it rext crap i sound words out. N close is good enough for most any one.. if u can't. spell it. dont use. the word... im guilty but. Come on.. talk rather. than text u can request to. be communicated to in a formal only format. He might do ir on purpose. Too..