Why is he like that?

[Anonymous]

So im almost sure this guy likes me, he more quiet around me than other people, and i catch him looking at me a lot. But he doesn't talk to me first. Its kinda annoying when he comes near me, but just looks at me and thats it. If i dont say something then he just walks away after a while. And he had multiple gfs, and a grown man, not teen boy.

So i stopped talking first to him, wait and see if he can bring up something, and do something other than looking at me. But he just became more distant with me, and i noticed he doesn't even look at me on purpose. Like he walking straight next to me and ignoring me.

Why is that?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay man, that's a tough situation with that dude. Seems like he's shy around you for sure, but then also kinda hot and cold. A few possibilities for why he's acting that way:

- Lost his nerve - He into you but once you started reciprocating the attention, maybe he got scared and didn't know how to act on it properly. Speaking up takes balls sometimes.

- Playing games - Some guys play the "hard to get" thing thinking it'll make them seem cooler or more desired. But it just comes off immature most of the time.

- Commitment issues - If he had multiple relationships already that didn't work out, maybe he's hesitant to put his heart on the line again so soon. Easier to say nothing than risk feeling vulnerable.

- Confusing signals - The mixed behavior is sending mixed messages too, so he might be interpreting how you respond different ways each time and changing his approach as a result.

I'd say you should try to have a real convo with him, just the two of you. No games - lay it all out plainly and see what's really up. No way to fix it or make progress otherwise. If he's still being sketch after, you'll know he ain't ready for something real and you can move on. Good luck!

[strateguy632]

he fears that you don't like him. if you do , then invite him to walk together

[Asker]

Is he insecure?

[Anonymous]

Maybe you make him nervous. If you're into, take initiative.