If I’m content being single, why do I care so much about being accepted by a guy?

Question

It’s so stupid I have these thoughts. I have no reason to worry.

Valdemort · Accepted Answer

You can be content with yourself being single and still desire to have someone you want to share their life with you. It's not so strange.
Humans, after all, desire companionship. We're not meant to stay alone.
Apart from having someone who'd be there for you, who you can build on and build a life with, you will also have someone you can nurture, share your love with and share some of your most personal experiences with.
Having a partner is like having a buddy, a best friend who will truly love you no matter what (if they genuinely do!). Someone to see you in all your weirdest ways and still decide to stay with you. Every human desires such affection.
Don't beat yourself up for having humane desires.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

I think that’s normal. You can be happy being single but still want to be found attractive/wanted by the opposite sex. So no you’re not stupid for having those thoughts and don’t think that of yourself. I know for me personally I was happy when I was single in most instances and I am happy in a relationship. Both can hold true and it doesn’t invalidate the other

Fireguy17 · Accepted Answer

Maybe deep down we like to be accepted or desired by someone else?

Maybe it is how we are genetically programed to keep the species going.

Look at nature, flowers are brightly colored and smell nice to attract bees insects to pollinate them, Maybe we are programed to have someone want us.

I think it makes us feel better knowing that whether we act on it or not.

For a good part of my life after my divorce I was happy being single, I could come and go as I pleased but it always seemed nice when someone female said hi or noticed me.

I felt less invisible then.

But I'm just guessing on this.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

it could be two different things...

you could be in a relationship and still worry every second of it about approval from a guy...

you might need a bit more of introspection on both fronts though... are you really happy being single? and, do you really care that much to be accepted?

Asimiv · Answer

I have a similar problem, even though I'm happy single. I don't actually have the need to be accepted, but if I like someone, I will worry a lot not to say something half-way, so it ends up sounding differently than what I think or it ends up as me being definite on something I might actually be flexibile about (both happened multiple times, not sure how often in romantic situations, but with people in general a lot because they love to assume). So it's still all within the limits of being true to myself, if somebody doesn't accept me as true me, then I dont' care. But I care a lot about coming off as different than I am

Anonymous · Answer

Are you single by choice, or did you just accept the fact that you happen to be single and are still waiting for the right person to come along? Even though you might enjoy being single either way, you probably still wonder how men see you from their pov, and that causes you to think if you're capable of finding a decent partner. That's normal for human beings, since we're known to be social creatures. Even for people who prefer their solitude can get a little lonely once in a while.

My personal opinion is that due to the type of society we live in, we're pressured to always be on the hunt for a partner. If you're known to be single, unmarried, a virgin, etc. that's usually viewed as strange to others, even though it's no one's business how someone chooses to live their life.

However, I would take advantage of it. There are so many people out there dealing with toxic/abusive relationships and us singles don't need to worry about any of that. Enjoy your freedom!

hassan9873 · Answer

Tell me something.. and be honest, do you feel like "if there was someone who's understanding, loving , caring, with whom i can share things and be with, it would be good."  Do you think about it?

nastyb · Answer

because we were raised by society that our self worth depends on how many men check us out. if you're 31, you likely grew up in an age where teenage girls were fat shamed, bulimic or anorexic. the early 2000s were famous for this

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Because you have a psychological desire to be accepted, and a biological desire to be bred like a stud mare. Don’t be hard on yourself. It’s natural. Although, being in your early 30s, the latter one is about to get worse… 😉😂

lightbulb27 · Answer

Mental logical is different than biological and emotional. there's 100000 years of hostory that says ‘two is better than one’.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Because a part of you wants romantic interaction (flirting, cuddling, kissing). At least that’s my best guess.

dudeinohio · Answer

You can be ok being single but still. be interested in a relationship or person. The two don't have to be mutually exclusive. What you are feeling is normal.

Mark987 · Answer

Some women look for acceptance or validation from men. Some women never had that from the opposite sex so they look for it.

sparklycoconut · Answer

it depends on what you mean by accepted. everyone likes to feel accepted.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Maybe you want to know if you'd be considered attractive by a guy?

jeffend888 · Answer

Because, just like every other woman your age, you're not actually content being single. It's what you tell yourself to cope.

DextroShade · Answer

Maybe you aren't as content with being alone as you think you are.

collie22 · Answer

Yeah we like people. My self I like lifting people up and getting a smile

Jerre · Answer

I’m also content with being single, but have lots of friends with benefits to keep me company.

Starrrboy · Answer

You know what " I'm fine " stands for? insecure, needy and emotional 🤣..

BLP11520 · Answer

Because you are human. Don't be so hard on yourself

jimmy2 · Answer

It's natural young to feel that way Young people has to make a choice for marriage or single Straight or , BI Or strange as trans and so

Anonymous · Answer

It's normal for people to want to be liked by the opposite sex.

Prettywhenicryy · Answer

Bow down and accept my leadership

Anonymous · Answer

I don't care.

eagle1951 · Answer

good question so Why?

Anonymous · Answer

Cos no one gives you validation

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