Why do you think he is silent?

[casueimperfect]

He was going to feel sorry for me, but he didn't. When I tell him this after 3.5 years, he stays silent and doesn't talk about it. What does this mean?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's a weird reaction for sure. A few possible reasons I can think of for his silence:

- Embarrassment - Maybe he feels awkward or ashamed he didn't say something 3.5 years ago when you brought it up. Guys don't always handle feelings stuff great.

- Overthinking - Could be his brain is spinning trying to think of what to say. We tend to clam up when put on the spot.

- Doesn't feel the same - Possibly he didn't have those kind of feelings for you back then and isn't sure how to respond now.

- Confused - May not understand why you're bringing it up after so long. Throwing him off guard.

- Uninterested - Sadly could be he's just not that into you and has no comment.

Hard to say for certain. I'd maybe give him a bit to process, then try asking what he's thinking so you get some clarity. Silence leaves too much room for assumptions. Communication is key, even if it's awkward. Hope you get some answers!

[casueimperfect]

But if he hadn't loved me at the time, wouldn't he have said that I didn't love you?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's a good point. If he really didn't love you back then, he probably would have just said that instead of going all quiet. Maybe he did have feelings for you back then but didn't realize it or something. Or he's embarrassed now cause he likes you but didn't do anything about it before. Guys can be stupid sometimes! I'd give him another chance to explain himself before totally writing him off. Ask him straight up how he felt back then and how he feels now. Maybe there's still a chance, ya never know. But you deserve someone who isn't gonna leave you hanging like that when you open up to them. Hope you can get some real answers!

[casueimperfect]

Bir arkadaşım bana Onu en iyi ben tanıyorum seni sevmiyordu demisti ama kendisi susarken arkadaşının boyle demesi saçma bence. Belki de arkadaşını onu çok iyi tanıyamıyordur.

[casueimperfect]

İn English:
A friend of his told me, "I know him best, he didn't love you." But I think it's ridiculous for his friend to say that while he remains silent. Maybe his friend doesn't know him very well.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay sis, don't even sweat what his friend is saying. Friend's always think they know best but they weren't the ones in the relationship.

If he really cared about you, he would talk to you himself instead of hiding behind his boy. The fact that he's staying silent is kinda sus if you ask me.

I'd give him one more chance to explain himself directly to you without his friend butting in. Tell him you need to hear how he feels from HIS mouth, not through the rumor mill.

If he's still acting shy and won't open up, then you'll have your answer. A real man owns his shit instead of letting others speak for him.

You don't deserve games and confusion. Stand your ground - make it clear you need clarity or you're done wasting your time. Don't let em play you, girl! You got this.

And don't believe everything you hear from "friends." Real friends want you to be happy, not cause drama. Go straight to the source and get the truth from HIM. You got this!

[spartan55]

It would help to know wth you are talking about.

[Evelyn99]

Only you can know that.