He claims it was all joke, but is he hiding something?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to this guy roughly two months, and he all of a sudden claims our flirting, him referring to me as his “person,” and us hanging out was purely platonic.

Our text conversations were constantly flirtatious, and even had sexual undertones. Yet when we would hang out nothing sexual would happen, but he of course would want to cuddle and hold hands the whole time. I eventually bit the bullet and asked what the point of all of this was, and that’s when he started to say he wasn’t looking to date or hook up, just seeking friendship - and he wasn’t expecting to me to actually be interested.

None of the explanations he gave throughout the very confusing conversation made sense, but I gave up on seeking clarification from him and don’t plan to reach out again.

So, I’m just curious.. what do you guys think actually happened? I don’t buy the “it was just a fun game” card, because if that were the case I don’t think he would’ve planned to continue to hang out after he “realized I was more interested than he thought.” Or even continue to text me at all after that. I’ve discussed it with some of my guy friends, and they all think he’s also not being completely honest. I just wanna know if there’s more men that can try to explain his thought process lol

[SueShe]

You are dealing with a player and a person with no morals, decency and self-esteem. You should have realized from the start that his behavior was a red flag and you should have taken action right then when you noticed it.

Any person that has sexual undertones in his/her conversation with someone of the opposite sex is a warning. Flirtatious people are not the serious type and are only after one thing and you know very well what this thing is. He was hoping that you would do the first move because he was too coward to initiate the move. He got tired of you because he was too coward or too afraid to be rejected.

Just keep him as a acquaintance but not as a friend. He is not worth it.

[Anonymous]

It is a game he is playing, a very annoying one. Move on, you don't need this.

[In_Trance]

Every joke has some truth

[Anonymous]

He plays games not serious