Break Up & Divorce

Is his silence disinterest? And is the silence closure in itself?

doomedforever
Met French guy online. He texted me all through the day, every day, twice or three times if I didn't respond. When we met it was only better. Saw each other once a week until he got too busy in his film job. I suggested 2 wait 4 a better time to date, he said I was overreacting. Talked less to keep distance, he got offended/impatient + would insinuate I was seeing someone + if I didn't respond at all he would prompt me. When it came to spending time together he would say work was too much, he needed time alone + he would prefer me to spend time doing something than sit w him being tired. I took this as a hint not to count on him. His hours increased again, he would text me but he was v moody, eventually told me it's not what he wanted but that it's not a good time to see some1. I said okay, told him to cease contact. We reconnected + contact remained same. I was more affectionate, which scared him. He told me about being busy, that he wasn't jealous + only joking about other guys, that he liked me but didn't have feelings, we hadn't spent time together couldn't say it would be a relationship, that he avoids relationships because he works + his last relationships failed bc he needed alone time, that he was introverted. Coming from the person who initiated everything this seemed like such a disconnect. I told him that it was sad he wasn't excited about it + if we couldn't spend time in person we couldn't be in contact. He returned with apologies after a week, asking if we could continue + that he would try harder to make time + his confusion was bc he wasn't ready for a serious relationship. He asked if I was free every night after. It was obvious when I saw him he was exhausted + I felt bad for second guessing. Same pattern happened, weeks went by without us having time. He insisted he didn't have time + if he did it would b 4 me. We agreed in December to "be" something. Then I heard from him less and less. I got an apology about being sick and now.. nothing.
Is his silence disinterest? And is the silence closure in itself?
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