When you’ve got a few guys to choose from, do you pick the sweetest guy?

[Anonymous]

The guy who’s sweet and loves you the most? I’m in a situation where I’ve got a job and I’m getting hit on by a better calliber of guys. There’s smart guy and there’s sweet guy. Sweet guy really loves me and spoils me and has been there unconditionally and hardly ever mentions sex. Smart guy is interesting to talk to and fun and also a good guy. Family guy wants me to fit with his family. Desperate guy keeps trying to show me how desirable he is. The first 3 are worth considering. Who’s the best choice?

[Anonymous]

You probably should pick the sweetest/kindest one. I picked the one i like the most, but he isn't the kindest. I wouldn’t recommend it. Dont get me wrong the connection is there, and it makes me believe that its worth it. Anyway, also, unless youve seen all of those guys angry, losing temper, things not going their way, how they handle it, you dont really know who’s the sweetest/kindest. Just a food for thought. Dont assume you know someone if youve never seen them at a bad place.

[Opinion Owner]

To be fair, the one who loves me the most isn't the kindest one. If you have both, i think thats pretty rare.

[jahaims]

He doesn't love you. He has lust and infatuation. You are awfully robotic when it comes to picking a partner. Obviously you have to use the logic side of your brain for red flags etc, but you should let your feelings guide you when it comes to romance and not look at it like a business deal.

[Asker]

So being Autistic means I don’t have real feelings and that men can’t love me for who I am?

[jahaims]

Literally never said that. There is no need to try and find a hidden meaning by reading in between the lines when I was direct with what I had to say.

[Asker]

Well, it sounded like you were trying to insult me; but I’m not upset. I just thought it was funny.

[jahaims]

You take opinions as insults because you are insecure or you are projecting based on how you would personally try to insult someone. Hope that helps you in the future.

[Asker]

No, what you said came across as patronising and offensive. Reconsider the way you talk to others in future.

[jahaims]

I do not change my behavior for weak and stupid people. You are insecure, so you take things as an insult. Your insecurity is due to your lack of intelligence.

[Asker]

No, your comments openly display your lack of intelligence and compassion for others. Congratulations. You’ve exposed yourself. I was going to leave it at that, knowing I’m smarter than you, as unlike you, I have humility and compassion for others. I assumed you were an idiot and didn’t know what you were implying. You’ve just proved my theory that people without intelligence are the ones who always think they’re smart and never question anything 😊

[Staximus]

If you date people you work with, you're shitting in your own backyard if things go south

[Asker]

I don’t work with any of them.

[236color]

My experience is no, women generally don't do that.

[Asker]

I’m older and I’ve learnt some hard lessons.

[spartan55]

Have sex with all of them, then decide.

[inhua]

whoever is the most physically attractive