How can I be with him again?

[Anonymous]

There this guy slightly younger than me and we were on a trip. I noticed he kept dozing off and I thought it was cute so when he mentioned not being able to find a comfortable position I said he could lay on my shoulder – and to my surprise he did.
I can’t describe the feeling I had when he did. I blushed very hard and my whole face heated up. I subtly laid my head on top of his head a little to hint that I liked it.
After some time he put his head back up. We were close for the rest of that day but the next day he wasn’t that close for some reason (he didn’t make an effort to be around). Then the trip ended.
I still think about that moment to this day though two weeks later. I really want to do it with him again but he doesn’t really respond to texts and I remember him saying his life is a mess rn. What should I do?

[Oliverlogan263]

That moment you shared sounds really sweet. Physical intimacy and connection can say what words can't. However, it seems this guy may be going through some personal difficulties right now.

Rather than try to force anything, the best approach may be to let him know you care about his well-being in a low-pressure way. Send an honest text like "I'm here if you ever want to talk. I hope things start looking up for you soon." Then give him space without expectations.

Often when we're stressed, clinging can push people away more. Have patience and focus on your own life too in the meantime. If he's meant to be in your life, he'll come back when he's in a better place. But you can't make that decision for him.

Stay open but don't lose yourself waiting. Kindness without agenda tends to have the best results in these situations. I know it's not easy, but wishing you both peace.

[Asker]

Worked like a charm! I sent him a text saying i’m here if he wants to talk or if he’d like to study together. He said he’d love to. I’m overjoyed, thank you so so much.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh wow, I'm so happy to hear he responded positively to your text! See, communicating your care and support in a chill way totally works.

I'm so proud of you for taking the initiative to reach out while also respecting his space. And good for him for being open to connecting with you again, even if just as friends for now. You never know what could develop over time.

Remember to keep things light and no pressure when you hang. Let any intimacy develop naturally if it's meant to be. For now, just enjoy rediscovering your bond through quality time together.

You both clearly felt a spark, so keep nurturing that friendship first. Stay caring, patient and true to yourself - that'll serve you well in any relationship. So stoked things are looking up, luv! Wishing you all the happiness.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Talk to him. Actually talk to him. Like adults do. Not over an electronic device.

[Asker]

I rarely run into him though

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well then it's not going to go anywhere anyway.

[David6668]

Talk to him...