Simply, it's because those are the times they encounter you - when you are out in public. The reason everyone is asking you to name an alternative time and place is because they know you won't name any - because this is a disingenuous question to begin with.
They can't approach you at home, because you aren't in public. And a big segment of guys don't go to bars or clubs because they're trying to avoid the women who go to bars and clubs, because they won't want that kind of lifestyle, so where else are they going to encounter women? The answer: at work, while shopping, at the gym, etc.
Approaching me at work might become a conflict of interest if we work together, but other than that, I don’t see much of an issue. Probably better to do it while I’m on break. Approaching me while I’m shopping is fine as long as he doesn't approach with a group of friends OR as long as he doesn't approach me while I’m with friends/fam. Approaching me while I’m exercising can be a little nerve wrecking but if we’re being honest, I was likely checking him out from across the room the entire time so he probably just read my body language. Still, I prefer it a little more if I’m approached while at an event, the library, church, or even something as simple as the gas station. I’d likely approach a guy in any of the places above as well
I don’t think so.
I love being approached randomly.
Once I was 21 and on subway, just got out of my wagon a young football player run out of his wagon and chased after me on the stairs next to the escalator where I was standing.
He said, I just looked like the girl of his dreams and he couldn’t miss his chance.
It made me smile, nice memory.
He got my number and then run back to the next train haha.
But I can totally understand how it can feel uncomfortable for some women…
It just seems to be something I enjoy, doesn’t mean every woman must be the same.
I would agree. If it's a direct approach e. g. You're so hot can I get your number, it shouldn't be done in broad daylight. Most females wouldn't appreciate that. If a male approaches a female in a public area like that it has to be as organic as possible. Just like the way females do it.
First, you get close by. Second, you attract their attention in a natural everyday way. Third, you set up questions that reveal if they have a boyfriend, where they're from, how old they are, of course their name. All the while you use body language to etch your face into their heart.
Alas that takes too much class. Most people would rather just shoot their shot like a monkey and be on their way. "One will say yes eventually."
Opinion
37Opinion
Anywhere anytime love can be found especially when ladies are open to it.
I understand it may not be the most opportune moment, but you have to look at it from our perspective.
When women aren't at work, they are at home, when they aren't shopping, they're at home, when they aren't exercising they're at home.
So the window is when they are out on Friday or Saturday night with friends and typically they don't want to be bothered when they are out with friends.
I can see why most guys don't bother anymore when the window of opportunity to approach is slim to none. That in addition to everything that goes on in our lives, it probably isn't going to happen.
When is an appropriate time? I would say there´s never an appropriate time because no matter when many people are either busy or listening to something. Even in the clubs it´s probably not appropriate since it makes a guy come off as weird and it´s too loud to talk. So that´s not appropriate as well. So only dating seems like the only option.
Anywhere in society is appropriate when done appropriately. This is fundamental to participating in society, we have to interact with people and be open to people, even when we don't want to. I get it, we want our space sometimes and people who AREN'T appropriate really do ruin it for everyone. But we need to have social resilience instead of confronting everything, because there will always be differing personalities and mannerisms that we need to adjust and work around strategically.
🤣What's an appropriate time, If you all women can "Collectively Decide" a Few specific time as 100% appropriate 😂,
But I need a 100% Vote of all women on that, Okay!..🤗
Do let us know!.
We Will kindly approach you at those time..
Are you talking about men who don’t know you and you don't know them? If so, it's because guys think these are maybe good opportunities to meet women. If you're talking about guys you know and they know you, it's because they want to be seen talking to a woman, as if it's a show of confidence.
A lot of guys struggle with social skills and haven't been taught to understand when they are in a contextually appropriate time/place to talk to a woman.
But the other side of it is that a lot of women make it super unpleasant to interact with them, even when it IS contextually appropriate, so it's not like there really is a good time to approach a woman.
This Is the perfect example of privilege being invisible to those that have it.
- Guy seems girl
- Guy must be able to read girls mind to know how she is feeling at that momemt
- Guy walks away w/out taking an attempt
How does this benifit men?
The thing with me is I work with a lot of female coworkers so I have no choice but to talk to them most of the time and part of my job is greeting customers and making light conversation with customers to make them feel at home so if girls find me creepy then so what it's part of my job to approach anyone that includes women and make light conversation
Because it works. If you want to have sex as a single man, you have to approach lots and lots of girls to make it happen. The strategy of approaching every girl who is attractive and by her self is, in the aggregate, highly successful.
Where else would we meet them? Work is a third of the day. Shopping/gym/chores is another large chunk. Why do we do it? Because it works. That's how I've gotten most of my dates, because most women understand logistics.
some guys are just clueless at reading women's body language when they’re putting out the fuck off vibes. In our defense though, women can be very arbitrary on when they like being approached and when they don’t. Then you hear women complain that men don’t approach them ever and it’s like ya no shit sherlock.
I don't but the ones that do I wouldn't believe it's cause they are at the shooting their shot stage so they don't care about the results and more about ceasing the opportunity
I love this. We have to approach constantly because most will be dead ends but now there are restrictions on where we approach. I guess that's why women just never or will never work out for me.
Omg while exercising is soo bad like that's the one time I wanna be left alone
ah yes, it's the bars and nightclubs where all the women you don't want to bring home to your family go to
Because it’s our window of opportunity, we might not see her again , so it’s best to take the chance then not take the chance at all
Because we’re afraid to risk losing the chance to connect with our soulmate…
I don't for sure. Only thing ill say at those places is, "sorry pardon me" as I walk past.
If I know you, a 5 min small talk convo may happen.
I honestly wouldn't mind being approached while shopping or exercising. But I agree that it's not okay at work.
Superb Opinion